Today can go fuck itself! I was wide awake shortly before 4, alarm was set for 4:50 so that I could work out. So, I get out of bed when the alarm goes off. I get dressed, grab some water and head into the living room to get my Zumba on, nothing! The Wii wouldn't turn on!!!!!! So, after fighting with it for awhile and looking on line as to how to fix it(unplug everything and let it reset itself) it is too late for me to actually do anything since H's alarm would be going off shortly.
So, I will be going to the gym after work as planned, but sadly will be going over my calories by a lot more then I was expecting. FML!
Edit: I should also mention there was the sitting on the sofa crying because of this. Thank you PMS for jacking my hormones!
((((cuddlyevil)))) You can have that kind of marriage. Maybe not with the same number of years attached to it, but the potential for that kind of relationship is out there for you.
I woke up a bit lazy today and missed my 6am yoga class. I'm going to take off from work a bit early and hit the 6pm class. Then I am going to loose all the goodness I did in my class by going to 2 dollar taco night with my friends. The tacos are so very good.
Today is my parent's 42nd wedding anniversary. It makes me happy and sad, happy for them but sad for me because I wanted that kind of a marriage.
What kind is that? The kind that lasts 42 years? I mean - our parent's generation was completely different and I have been thinking about this a lot lately. My parents have been married for 42 years as well, but I would not have wanted their marriage. Just because they've been together 42 years doesn't mean it was quality time. I don't know if this is what you are thinking of or not, but it's what I have been thinking of when I feel like a failure.
Today is my parent's 42nd wedding anniversary. It makes me happy and sad, happy for them but sad for me because I wanted that kind of a marriage.
What kind is that? The kind that lasts 42 years? I mean - our parent's generation was completely different and I have been thinking about this a lot lately. My parents have been married for 42 years as well, but I would not have wanted their marriage. Just because they've been together 42 years doesn't mean it was quality time. I don't know if this is what you are thinking of or not, but it's what I have been thinking of when I feel like a failure.
The kind of connection, partnership that they have. They compliment each other perfectly and are still as in love today as they were 42 years ago. I'm not saying it was always easy for them, but they love and respect each other enough to figure out a way through together. That's the kind of marriage I wanted--and still want, a true partnership built out of mutual love, trust, and respect. I really don't think that is asking for too much or for something that our generation can't aspire to have.
What kind is that? The kind that lasts 42 years? I mean - our parent's generation was completely different and I have been thinking about this a lot lately. My parents have been married for 42 years as well, but I would not have wanted their marriage. Just because they've been together 42 years doesn't mean it was quality time. I don't know if this is what you are thinking of or not, but it's what I have been thinking of when I feel like a failure.
The kind of connection, partnership that they have. They compliment each other perfectly and are still as in love today as they were 42 years ago. I'm not saying it was always easy for them, but they love and respect each other enough to figure out a way through together. That's the kind of marriage I wanted--and still want, a true partnership built out of mutual love, trust, and respect. I really don't think that is asking for too much or for something that our generation can't aspire to have.
No it's not, you can find that! It's what you (and all of us) deserve.
What kind is that? The kind that lasts 42 years? I mean - our parent's generation was completely different and I have been thinking about this a lot lately. My parents have been married for 42 years as well, but I would not have wanted their marriage. Just because they've been together 42 years doesn't mean it was quality time. I don't know if this is what you are thinking of or not, but it's what I have been thinking of when I feel like a failure.
The kind of connection, partnership that they have. They compliment each other perfectly and are still as in love today as they were 42 years ago. I'm not saying it was always easy for them, but they love and respect each other enough to figure out a way through together. That's the kind of marriage I wanted--and still want, a true partnership built out of mutual love, trust, and respect. I really don't think that is asking for too much or for something that our generation can't aspire to have.
My parents just had their 40th anniversary on Sunday. They have an amazing relationship too. I believe there is still hope, but it made me a little sad too.
I woke up a bit lazy today and missed my 6am yoga class. I'm going to take off from work a bit early and hit the 6pm class. Then I am going to loose all the goodness I did in my class by going to 2 dollar taco night with my friends. The tacos are so very good.
Get out of my head! I am having tacos for dinner tonight too! Not $2.00 tacos, but stopping for tacos on my way home.
What kind is that? The kind that lasts 42 years? I mean - our parent's generation was completely different and I have been thinking about this a lot lately. My parents have been married for 42 years as well, but I would not have wanted their marriage. Just because they've been together 42 years doesn't mean it was quality time. I don't know if this is what you are thinking of or not, but it's what I have been thinking of when I feel like a failure.
The kind of connection, partnership that they have. They compliment each other perfectly and are still as in love today as they were 42 years ago. I'm not saying it was always easy for them, but they love and respect each other enough to figure out a way through together. That's the kind of marriage I wanted--and still want, a true partnership built out of mutual love, trust, and respect. I really don't think that is asking for too much or for something that our generation can't aspire to have.
I don't think that is what Dog meant. A LOT of couples from our parents generation were married for a many many years, and a lot of them weren't happy ones. They stayed for many reasons and a lot of the times it wasn't out of joy and love.
My parents were married 47 years when my mom died, and they had a good marriage, I was lucky for that, but I saw/see so many women who did just stay because they had to. Actually I know a lot of women still do. They stay with shitty men and shitty fathers because they are too scared to leave. They complain, they cry, they talk, they are so unhappy, yet they are still there.
