Work update

[spunkarella]

I posted about a work issue Friday and have since DD'd.

Here's a small non-update update: I emailed boss first thing this morning and have received no response at all (11:20 now). I said I'm not requesting any action on his part, but I at least expected an acknowledgement or thanks for letting me know. I didn't go into details of what was said, just stayed very general and dispassionate.

I also spoke very calmly with coworker before anyone else arrived, to apologize once again for reacting so harshly. She got very loud and kept blaming me for causing her so much distress. She thinks I was just looking for a reason to be upset with her, because what she said was "not that bad," she can't help how she feels, and I should show more compassion. I'm proud to report that I did not engage with the crazy. I remained calm and went back to my office.

I feel like I'm working in crazy town. My anxiety over the whole thing is still through the roof.

[Deleted]

Oh man, that sucks. It does sound like you're handling it with grace and kindness, which is all you can do. You can't control how other people react.

[Pom]

Oh geez, I hope you get a reasoned response from the boss. I would avoid nutty CWer like the plague. You are wise not to engage.

[aurora]

Is it possible boss would prefer to talk to you in person rather than send an email reply for something like this (and is just waiting for some time to open up in his schedule)?

[spunkarella]

Jul 28, 2014 10:32:59 GMT -5 aurora said:

Is it possible boss would prefer to talk to you in person rather than send an email reply for something like this (and is just waiting for some time to open up in his schedule)?

Doubtful, since he has emailed me about other non-urgent issues. I think he is just avoiding the whole thing but I hope I'm wrong.

[spunkarella]

Jul 28, 2014 10:29:01 GMT -5 Pom said:

Oh geez, I hope you get a reasoned response from the boss. I would avoid nutty CWer like the plague. You are wise not to engage.

I am trying my very best. This coworker and I share a lot of projects, so it's tough. I'm trying to stick to emails and keeping things 10000% task-related.

[aurora]

Jul 28, 2014 10:43:08 GMT -5 spunkarella said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:32:59 GMT -5 aurora said:

Is it possible boss would prefer to talk to you in person rather than send an email reply for something like this (and is just waiting for some time to open up in his schedule)?

Doubtful, since he has emailed me about other non-urgent issues. I think he is just avoiding the whole thing but I hope I'm wrong.

Hmm.

Well, maybe there is some other reason (like he has no idea how to deal with the whole thing and has asked HR for advice?).  In any case, I hope you can get it resolved soon since I imagine it's hard to work efficiently while it's so much on your mind.

[msmerymac]

You let the boss know, and that's all you can (or should, IMO) do now. At least you know he has the email, so it's out of your hands.

[RandZB]

I think you did everything you could. I wouldn't engage her at all in the future except for purely work-related matters.

[spunkarella]

Boss has now been in my office to talk about other things and still hasn't mentioned it. I find that really disappointing.

[spunkarella]

Boss came to me at the end of the day, and we talked after coworker left. I'm happy with his response, and feel much better about the situation. Whew!

Thanks so much for the support and wording suggestions. 

[Deleted]

Great final update!!!!

I hope you feel a sense of relief at least a little. Issues like that at work are so incredibly stressful. You should be proud of how you conducted yourself, a lesser person would have gotten sucked into a vortex of zomg drama and you handled this as gracefully as you could. So, so glad boss came in and addressed with you.

[hopenotlost]

I'm glad everything is better!

[spunkarella]

@shoegal SO much relief! I know it was probably an overreaction, but the anxiety over this was eating me alive. I felt physically ill all day and my mind would.not.quit. with crazy "what if" scenarios. I'm glad to have it out in the open and to be able to move on.