Is there anything I need to know? I've experienced labor but not a delivery. I don't want to be shocked by anything. I obviously plan on being professional about the whole thing but I feel like I know nothing. What is the general "sense"/mood in the room?
There might be lots of blood. By the end of labor I was soooo out of it and like in another world. Also asking for a Csection haha
If I had my last labor photographed I would have wanted early labor pictures, a few pushing (but not vagina shots), and then a bunch right after (I didn't get to hold her right Away though)
Post by thedahliharpa on Jul 27, 2014 13:32:03 GMT -5
The more people in the room can equate to a longer labor. It was a big deal at the birthing center for their staff to remain lower than the laboring woman unless necessary.
It is very very bloody. My friend has hers photographed and the photographer got some beautiful shots of her and her h, holding hands, her h rubbing her back and of course skin to skin with the newborn shots.
There might be lots of blood. By the end of labor I was soooo out of it and like in another world. Also asking for a Csection haha
If I had my last labor photographed I would have wanted early labor pictures, a few pushing (but not vagina shots), and then a bunch right after (I didn't get to hold her right Away though)
We already agreed on no vagina shots. I'm not comfortable with it and neither is she. I plan on being a fly on the wall. The screaming makes me nervous. It's not her first baby though so she knows what she is in for.
What if I cry? The baby story on TV makes me cry everytime. Everytime.
The best part and worst part? She's a photographer too. So, I feel the pressure to nail this.
First I would find out exactly what angles the mom wants- hopefully she won't want a crowning shot!
For both of my births, the mood changed immediately after the kid was out- no one else in the room existed as soon as I held Holden for the first time. Even DH, who is the most oblivious person in the world, noticed the change.
I think the emotions in a vaginal delivery are all over the place and change very quickly. It can go from annoyance to agony to exhilaration to perfect calm in five minutes.
The more people in the room can equate to a longer labor. It was a big deal at the birthing center for their staff to remain lower than the laboring woman unless necessary.
Interesting and good to know. I will offer to leave if I think I'm making it harder. Her mom will be there and maybe her husband. He moved to Vegas (she's moving too but she's too pregnant to go until baby gets here) so he is flying back for her induction day. If she goes into labor before that he might not be there.
I think it will depend a lot on if it's unmedicated or medicated. My friend is a birth photographer and shot L's birth... I think the main thing is that no two births are the same. Even though she had shot a bunch prior, she wasn't prepared for my post partum hemorrhage. We still talk about how she was certain she was taking pics of me bleeding to death /:
crap, dude. I'm so sorry but I am glad you are okay.
I think the "fly on the wall" strategy is good. I didn't want to deal with anyone but DH for much of labor (though at other times I had really positive and wonderful interactions with the nurses & midwives - as tuck said, the mood can change quickly and often).
For me the moment of meeting Kai was amazing and I'm SO glad DH got a good pic. It's not professional by any means, but just having that moment captured meant a lot to me.
I agree that it's going to be different if it's medicated or un medicated. I'm not a screamer and never made loud noises through either of my labors or deliveries (one being unmedicated). I wouldn't just assume there would be screaming or yelling. Maybe grunting.
Post by orriskitten on Jul 27, 2014 14:53:16 GMT -5
I have one picture I think I treasure more than any that DH took as I was delivering T. My ob told him "grab the camera" and DH got his phone. It was shot from my belly down (you can't see vag but some pubes) and it is Thorinn half way out of me. From the picture it is unclear but he was still in me although his upper body was out. I had no clue about this picture till a few days later. It amazes me every time I see it. I'd be happy to share privately, not sure I'm comfortable posting it for the world to see.
Eta: he is kinda upright, it was literally the second before he was brought to my chest.
I have no idea what was going on, all I know is they let my epi wear off so I could feel everything, and I screamed a lot. My ob was telling me to stop screaming that it was wasting my energy. I wanted to scream at her to stfu lol. I would have liked a pic of when they pulled her out and handed her to me. Or more of the handing her to me than actually pulling her out ya know. Also it took them like 30 minutes to stitch me up afterwards my mom loves to tell that part of the story bc she was stuck on the wrong side of the bed and couldn't get out to tell the rest of the fam that she was there. We don't have any pics from that part bc my h is dumb about taking pics and they had to take her to the nicu for awhile.
Be prepared for the "moment" because there is only one chance to get that shot of the first time mommy and baby meet. Oh gosh this is so cool! I'm sure you will shed a few tears.