Went to urgent care - this toe is not getting any better. The outcome is an oral antibiotic. That's not the issue.
the Dr. there - holy shit
So he says it's an ingrown toenail and I'll have to see what it looks like after the swelling goes down to see if more needs to be done (like removal of the nail).
Of course, since I'm not wearing compression socks now, I'm extremely swollen in my feet and cankels. I've been like this since May.
He asks if I'm having twins....
"no, I'm not"
"and when are you due?"
"October 17th"
He sighs loudly and says "well, that's a loooonnng way to go...and I was looking a the last time you were here in January (I had the flu) and you were 125 lbs."
So, long back-and -forth story short, he's telling me my weight gain from 125 to 173 lbs is "A L O T" (he slowly mouthed those words, you know what I'm talking about, right?). And basically this issue of my toe right now is most likely due to the extra weight/pressure on my feet due to being obviously FAT and swollen.
But his attitude was more accusatory of ME for being this big, even though I assured him I eat as clean as I can and my OB is not concerned and I was told that some people just "gain a lot of weight". He implied that as I gain more weight this trimester other issues might come up. Well duh.
I said "well, I'll have to deal with them as they arise then, right?"
and he gives me this look like "if you say so" and actually says "well, I would be careful"
HOW? How do I be careful? I know that obviously there are negative side effects to being pregnant and being much heavier than normal. But what can I do about it? My body decided to store a ton of weight! I was told by my ob to NOT change my diet and I still work out 3 days a week. I've been on here many times going OMG weight gain and freaked out at my OB about it, so it's not like I'm OK with gaining 45 lbs, but I've been assured time and time again that I'm FINE.
I'm at home now waiting for the pharmacy to call about my meds, and I feel like crying and putting myself on a diet. And H and I went to IHOP before he left and I said "fuck it" and ordered this huge combo meal with eggs, bacon, hash brows and strawberry french toast - which I've been avoiding, but I figured it was out last meal together for a week so I indulged. And now I feel fat and guilty I ate it. I've had body issues my whole life because I was too thin, now I feel too fat and it sucks.
Post by flamingeaux on Jul 26, 2014 17:52:43 GMT -5
That doctor is a dick. Unless, he's an OB, he had little to no business commenting on your weight gain. Secondly, who the fuck is he to judge anything other than what's going on with your toe. He's seen you for like 5 minutes, and your OB has seen you at least once a month.
Don't worry about your weight, especially, since you've kept up exercising. I bet it will come off fairly quickly after the baby's born, and if it doesn't that's okay. You're doing everything you can and should be doing.
If you are still concerned or feeling badly, I would talk it over again with your OB, the next time you have an appointment.
So I have an OB who gave bad advice about my toe and a general P who gives bad advice about my weight. Geeze. I can't wait until I can just see one dr. when I get sick.
Thanks for reassuring me I'm fine, though. It's upsetting that this guy was saying it's my fault this issue happened and that things will continue to happen like this if I'm not "careful".
It was VERY obvious he was putting the onus on me. Fucker. Now I'm off to call my OB to make sure the antibiotic he prescribed is OK, though it is a class B....but who the hell knows.
Guy sounds like a jerk. My sister was your size to start, gained 60lbs and has lost it all +5 more 7 months later.
Don't worry. At least he took care of your foot.
So I Googled "dieting while pregnant" and of course every site was like 'NO DON'T DO IT' unless your Dr said to.
But what I found was a cool chart that gave estimates on how much is "OK" to gain given your start weight.
I started in the underweight category and it listed "35 - 45 lbs" as being OK. It's obviously where you start and not just "how much". Most people I've met who gained a lot started underweight. My hairdresser said she was 99 lbs when she got pregnant and gained 60.
I don't get why any doctor doesn't know this, though.
Ewww....Totally agree with deej...I would do a yelp review...This guy sounds like he is such a cocky asshole he would probably google it that night...He may even have alerts set up for him for any notifications....At least I wouldn't be surprised if he did.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Jul 26, 2014 19:34:01 GMT -5
1. He can fuck right off
2. Ingrowns HURT and your immune response is suppressed during pregnancy. It sucks the pedi led to this. Get in with your ob to review the treatment plan. I worked exclusively w my ob for a bad bronchitis when I was 28 wks
3. YOUR BODY DOES WHAT IT NEEDS TO DO. No dieting. No stressing. Eat as healthy as you can and re-read point 1 above.
I gained 60 lbs with my first and was tremendously swollen. At my two week post op check I had lost 47 of it.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Jul 26, 2014 20:49:12 GMT -5
I've had ingrown surgery on both sides of both big toes twice and both sides of my baby toes once. They hurt and so does the surgery. I did the first surgery when I was six weeks pg. I'd recommend holding off if you can so you can take Advil or even something stronger the first night.