Many years together does not = happy successful marriage
I do think we can aspire to have happy marriages but I don't think comparing them to past generations is a good baseline.
Last night I told sunglasses that I'm never going to be someone who doesn't eat pasta and carbs, who just eats tons of veggies. He thinks pasta is terrible for you and you can't be healthy eating it because it has no nutritional value, so I know he wasn't happy. Oh well.
What kind is that? The kind that lasts 42 years? I mean - our parent's generation was completely different and I have been thinking about this a lot lately. My parents have been married for 42 years as well, but I would not have wanted their marriage. Just because they've been together 42 years doesn't mean it was quality time. I don't know if this is what you are thinking of or not, but it's what I have been thinking of when I feel like a failure.
The kind of connection, partnership that they have. They compliment each other perfectly and are still as in love today as they were 42 years ago. I'm not saying it was always easy for them, but they love and respect each other enough to figure out a way through together. That's the kind of marriage I wanted--and still want, a true partnership built out of mutual love, trust, and respect. I really don't think that is asking for too much or for something that our generation can't aspire to have.
This is the kind of marriage my grandparents had. I know they had their issues and fought, but up until they day they died, you could see the love and respect they had for each other. They would hold hands in public and flirt with each other. My parents on the other hand, not even close. They are still married because it is just easier that way for them. I don't think either of them is happy being with the other. I think they still care about each other, but I am not sure.
So when it comes to a marital role model, it is my grandparents.
mags, I know what she meant but that's not what I meant. I am referring to the kind of connection they have--they would still have it even if they had just met and married 10 years ago.
And yes, I know lots of people have stayed together "for the kids", "because it's easier", or "you just don't get divorced". But I don't think that is limited to a specific generation either. God knows we've seen enough people come through here that "don't believe in divorce".
mags, I know what she meant but that's not what I meant. I am referring to the kind of connection they have--they would still have it even if they had just met and married 10 years ago.
And yes, I know lots of people have stayed together "for the kids", "because it's easier", or "you just don't get divorced". But I don't think that is limited to a specific generation either. God knows we've seen enough people come through here that "don't believe in divorce".
No, it isn't, but the statistics prove the past generations definitely had less divorce for the reasons you listed above.
So I have this FB friend who is a bit obsessive about things. About every 6 months she finds something new that she is into and that then consumes her entire life.
Well she recently found God. (No harm there, it is just kind of strange how over the top she is with her posts about it.) SO yesterday she posted on FB that she will no longer eat in the morning any food until she spends atleast 30 minutes reading "his words". She went on to say that if that means she does not get around to reading "his words" untill 5PM then so be it, she just cannot eat anything until 5PM.
Last night I told sunglasses that I'm never going to be someone who doesn't eat pasta and carbs, who just eats tons of veggies. He thinks pasta is terrible for you and you can't be healthy eating it because it has no nutritional value, so I know he wasn't happy. Oh well.
I don't know any of the background on this, but it kind of rubs me the wrong way that he's basically shaming you for what you eat. Pasta isn't poison (thank god).
Last night I told sunglasses that I'm never going to be someone who doesn't eat pasta and carbs, who just eats tons of veggies. He thinks pasta is terrible for you and you can't be healthy eating it because it has no nutritional value, so I know he wasn't happy. Oh well.
I don't know any of the background on this, but it kind of rubs me the wrong way that he's basically shaming you for what you eat. Pasta isn't poison (thank god).
Why would he openly judge you for what you eat on occasion (unless you two were kidding around and it was your style of banter or something)? That's weird.
Last night I told sunglasses that I'm never going to be someone who doesn't eat pasta and carbs, who just eats tons of veggies. He thinks pasta is terrible for you and you can't be healthy eating it because it has no nutritional value, so I know he wasn't happy. Oh well.
He's gotten on you about this before, yes? I forget, does he have a reason for hating pasta/carbs?
mags, I know what she meant but that's not what I meant. I am referring to the kind of connection they have--they would still have it even if they had just met and married 10 years ago.
And yes, I know lots of people have stayed together "for the kids", "because it's easier", or "you just don't get divorced". But I don't think that is limited to a specific generation either. God knows we've seen enough people come through here that "don't believe in divorce".
No, it isn't, but the statistics prove the past generations definitely had less divorce for the reasons you listed above.
I agree. I think my parents are an example of people who are still married but really shouldn't be. They got married super young and way too quickly. They are complete opposites and clash over EVERYTHING. They would be way happier on their own but for some reason neither will ever pull the trigger and leave. I didn't realize how bad their marriage was/is until now that I know what one should be. I don't think they even really like each other to be honest.
Post by turtle1120 on Jul 29, 2014 12:01:41 GMT -5
We just had a horrible team meeting. The paralegals on my team have been having so many struggles and we finally laid it all on the line for the attorneys we work with/for. But there is one attorney on our team who thinks she has the solution for everything and she wasn't even letting one of my colleagues get a word in. I told her to please let my CW talk. She got so pissy that she almost got up and walked out. It was uncomfortable but whatever. I couldn't take another minute of her cutting everyone off and not letting other people speak. And apparently everyone else felt the same way because people are high fiving me for it.
I need a drink. Preferably a very large and strong drink.