Hey guys! I just discovered this board. H&G is my usual board but I've been venturing out lately. Thought I'd introduce myself.
Even though my status says I'm new, I really just read more than I post. I've been a knottie/nestie since 2003, mostly on the home boards. I got married in 2004 and we separated in fall of 2012. Divorce was final summer of 2013.
After we separated, I had the inevitable rebound...with a coworker (which I do not recommend). That ended painfully when he left me for his ex. After that I reconnected with the love of my life. We've been in love from afar for 18 years. Thirteen years ago he told me he was in love with me but I was young and dumb and married XH instead. When we reconnected, we were both going through divorces, but we were finally together, and all was right with the world. But his son couldn't handle his parents' separation, and he felt too much guilt for leaving, so he went back to her and broke my heart. They are currently miserable together.
I waited a year for him to come to his senses, but it became too painful and I had to move on for my sanity. So now I'm 34 and back in the dating game. Not where I thought I'd be at this age.
Hello and welcome!! I'm sorry you are here but it sounds like you are in a good space right now. I have a similar history with the board - I'm also technically new but lurked forever and was an active member on the nest/knot/bump for years.
Post by WinterIsComing on Jul 28, 2014 15:03:11 GMT -5
Hello! I'm definitely not where I thought I would be at my age (31) either but am starting to realize my new reality is not so bad It sounds like you are doing well and in a good place.
Totally. And while part of me wants to be positive and jump on the "it gets better" bandwagon, the other part of me is a realist. It's all a process. I feel like my subsequent relationships have all been affected by the divorce. And while my marriage is old news and I've made a lot of progress in that area, moving on is definitely a process. There's the divorce hole initially, and then the peaks and valleys of life once you get back on your feet. I'm happy for this forum.