It's not that she doesn't think it's a big deal, it's just that the sister is obviously waving her psycho freak flag pretty high, so Friend is pretty positive she came out the "winner" in this situation. Her H thinks it is hilariously nuts.
ETA: If my sister had a daughter and named her Olivia, I would roll my eyes, but it's a pretty popular name at this point and hardly unique. But, my sister isn't insane so I don't really have to think out the hypotheticals of this.
ok, but even if olivia is popular, it is VERY CRAZY AND FUCKING WEIRD to name your kid the same as his/her cousin. it just is. you can be as breezy as you want, i will not be convinced that this is normal or acceptable.
anyway, nutters. all of them.
Lol, well am I still bitter about Scandal/Olivia Pope making my kid's name super popular.
Post by cinnamoncox on Jul 29, 2014 9:24:19 GMT -5
That's insane. I feel badly for the second child. Sure, the mom is going to be the one who looks nuts, but the child has to live with the name and be the "other one".
WOW. That's tacky. My sister ended up using my dad's first name as her son's middle, which is something I wanted to do but obviously it's off the table now. I'm fine with it. She got knocked up first therefore, I have no right to claim anything. Shouldn't this be fucking common sense to people?!?
I'm thinking she is going to change the name last minute, right? Maybe she will come to her senses and realize how crazy she is being.
I feel like she's just trying to get attention because most of the attention is on her sister and her new baby. It's still crazy pants but I hope she has some tact.
I have a 2nd cousin with the same name as me. Exactly the same (well, before I got married). In high school, someone knocked on our front door and I answered it. There were two guys standing there and asked if I was "my name". I said yes, and they handed me an envelope and walked away. I thought I won something, lol. Turns out, it was a PPO against me, issued from a random girl in my English class. I was freaking out because why the fuck would she issue a PPO against me?!
I had to go to court and all that jazz, and turns out that the PPO was supposed to be sent to my cousin.
I'll admit to wanting to use Alessandro for DS, but DH wouldn't go for it because my nephew is named First Name Alexander (nn Xander). They go by his middle name, which was too close, even though they don't use the full name or typical nn.
But we see them once a year and live in different states, so I didn't care. In the end though, we chose something else.
Something similar happened to a friend of mine. She had a DC with a name that was a combination of her name and her H's name ( so if her name was Beth and her H's name was Joseph and they had a DC named JoBeth for example). Sadly dc passed from SIDS at 7 weeks old. They eventually have 2 other children, and a very happy family but they still celebrate " JoBeth's" birthday each year and are activly involved in local charities that work with parents of children who pass from SIDS.
Several years later a cousin of the H has a DC and names it " JoBeth Samelastname" When the H asks why he chose that name since they are not that close, and it isn't really a family name for them cousin is appalled that his DISTANT COUSIN isn't super psyched they gave there child the EXACT name of the decesased child. So now he has to see this kid on big family holidays and reunions and such that is running around with the exact same name as his deceased child. Fucking Nuts.
It's not that she doesn't think it's a big deal, it's just that the sister is obviously waving her psycho freak flag pretty high, so Friend is pretty positive she came out the "winner" in this situation. Her H thinks it is hilariously nuts.
ETA: If my sister had a daughter and named her Olivia, I would roll my eyes, but it's a pretty popular name at this point and hardly unique. But, my sister isn't insane so I don't really have to think out the hypotheticals of this.
ok, but even if olivia is popular, it is VERY CRAZY AND FUCKING WEIRD to name your kid the same as his/her cousin. it just is. you can be as breezy as you want, i will not be convinced that this is normal or acceptable.
anyway, nutters. all of them.
Does anyone involved think it's normal or acceptable? If feel like parents of OPP (Original Paloma Prodigy) probably are just more resigned to the realities of life than, say, I am. They have examined their options, realize they're dealing with a psycho and they can't get, for example, a restraining order preventing sister from doing this crazy ass shit, so they're going to make jokes and PROBABLY not invite her over for dinner and a movie any time soon. Or ever.
ALSO, can you IMAGINE being the mother of these two daughters? What do you say when your crazy ass psycho kid is all "btw, totes naming my kid exactly after her cousin because I have the cray cray!"
Post by irishbride2 on Jul 29, 2014 9:50:25 GMT -5
I have lots of first cousins and there are multiple repeat names. But they are all generic names like Timothy or Michael. It's nbd in our family (not uncommon in big catholic families with lots of kids and name after saints) but this story is weird. Really weird.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jul 29, 2014 9:54:18 GMT -5
I love the idea of everyone going on her FB and saying "HOW SWEET! You named your daughter after your big sister's daughter! Big sister must be SO HONORED that you chose to honor your big sister by naming your daughter the same name that BIG SISTER named hers!" Play it up with enough saccharine to make anyone puke. The name won't stick :-)
My roommate's two brothers were both expecting at the same time (due dates days apart). They were both 100% set on the first name Cooper. It was literally a race and a competition for the first boy to come out and get the name.
The second kid was Carter, if I remember correctly.
Edit to add that this situation is even more bizarre. Sister is obviously whack.
There could be drama in my family over naming with family names, but they are usually middle names so not so important.
I wonder if she's just trying to win and get friend to change the name. If she sticks to her guns and leaves the name, wacko sister might get bored with that competition by the time her baby is born and drop the whole thing.
Or maybe that only works with my SIL lol. But I would ignore. If she thrives on competition and drama, giving her the reaction she wants would be a bad idea.