Soak in some Epsom salts too. That helped, and slathering in Neosporin overnight. Hang in there. And seriously don't stress the weight gain. Turn your back to the scale if you have to. I did after I hit the 40# mark. Pregnancy with DD last year was completely different.
I've had ingrown surgery on both sides of both big toes twice and both sides of my baby toes once. They hurt and so does the surgery. I did the first surgery when I was six weeks pg. I'd recommend holding off if you can so you can take Advil or even something stronger the first night.
Soak in some Epsom salts too. That helped, and slathering in Neosporin overnight. Hang in there. And seriously don't stress the weight gain. Turn your back to the scale if you have to. I did after I hit the 40# mark. Pregnancy with DD last year was completely different.
So is surgery always needed for these things? The dr wasn't clear in that. He told me what they do but then said I would have to wait and see what it was like after the infection was gone. He implied that I may not have to do anything further. I left confused but happy to have the antibiotics.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Jul 26, 2014 20:58:44 GMT -5
Oh no, surgery is the exception rather than the norm. I've had chronic ingrowns since I was 8, so literally over 30 yrs. now that DS is here I see his toenail beds are pretty messed up too, so it's just something I/we are destined for.
That Doc is a dick! My mom was tiny and gained like 80lbs with both of her pregnancies. She is a health nut and has always been careful about what she ate. Some people just have bodies that really like to store weight while pregnant! She managed to lose all of her baby weight each time within a year.
ER docs have literally zero right to say anything about your pregnancy. You know how much OB experience he has? A short rotation in med school where all of the medical students are completely clueless.
I know it's hard, but try to ignore everything he said. He has no fucking idea what he's talking about and you're doing everything right - including some yummy ihop with your hubby! Ugh, I'm so upset for you!
Also, make sure you fill out the survey about your visit. My guess is other patients and all of the nurses have complained about him but they need complaints from patients in order to be able to counsel him.
What a jerk! Some things are just beyond your control when pregnant. When I was pregnant with my daughter, my last appointment was with a nurse practitioner who told me I needed to watch my weight. I had gained the recommended amount for my starting weight. I had gained 10 pounds right at the end though. I was so bloated. My legs and feet were incredibly swollen. After listening to her lecture, I pulled up my pant leg and said "Do you think it could be this?" It shut her up pretty fast! You are already small so you are bound to gain more. Don't let his comment get to you!
I started at 120 and gained 70 pounds with my first pregnancy. I lost 60 within 1.5 years (didn't really try until the girls were 9 months and I didn't lose while nursing for 18 months). I stayed 130 for almost 3 years until I got pregnant again. His comments were inappropriate and I really think that when you're underweight you have a tendency to gain more. Your body is protecting and growing the babe the best way it knows how. Don't feel bad. Please. It'll be ok. You know how to eat well and exercise, you'll do it when the baby is born, too, and the weight will come off no problem.
Thank you thank you thank you, everyone, for the kind words. I feel like I should already know these things (and I do) but with my toe feeling like it was being sawed off and his comments being so rude I put myself into a self-pity funk.
I use to roll my eyes at friends who would be so upset at gaining weight while pregnant and think "well, duh! you're carrying a little human around!" and now I know why - it's really hard to have your body change so so so much and while you know it's what will happen, it still becomes hard to accept at times. Especially with assholes who have to essentially "fat shame" you. I've been avoiding the ILs (BIL in particular) because they make comments. The last one was when BIL was over for dinner, I had a cup of chocolate milk (Ovaltine)and he said "should you be having that?" And I was like "What? why?" and he said "Because you're fat. You should be drinking plain skim milk"
So different from the days when I was little when people kept calling me anorexic because I was "too thin". I guess we can't win, hu?
I can't believe your brother in law said that to you! You have had to deal with a lot of incredibly rude comments. Kudos to you for not snapping on your brother in law because that was uncalled for!
I can't believe your brother in law said that to you! You have had to deal with a lot of incredibly rude comments. Kudos to you for not snapping on your brother in law because that was uncalled for!
No, I snapped at him, mainly b/c I'm DONE with my IL's, him and his parents. They are all total assholes.
I said "You have not right, nor is it necessary, to comment on my diet and my weight gain. You're not a medical professional, just some meat-head delusional cross-fit junkie with a severely warped image of the female body."
(most of that last statement coming from his GF complaining to me that he has started to call all 99 lbs of her "fat" because her belly has a little pudge to it - she's turning 30 and is gaining that "normal" belly bump)
So he got all defensive and backpedaled with some LAME excuse of something like it was a joke meaning that the oval in the name implied I was "round" and blah blah blah.
Fucker.
I guess I have more balls when it comes to people who've pushed me over the edge with their comments than with assholes in the medical profession. I'll have to work on that.
Unfortunately, it doesn't do much. I'll often get back "someone's pregnancy hormones are out of control" or something back. Assholes are assholes and nothing will change them.