Post by WinterIsComing on Jul 25, 2014 19:58:37 GMT -5
I was cleaning tonight and realized that STBXH took my engagement and wedding ring out of my nightstand. They had been sitting in the ring boxes in my nightstand so I hadn't looked in a little. He came into the house when I was out of town to get something for the dog so he must have taken it then. I just called him and he admitted to taking it and is refusing to give it back.
What the hell should I do?!?!?! I left a message for my attorney but he is obviously not going to be back into the office till Monday.
Wow, I can't believe he did that. Maybe tell him he leaves you no choice but to call the police and give hi a small window to return the rings before you make that call.
I was trying to decide if I should call that now or wait till I talk to my attorney on Monday.
Since you confronted him and he knows that you know and is refusing to give it back, I'd call the police. Otherwise he could do anything with it between now and Monday. If he talks to the police, that might scare him into giving them back. I'd imagine a police report would be best to have on file when it comes to him stealing your property.
I was trying to decide if I should call that now or wait till I talk to my attorney on Monday.
I think you should call and ask whether they think you should file a report now or wait til Monday.
It's just that if he's willing to steal from you, who knows what else he will try. Better to start the paper trail early. He may not even realize you can call the police, but hey, let him find out the hard way.
I was trying to decide if I should call that now or wait till I talk to my attorney on Monday.
I think you should call and ask whether they think you should file a report now or wait til Monday.
It's just that if he's willing to steal from you, who knows what else he will try. Better to start the paper trail early. He may not even realize you can call the police, but hey, let him find out the hard way.
When I called him to ask him if he took it, he admitted it. After he refused to give them back, I told him I was going to call the cops so he already knows that's an option. He's out of town till Tuesday so I unless he has them with him, I don't know that he could do anything with them before then.
Post by WinterIsComing on Jul 25, 2014 21:07:11 GMT -5
I'll head to Home Depot to get some new locks tonight and call the police non-emergency number first thing tomorrow. I'm not even sure if I can legally change the locks but at this point I really don't care. I don't want him having access.
Post by WinterIsComing on Jul 25, 2014 23:01:26 GMT -5
Welp, there went $250 at Home Depot but at least I'll get them changed this weekend!
The more I think about it, the madder I am getting. To get the rings, he had to have been going through my nightstand. Even I I knew he was in the house to get the dog, that feels like such an invasion of privacy.
Even if you give your keys to a cleaning lady or dog walker/cat sitter, they do not have the right to steal from you. This is theft. Call the police, have it documented including the conversation with him admitting it and refusing to return them.
Change the locks - since he's stolen from you, I doubt a judge would have a hard time with you doing so. (I'm assuming you own together?) File a claim with your insurance company and include the report that identifies him as the thief. Let him deal with the consequences. I wouldn't threaten him, I would follow through and let him deal with what he's done. Do not let him into the home anymore. Don't trust this man ever again. Find another dog sitter. I'm sorry. I would pursue charges, etc... (if I could) and not give him any slack anymore.
I wouldn't even speak with him anymore, honestly. I would work through the police and the attorney only now. I would push hard for charges against him.
I have been trying without luck to see legally how engagement rings are treated in Utah. Since it was a gift to me, I assume that it is my property even if it is in a house we jointly own...I wish attorneys worked on weekends!
Even if you give your keys to a cleaning lady or dog walker/cat sitter, they do not have the right to steal from you. This is theft. Call the police, have it documented including the conversation with him admitting it and refusing to return them.
Change the locks - since he's stolen from you, I doubt a judge would have a hard time with you doing so. (I'm assuming you own together?) File a claim with your insurance company and include the report that identifies him as the thief. Let him deal with the consequences. I wouldn't threaten him, I would follow through and let him deal with what he's done. Do not let him into the home anymore. Don't trust this man ever again. Find another dog sitter. I'm sorry. I would pursue charges, etc... (if I could) and not give him any slack anymore.
I wouldn't even speak with him anymore, honestly. I would work through the police and the attorney only now. I would push hard for charges against him.
I have been trying without luck to see legally how engagement rings are treated in Utah. Since it was a gift to me, I assume that it is my property even if it is in a house we jointly own...I wish attorneys worked on weekends!
Most states consider engagement and wedding rings to be conditional gifts. You fulfilled the condition by marrying him, which makes them 100% yours.
My XH did this as well, although he claims that I just misplaced them. I noticed they were missing and I knew that he took them.
My mom came over that weekend and we tore my bedroom apart looking for then but sidnMt find them. Talked to my attorney and he told me to call the insurance company to file a claim and also to call the police to report them stolen. I told XH that what I was going to do and he said to wait on that and we'd both look for them the next night. I'm thinking why wait a night, why not look right then. Well, because I think he had given them to his mom and had to wait for her to bring them back the next day.
So, the next night we're looking around in the bedroom again and he moves my dresser a bit. Sure enough, there they were. In the exact spot that I had cleaned up dog pee a few days before and the exact spot that my mom looked two nights before.
I think he got nervous when I mentioned the cops so he put them in a place to make it look like I misplaced them.
The rings are yours. He has no right to take them. Call the police and your insurance company and report them stolen.
Post by WinterIsComing on Jul 26, 2014 2:07:25 GMT -5
Well I just talk to a police officer and he acted like my reporting it was such an inconvenience. He told me it wasn't theft but was a civil matter. He could write a report for documentation, but only if I really wanted it. After I said yes, he asked like three questions and then hung up.
I'll talk to the attorney on Monday but I'm afraid I might just have to consider them gone I could get the full value if I traded it into the jewelry store where it was purchased. I was going to buy myself some awesome other diamond jewelry.
What an asshole and how disappointing that the cops blew you off. Even if he had permission, he had no right to go through your drawers. Glad you are changing the locks.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."