Talk to me about getting your tubes tied

[wysiwyg]

I'm seriously considering it. Has any one had this done here? Was it over pretty quick? Pretty good recovery?

[iamali]

I had a tubal ligiation.

I was put under completely for the procedure, but my understanding is that it takes about 30 minutes.

Recovery was fine. I had the surgery on like a Thursday and I think I went back to work either Monday or Tuesday.

How old are you? If you're under 35 and have no kids the doctor is likely to give you a lot of grief. I was in my early 30's and H and I were DONE have kids and he still asked me many, many times that this was what I wanted (I guess a lot of women have regret?).

[wambam]

My BFF is pursuing it now and she's having a hell of a time finding a doctor that will do it. She is 32 and child free with no desire to ever have children.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

YOU SHOULD DO THAT INSTEAD OF ESSURE.

[wysiwyg]

Well, we don't want kids and frankly, I have so many medical problems that pregnancy would be an absolutely awful idea for me. I'm 23, but have no intention of ever reproducing.

I hope I won't have too horrible of a time. We are also looking into Fi getting a vasectomy, which may be easier. :/

[ijack]

Jul 28, 2014 10:33:30 GMT -5 kooshball said:

I would also get an ablation. No more period! Yay.

unless you're like me. somehow the one person who it didn't work on

[wysiwyg]

Jul 28, 2014 10:34:16 GMT -5 Ohhmm(bligo) said:

YOU SHOULD DO THAT INSTEAD OF ESSURE.

I just read on essure.

Essure sounds awful.

[TheSeaward]

the whole procedure was a piece of cake
iv sedation (valium & demoral) so I was awake but loopy
tiny incision, 2 little pinches and I was back in recovery
when home a few hours later
cleaned the stove and walked to pick up dd from school later that afternoon
the CO2 made my shoulder a little sore the next day

[zoomzoom]

Jul 28, 2014 10:33:30 GMT -5 kooshball said:

I would also get an ablation. No more period! Yay.

This is the route that I went.  My doc insisted that my H be sterile (either naturally or through V) so my H had the V and when he was in the all-clear, I scheduled my ablation.  There are two different patented methods.  One is with a wand and one is with a balloon.  I was scheduled for the wand but apparently my uterus was too small so they couldn't get the wand to fully expand.  I went back a week later and had the balloon method done.  Recovery was smooth but kind of a PIA.  Since you're essentially 'burning' your uterus, there will be some oozing so you'll have to wear a pad or tampon for a couple of weeks.  Since then (3 years ago), I have no period.  In the beginning, I would spot one day a  month but after about a year, nothing.  I have cramps sometimes for one day and then it's over.  I went this direction b/c A) I've never wanted kids and B) it's less invasive and I still have a hormonal cycle, I just don't bleed.  My family doc was entirely against it and said it wouldn't be covered by insurance and was a hospital only procedure.  Well, that idiot was just flat fucking wrong.  If you have heavy bleeding or cramps (and how can they prove that either way anyway), most insurance will cover some/all of it.  It was also done in my OB/GYNs office, not a hospital.  I think my OOP was $300-400 but WELL worth it.  I am SO glad I did it.


ETA: Thermachoice is the balloon method; Novasure is the wand.

[iamali]

Jul 28, 2014 10:37:20 GMT -5 wysiwyg said:

Well, we don't want kids and frankly, I have so many medical problems that pregnancy would be an absolutely awful idea for me. I'm 23, but have no intention of ever reproducing.

I hope I won't have too horrible of a time. We are also looking into Fi getting a vasectomy, which may be easier. :/

Yeah, at 23 you'd probably have a very hard time finding a doctor who would perform the procedure.  They'll probably push an IUD instead.

[zoomzoom]

Jul 28, 2014 10:50:32 GMT -5 iamali said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:37:20 GMT -5 wysiwyg said:

Well, we don't want kids and frankly, I have so many medical problems that pregnancy would be an absolutely awful idea for me. I'm 23, but have no intention of ever reproducing.

I hope I won't have too horrible of a time. We are also looking into Fi getting a vasectomy, which may be easier. :/

Yeah, at 23 you'd probably have a very hard time finding a doctor who would perform the procedure.  They'll probably push an IUD instead.

