I agree. I think my parents are an example of people who are still married but really shouldn't be. They got married super young and way too quickly. They are complete opposites and clash over EVERYTHING. They would be way happier on their own but for some reason neither will ever pull the trigger and leave. I didn't realize how bad their marriage was/is until now that I know what one should be. I don't think they even really like each other to be honest.
My stbxil's are like this. She cheated on her first H with sfil, they were in lurve and dated then got married a year or two after the divorce. They are still together, but he's cheated on her a couple times (their last two moves are rumored to have coincided with his more recent inappropriate relationships) and he grouses at her about pretty much everything. They pretend to be happy, but are just sort of waiting for the other to become so frail they need to go into a home or die. It's really sad because they are decent people, but just in the "we're too old to divorce" mindframe.
Last night I told sunglasses that I'm never going to be someone who doesn't eat pasta and carbs, who just eats tons of veggies. He thinks pasta is terrible for you and you can't be healthy eating it because it has no nutritional value, so I know he wasn't happy. Oh well.
I don't know any of the background on this, but it kind of rubs me the wrong way that he's basically shaming you for what you eat. Pasta isn't poison (thank god).
ITA.
DTMFA, seriously. Also pasta does have some nutritional value and it's not the worst thing in the world to eat carbs.
Post by captainmel on Jul 29, 2014 12:22:32 GMT -5
I need to go to the hair store to get stuff for my new hair. My hair is so scary right now I don't want to leave the house. I need a bag. (This is probably an over dramatization.)
Yesterday on my way home from my parents I had to pull over on the side of the freeway and put my top up.
Post by starrieskies on Jul 29, 2014 12:26:11 GMT -5
I wore a dress to work today and I have had 4 people ask me if I have a date. Umm.. no. I just felt like looking like a girl.
Also, I have gained a little weight since the last time I wore this dress. It's not as comfortable as it used to be. I really need to do something about this.
I don't know any of the background on this, but it kind of rubs me the wrong way that he's basically shaming you for what you eat. Pasta isn't poison (thank god).
Why would he openly judge you for what you eat on occasion (unless you two were kidding around and it was your style of banter or something)? That's weird.
I thought it was banter before when he called pasta nasty, but last night let me know it wasn't.
Really, I need to just pick a time to break up with him and do it. I haven't broken up with anyone in 18 years! I'm out of practice. I know I'll get past my anxiety and do it.
I wore a dress to work today and I have had 4 people ask me if I have a date. Umm.. no. I just felt like looking like a girl.
Also, I have gained a little weight since the last time I wore this dress. It's not as comfortable as it used to be. I really need to do something about this.
I get this too! Every time I wear a dress someone says "You're all dressed up today. What for?" or "You look really nice today *pause* Not that you don't look nice all the time but today you're more dressy than usual--what gives?".
My response has become "I just wanted to be pretty today." and their response is usually "Oh".
I would like a drink...and a strong one at that. Friday cannot come fast enough.
+1.
And? I was thisclose to going and getting a DQ blizzard. And then I remembered that we are having cheese and crackers and a cake for a going away party tomorrow. I'm trying so hard to eat better
Why would he openly judge you for what you eat on occasion (unless you two were kidding around and it was your style of banter or something)? That's weird.
I thought it was banter before when he called pasta nasty, but last night let me know it wasn't.
Really, I need to just pick a time to break up with him and do it. I haven't broken up with anyone in 18 years! I'm out of practice. I know I'll get past my anxiety and do it.
FFS, no one food is the devil.
Sorry, I am cranky today. Because I'm PMS'ing and I want all the food.
I spent last weekend sitting in dozens of saddles, only to have the store owner sigh and tell me I need to either buy a cross-country saddle (which have more forward flaps so you can ride in shorter stirrups, but they are hated in the hunter-jumper ring) or get a custom ($$$$) saddle in order to fit my unusually long thigh bone. My knee goes over the flap in most saddles.
I cheat on GBCN on a horse forum, and a couple tall riders pointed me to Smith Worthington saddles. Who happen to have this one, which is just the sort of un-fussy saddle I like, at 70% off
I wore a dress to work today and I have had 4 people ask me if I have a date. Umm.. no. I just felt like looking like a girl.
Also, I have gained a little weight since the last time I wore this dress. It's not as comfortable as it used to be. I really need to do something about this.
I get this too! Every time I wear a dress someone says "You're all dressed up today. What for?" or "You look really nice today *pause* Not that you don't look nice all the time but today you're more dressy than usual--what gives?".
My response has become "I just wanted to be pretty today." and their response is usually "Oh".
It's annoying.
It's not so much the simple "you look nice today" stuff, but these guys have literally asked me if I have a date. It's kind of depressing because my date calendar is completely empty with the exception of a second date that I'm kind of meh about on Sunday. My guys at work apparently have more faith in my mad dating skills than I do.
I did however have a date with a mini banana cream pie blizzard last night and that was fantastic.
