Did you live with your spouse before marriage?

[iammalcolmx]

Yes but I had a ring on my finger. I wasn't moving in without that. Want me to wash your clothes? I need a diamond.

[irishbride2]

I did not. Logistically it was not feasible. He was abroad and moving in with him before marriage would have been a visa nightmare.

But I'm not opposed. I personally would not do it pre engagement though. To me, moving in together is a huge commitment and I don't want to go through all of that if we are not engaged.

[pixy0stix]

Jul 28, 2014 20:23:07 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Yes but I had a ring on my finger. I wasn't moving in without that. Want me to wash your clothes? I need a diamond.

This. We were engaged. We lived together 2ish months before getting married.

[josieposy]

Due to a shitty prior relationship, we didn't live together until I had a ring on my finger. We bought the house about 8 months before the wedding.

[teflepi]

Yes. It is also frowned upon in my family (Catholics---we lived in sin), but we were adults, were committed, etc. We did not get engaged until about 2 years later. We were young, though, 24 and 26, so it worked for us. We did keep all $$ separate, though.

[rootbeerfloat]

Yes, even before we were engaged.

[lulu13]

Nope. His family has firm feelings on the issue. We've been married 12.5 years and it's all good.

[starburst604]

Yes, I moved in with H knowing that we would get engaged soon. I also shacked up with 2 exes, one of whom I got engaged to after moving in. We never got married though.

[Velar Fricative]

Yes, we didn't get engaged until about 2.5 years later.

It's extremely frowned upon in my family too but whatevs. I do what I want!

[ESF]

Yes. We were not engaged. Five months after we started dating, there was a series of shootings and violent crimes in my neighborhood. I had just started law school, and the hour long public transportation commute from school to my crime-ridden apartment at 10 at night was not so appealing. Plus H had a Tivo and could cook.

I'm a hussy.

[iammalcolmx]

Also group no shade on anyone who did it different than I. It's just the washing the clothes thing was something my Grandma taught me, LOL

[thejackpot]

Yes. I did and we were not engaged either. It was all very backwards and we did not do a lot of talking about what exactly we were doing. Luckily it worked out but there was a lot of frowning by my folks.

[stephm0188]

We weren't engaged yet when I moved in. I was at the end of my lease and had to make a decision whether or not to renew it or move. I was going to renew the lease, he wanted me to move in. I banked whatever I would have put toward rent just in case things didn't work out, and it wound up being a tidy sum for our wedding later that year. Not a big deal to me.

[heyjude]

Lived together 4 years before getting married/engaged!

[thejackpot]

Jul 28, 2014 20:30:55 GMT -5 iammalcolmx said:

Also group no shade on anyone who did it different than I. It's just the washing the clothes thing was something my Grandma taught me, LOL

Haha, I barely wash clothes and I have the ring  

[redheadbaker]

We're doing everything ass-backwards.

Moved in together, had a baby, then got engaged.

[ttt]

We had talked about marriage but weren't officially engaged yet. We did get officially engaged a few months after moving in, though.

[ChillyMcFreeze]

No, but I was fresh out of college, and he lived in a different town from my grad school. I'm not opposed, but I think it's prudent to be engaged or at least really close to it.

[Deleted]

Yes, we lived together. Our dads didn't like it, but I gave 0 shits.

[epphd]

Yes. Lived together before engagement. We'd been together about 2 years, and we had another roommate. Got engaged about a year later.

[Deleted]

Yes, pretty much got knocked up before we got married. We lived together officially for just under a month before our wedding.

[starlily]

No. I owned my place and H rented his, so it only would've made sense if he moved in with me. But that would create a gnarly commute for him, which he wanted to put off as long as possible. I wasn't offended; I liked having my own space.

[hopecounts]

No. Both our families would have been upset if we did.
I lived with my folks for a few months and finished planning the wedding and we commuted back and forth.

[EloiseWeenie]

No, we saved pretty much everything for marriage.

[IIOY]

No. I had a fabulous condo in the city and he worked and lived in the icky burbs. Hell, I almost didn't want to live with him *after* we were married.

[mbcdefg]

I moved in with him a few months after we got engaged.

[cosmos]

Yes, as did almost all of my friends. I know far less people who didn't.

[zelda25]

I think we were engaged when we got a place together (can't remember the timeline precisely now). I know we were together for three years and engaged for two before we got married; not because we were hesitant to get married, but because we couldn't be bothered to plan a wedding.

[pt716]

We lived together for 5 months after we were engaged, then I moved to a different state and we lived separately again for two months before the wedding.

[orangeblossom]

Briefly. I was doing a rotation for a training program, and was rotating in the city, to hopefully be able to transfer to an office there. I could have opted to stay at a corporate apt or residence inn type place, but opted not to for multiple reasons though.

We did buy a house together, whole we were engaged. I wouldn't do that again though.