This pisses me right the fuck off.  Not at you, but the fact that this is probably true.  My body, my decision.  Fucking hell.  When will doc's (and everyone else, for that matter) accept the fact that not every woman on earth WANTS to procreate.  I was in the grocery store yesterday and there was this horribly rude kid whose mother was clueless.  Yeah, I want no part in raising a child.  /rant

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

[wambam]

Jul 28, 2014 10:55:56 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:50:32 GMT -5 iamali said:

Yeah, at 23 you'd probably have a very hard time finding a doctor who would perform the procedure.  They'll probably push an IUD instead.

This pisses me right the fuck off.  Not at you, but the fact that this is probably true.  My body, my decision.  Fucking hell.  When will doc's (and everyone else, for that matter) accept the fact that not every woman on earth WANTS to procreate.  I was in the grocery store yesterday and there was this horribly rude kid whose mother was clueless.  Yeah, I want no part in raising a child.  /rant

Yeah, especially because you have to sign consent forms. What? Do they think you'll be able to come back and sue them in 10 years for doing the procedure?

[iamali]

Jul 28, 2014 10:55:56 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:50:32 GMT -5 iamali said:

Yeah, at 23 you'd probably have a very hard time finding a doctor who would perform the procedure.  They'll probably push an IUD instead.

This pisses me right the fuck off.  Not at you, but the fact that this is probably true.  My body, my decision.  Fucking hell.  When will doc's (and everyone else, for that matter) accept the fact that not every woman on earth WANTS to procreate.  I was in the grocery store yesterday and there was this horribly rude kid whose mother was clueless.  Yeah, I want no part in raising a child.  /rant

I don't disagree with you, but statistically the younger a woman has the procedure, more more regret she feels. Basically, doctors are are covering their butts (I've read several studies on this).

[tigress]

Jul 28, 2014 10:57:45 GMT -5 wambam said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:55:56 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

This pisses me right the fuck off.  Not at you, but the fact that this is probably true.  My body, my decision.  Fucking hell.  When will doc's (and everyone else, for that matter) accept the fact that not every woman on earth WANTS to procreate.  I was in the grocery store yesterday and there was this horribly rude kid whose mother was clueless.  Yeah, I want no part in raising a child.  /rant

Yeah, especially because you have to sign consent forms. What? Do they think you'll be able to come back and sue them in 10 years for doing the procedure?

I'm sure there are people who would figure out a way. 

[zoomzoom]

Jul 28, 2014 11:00:35 GMT -5 iamali said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:55:56 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

This pisses me right the fuck off.  Not at you, but the fact that this is probably true.  My body, my decision.  Fucking hell.  When will doc's (and everyone else, for that matter) accept the fact that not every woman on earth WANTS to procreate.  I was in the grocery store yesterday and there was this horribly rude kid whose mother was clueless.  Yeah, I want no part in raising a child.  /rant

I don't disagree with you, but statistically the younger a woman has the procedure, more more regret she feels. Basically, doctors are are covering their butts (I've read several studies on this).

My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner (I was 38 at the time).  I mean, I get what you're saying but even the OP says that she would have complicated pregnancy if she were to get pregnant.  I've known since my early 20's that I didn't want kids.  The ablation wasn't available back then but if it were, I would have found someone to do it. And it's also why I don't go to my GP anymore.  How the fuck is she not aware that there aren't just one, but TWO patented in-office procedures for this?  I think she was lying to manipulate me into not getting the procedure done.

[screwedup]

Jul 28, 2014 10:46:31 GMT -5 wysiwyg said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:34:16 GMT -5 Ohhmm(bligo) said:

YOU SHOULD DO THAT INSTEAD OF ESSURE.

I just read on essure.

Essure sounds awful.

I know Ombigest had the worst experience ever.  I will say I had Essure about a year ago.  I've been nothing but pleased.  I was 36 when I had it done (no kids).  I didn't have to even ask twice but my GYN knows I've been adamant about no kids forever.  The insertion was not a breeze (AT ALL) but after it was over, I've had not a single issue.

[wysiwyg]

Jul 28, 2014 10:57:45 GMT -5 wambam said:

Jul 28, 2014 10:55:56 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

This pisses me right the fuck off.  Not at you, but the fact that this is probably true.  My body, my decision.  Fucking hell.  When will doc's (and everyone else, for that matter) accept the fact that not every woman on earth WANTS to procreate.  I was in the grocery store yesterday and there was this horribly rude kid whose mother was clueless.  Yeah, I want no part in raising a child.  /rant

Yeah, especially because you have to sign consent forms. What? Do they think you'll be able to come back and sue them in 10 years for doing the procedure?