I spent last weekend sitting in dozens of saddles, only to have the store owner sigh and tell me I need to either buy a cross-country saddle (which have more forward flaps so you can ride in shorter stirrups, but they are hated in the hunter-jumper ring) or get a custom ($$$$) saddle in order to fit my unusually long thigh bone. My knee goes over the flap in most saddles.
I cheat on GBCN on a horse forum, and a couple tall riders pointed me to Smith Worthington saddles. Who happen to have this one, which is just the sort of un-fussy saddle I like, at 70% off
I get this too! Every time I wear a dress someone says "You're all dressed up today. What for?" or "You look really nice today *pause* Not that you don't look nice all the time but today you're more dressy than usual--what gives?".
My response has become "I just wanted to be pretty today." and their response is usually "Oh".
It's annoying.
It's not so much the simple "you look nice today" stuff, but these guys have literally asked me if I have a date. It's kind of depressing because my date calendar is completely empty with the exception of a second date that I'm kind of meh about on Sunday. My guys at work apparently have more faith in my mad dating skills than I do.
I did however have a date with a mini banana cream pie blizzard last night and that was fantastic.
Now I know why I just ride the lesson saddles. Lol.
Nice purchase, though!
I know. I had planned to buy a gently used saddle and wanted to spend about $800, but clearly that would have been a long search through consignment shops to find something to fit me. This is close enough, although I hate being the one to break in the seat of a new saddle.
For an extra $150, I would have gone this route as well.
And our saddles, like our horses, are well broken in. Lol. One day P came with me to a lesson and there was this BEAUTIFUL Arabian. P was all "why don't you ride horses that look like that?" I laughed and said that it wasn't a lesson horse but rather someone was boarding it there.
It's not so much the simple "you look nice today" stuff, but these guys have literally asked me if I have a date. It's kind of depressing because my date calendar is completely empty with the exception of a second date that I'm kind of meh about on Sunday. My guys at work apparently have more faith in my mad dating skills than I do.
I did however have a date with a mini banana cream pie blizzard last night and that was fantastic.
It's not so much the simple "you look nice today" stuff, but these guys have literally asked me if I have a date. It's kind of depressing because my date calendar is completely empty with the exception of a second date that I'm kind of meh about on Sunday. My guys at work apparently have more faith in my mad dating skills than I do.
I did however have a date with a mini banana cream pie blizzard last night and that was fantastic.
Yeah, not everyone around here is that nosy. They'd rather gossip about it than ask the person directly.
I'm so glad there aren't any DQ's near me because I would eat the crap out of that blizzard.
Why would he openly judge you for what you eat on occasion (unless you two were kidding around and it was your style of banter or something)? That's weird.
I thought it was banter before when he called pasta nasty, but last night let me know it wasn't.
Really, I need to just pick a time to break up with him and do it. I haven't broken up with anyone in 18 years! I'm out of practice. I know I'll get past my anxiety and do it.
I say do it while shoveling tasty pasta in your face!!
I thought it was banter before when he called pasta nasty, but last night let me know it wasn't.
Really, I need to just pick a time to break up with him and do it. I haven't broken up with anyone in 18 years! I'm out of practice. I know I'll get past my anxiety and do it.
I say do it while shoveling tasty pasta in your face!!
+1.
tiramisu...invite him over for dinner. Only make pasta. And white pasta at that. lol.
I got my hair cut today, and it feels fantastic! H went with me (he needed a cut too), but he finished first so he left to walk around the mall. When I got out, he was waiting for me at Macy's. He'd gotten a perfume clerk to help him pick out two perfumes that he thought I might like. They both smelled amazing but there was one I definitely liked better than the other. I got to spritz my wrist with a sample, and the saleslady wrote the name down for my H for future reference.
What makes me feel so special about this is that I said something weeks ago about how I really like smelling nice (it's a new realization; I was a tomboy growing up and I'm only just now discovering various likes/dislikes). I'll wear eau de toilette almost daily now, but rarely wear perfume. He thought all on his own to go to the perfume department and find something I would like. I feel so special and pretty and giddy...GAH!
Cannot make this up. Apparently they are having manufacturing errors so they won't get any in until October. She started crying and saying "what about my hair?!?" And "I have an appointment tonight!!!" I died laughing.
I wore a dress to work today and I have had 4 people ask me if I have a date. Umm.. no. I just felt like looking like a girl.
Also, I have gained a little weight since the last time I wore this dress. It's not as comfortable as it used to be. I really need to do something about this.
Tell them you have an interview. And take a long lunch.
I'm thinking about going to the gym but then stopping by DQ for a blizzard after. Someone please tell me this isn't asinine.
This would be my plan if I wasnt so lazy to drive to DQ which is the complete opposite direction from my gym. I think its reasonable, do it. /gavel
See, I wanted one last night but it was in the opposite direction of horse back riding. But....it just *happens* to be on the way home from the gym. Lol.