How much is my SIL going to hate me?

[tacocat]

I got an invitation for my SIL's baby shower about 2 weeks ago. I assumed I would go but just realized we booked a vacation (a month ago) for the same day...

Am I a horrible SIL if I go for like 30 minutes or not at all? I feel horrible and am so excited for her, but we planned this ages ago.

It is a road trip, so no strict time but I really want to see my nieces before school starts again and it is probably my only chance. I could push leaving until 30 minutes into the shower but the plans were to leave early in the am.


So what say you SN? Am I awful if I don't go? If it was vital I was there she would have told me more than a month out, right?

[mrslefty]

I think you're fine to not go at all. If you're worried she might be upset or hurt you could offer to take her to lunch to make up for it.

[mrsrumfkin]

I echo mrslefty and would just say Oh no! We already planned a trip, so let's do something special 1:1 since I won't be able to make it.

[marina007]

Agree. Call her, apologize about double booking and invite her to lunch or coffee on a specific date. These things happen and unless she's very difficult, this should be no big deal. Also, better all around to just skip it than stay for 30 mins. Have a fun trip!

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Jul 29, 2014 1:03:25 GMT -5 mrsrumfkin said:

I echo mrslefty and would just say Oh no! We already planned a trip, so let's do something special 1:1 since I won't be able to make it.

Provided your SIL isn't some crazy, banshee, she devil I would say that the above is perfect. 

[mrsrumfkin]

Jul 29, 2014 4:18:21 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Jul 29, 2014 1:03:25 GMT -5 mrsrumfkin said:

I echo mrslefty and would just say Oh no! We already planned a trip, so let's do something special 1:1 since I won't be able to make it.

Provided your SIL isn't some crazy, banshee, she devil I would say that the above is perfect. 

I've heard from pretty crazy SIL stories... I'm SO happy I don't have to deal with that ish! I gained mellow brothers

[llh0211]

I'd do as other's have suggested. Call, tell her you can't make it, and plan a one on one time to get together to celebrate or whatever. The first 30 minutes of a shower tend to just be mingle time, so I don't know that it's really worth it to postpone your trip for just 30 minutes.

[tacocat]

Thank you guys! I will shoot her a text today. I feel badly but I need some relaxing time with my H too

[shevacc]

I agree with what the others said too about getting together with her separately. If you were thinking of getting her a shower present, you can always send one to her or have another relative bring it with them to the shower so she'd know you were thinking of her that way too.