Frankly, I don't know what I would do other than spell it out for them in giant, neon letters that having a kid is just not something I want to do.

I hate that I may have my doctor push back on a procedure. How shitty!

[wysiwyg]

Jul 28, 2014 11:10:54 GMT -5 mofongo said:

There are many other, non surgical forms of BC.

I know this.

I don't want any more children than the one I have. The end.

[zoomzoom]

Oh, and FTR, the vasectomy is easy-peasy. My H did it on a Friday, it took hardly any time and after spending the weekend relaxing with some frozen peas on his nuts, he was back to work on Monday. Ironically enough, doctor's don't ZOMG NO YOU CAN"T DO THAT when it comes to men and V's.

[CrazyLucky]

I had my tubes tied. I wouldn't recommend it, especially if you don't do ablation (which I didn't). My periods are much worse then they ever were. Painful, heavy, just awful. If your DH is willing to get a vasectomy, that's the way to go.

[wysiwyg]

Jul 28, 2014 11:29:35 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Jul 28, 2014 11:15:32 GMT -5 wysiwyg said:

Frankly, I don't know what I would do other than spell it out for them in giant, neon letters that having a kid is just not something I want to do.

I hate that I may have my doctor push back on a procedure. How shitty!

Don't you have to sign consent forms for any type of surgery though?  I don't think the signing of forms in this particular case is strange or sinister.

Oh, I absolutely understand the consent forms. I just think if my doctor does push back hard, trying to convince me to not do it, I think that is a bit crappy.

[joenali]

Is it easier to reverse a vasectomy than a tubal? Just have your h get a vasectomy.

That seems much easier.

[zoomzoom]

Jul 28, 2014 11:32:48 GMT -5 joenali said:

Is it easier to reverse a vasectomy than a tubal? Just have your h get a vasectomy.

That seems much easier.

Yes.

[shopgirl07]

I don't think doctors will perform the procedure on anyone under 25.

The child is your stepson right? Look, at 23, it's really hard to be CERTAIN of anything. I really don't think it's a very good idea at this point.

[wambam]

Jul 28, 2014 11:34:59 GMT -5 shopgirl07 said:

I don't think doctors will perform the procedure on anyone under 25.

The child is your stepson right? Look, at 23, it's really hard to be CERTAIN of anything. I really don't think it's a very good idea at this point.

What age would you deem someone able to be certain about anything?

[zoomzoom]

Jul 28, 2014 11:38:51 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

::Tamb's bush gif::

Que?

[joenali]

Jul 28, 2014 11:37:43 GMT -5 wambam said:

Jul 28, 2014 11:34:59 GMT -5 shopgirl07 said:

I don't think doctors will perform the procedure on anyone under 25.

The child is your stepson right? Look, at 23, it's really hard to be CERTAIN of anything. I really don't think it's a very good idea at this point.

What age would you deem someone able to be certain about anything?

A lot can change between 23 and say 40. Shit, I had no desire to have children at 23. But at 23 you don't realize that things can change. There are other less permanent options.

[wambam]

Jul 28, 2014 11:41:08 GMT -5 joenali said:

Jul 28, 2014 11:37:43 GMT -5 wambam said:

What age would you deem someone able to be certain about anything?

A lot can change between 23 and say 40. Shit, I had no desire to have children at 23. But at 23 you don't realize that things can change. There are other less permanent options.

A lot can change between 40 and menopause, so maybe no woman ever should be granted a permanent birth control option.

[shopgirl07]

Jul 28, 2014 11:37:43 GMT -5 wambam said:

Jul 28, 2014 11:34:59 GMT -5 shopgirl07 said:

I don't think doctors will perform the procedure on anyone under 25.

The child is your stepson right? Look, at 23, it's really hard to be CERTAIN of anything. I really don't think it's a very good idea at this point.

What age would you deem someone able to be certain about anything?

Well, your brain isn't even fully developed until you're 25. And the kids/no kids decision is a huge one. There's really no going back once you make that decision.

At 23, most people are finishing college, starting their careers. Kids can seem very distant. I just wouldn't make any irreversible decisions at that age.