I honestly don't understand the need for clips or ties in using a duvet. Throw the comforter inside, shake it out a little--voila. My comforter doesn't move around inside the duvet. Are people buying king-sized duvets for their queen-sized comforters or something?
Mine move around a lot. Maybe because I have stupid dust-mite proof allergy comforters that tend to be synthetic and slippery? Without clips or strings our comforter ends up all in one end of the cover by the middle of the night.
So living somewhere for 18 of your 32 years makes it less of a home than the place you moved to for a few years to attend school?
Also, I do not understand why you think grad students deserve special treatment. Are there no PhD-granting institutions in California or England? Is he really that different from the kid from Delaware who decides to go to UVA undergrad because it is one of the very best schools in the country and because his state doesn't have a school of that caliber?
I think you're really stretching here.
I guess I'm in the minority here on this topic
Truthfully, I get it that there have to be rules to apply to everyone regardless of circumstances. I am really not in support of charging out of state tuition to anyone at all, but I understand it more for an undergrad. I don't know the statistics on it but it's probably safe to say that the majority of undergrads live in their home state at least part of the year and many will return to their home state after graduation. So, I think it is kind of "fair" that if they are only attending school in one state that they can't be residents. But truthfully I think good students should be able to pick any school in any state that has the best program and it should be affordable to attend. I think it's harmful to the programs and the students if there is a huge financial incentive NOT to attend.
My BF does not live in England, hasn't lived in England in 10 years, and won't ever live in England again, so I don't really see that part as relevant to the current situation. You could maybe argue he's more a California resident but it's unlikely he'll ever live there again, either, and he doesn't have a mailing address or anything there. So he's just a resident of nowhere, I guess. I don't think he actually could get in-state tuition there OR in England at this point (if such a thing exists) since he doesn't live in either place. I guess that's what I think is screwy about these policies.
I moved to Iowa for a job, but didn't grow up here and don't intend to stay here forever. Does that mean I'm not a resident just because I moved here for a specific career related purpose for a few years? Obviously not. I'm not sure it should be different for students who move to a state for similar reasons.
(BTW this has totally gotten off my original topic, lol.)
I agree with you, plus I think it only affect schools in the state's system, you could go to a private college out of state
I honestly don't understand the need for clips or ties in using a duvet. Throw the comforter inside, shake it out a little--voila. My comforter doesn't move around inside the duvet. Are people buying king-sized duvets for their queen-sized comforters or something?
The duvet does slide around inside a bit which I guess is what people find annoying? Meh, I don't want to deal with clips or the like, so I will just shake it back into shape if that happens.
Mine moves all the time. Probably because I sleep like a crazy person thrashing about.
And not a flame or a scandal but I just interviewed someone who would have a position above me. I'm in a fairly conservative industry (think law/finance). The candidate was not wearing a suit. She was wearing a sweater and a pencil skirt and I'm judging the lack of a suit and at least a jacket/blazer.
Also, candidate had a teeny tiny error on her resume. If you can't get a resume flawless I worry about your work.
I'm wondering if I'm being too hard on candidates or not.
We are backing out of a family real estate transaction 18 months in the making due to last minute decisions in the other family members' favor. When it was in their favor and to our demise, no one cared. We have gotten everything pretty much in place and hopefully close on 2 lots this Friday to build a modular home. Before this, we had told them we were putting an offer in and since the closing hasn't come yet, we haven divulged a lot since we don't want to jinx it. Now that this is more in our favor, MIL called DH last night and yelled at him that WE are putting the family in turmoil even though she knew the details. DH got so upset he used the f-bomb at his mom.
Please cross everything you have for us for Friday.
And not a flame or a scandal but I just interviewed someone who would have a position above me. I'm in a fairly conservative industry (think law/finance). The candidate was not wearing a suit. She was wearing a sweater and a pencil skirt and I'm judging the lack of a suit and at least a jacket/blazer.
Also, candidate had a teeny tiny error on her resume. If you can't get a resume flawless I worry about your work.
I'm wondering if I'm being too hard on candidates or not.
Those are things that would really bother me about a candidate in either of our professions. (That said, I've had to "interview" people at levels above me before and nobody cared what I thought about them -- my purpose was to answer their questions/let them meet more people at the firm -- so I don't know whether my judginess would get my anywhere).
So living somewhere for 18 of your 32 years makes it less of a home than the place you moved to for a few years to attend school?
Also, I do not understand why you think grad students deserve special treatment. Are there no PhD-granting institutions in California or England? Is he really that different from the kid from Delaware who decides to go to UVA undergrad because it is one of the very best schools in the country and because his state doesn't have a school of that caliber?
I think you're really stretching here.
I guess I'm in the minority here on this topic
Truthfully, I get it that there have to be rules to apply to everyone regardless of circumstances. I am really not in support of charging out of state tuition to anyone at all, but I understand it more for an undergrad. I don't know the statistics on it but it's probably safe to say that the majority of undergrads live in their home state at least part of the year and many will return to their home state after graduation. So, I think it is kind of "fair" that if they are only attending school in one state that they can't be residents. But truthfully I think good students should be able to pick any school in any state that has the best program and it should be affordable to attend. I think it's harmful to the programs and the students if there is a huge financial incentive NOT to attend.
My BF does not live in England, hasn't lived in England in 10 years, and won't ever live in England again, so I don't really see that part as relevant to the current situation. You could maybe argue he's more a California resident but it's unlikely he'll ever live there again, either, and he doesn't have a mailing address or anything there. So he's just a resident of nowhere, I guess. I don't think he actually could get in-state tuition there OR in England at this point (if such a thing exists) since he doesn't live in either place. I guess that's what I think is screwy about these policies.
I moved to Iowa for a job, but didn't grow up here and don't intend to stay here forever. Does that mean I'm not a resident just because I moved here for a specific career related purpose for a few years? Obviously not. I'm not sure it should be different for students who move to a state for similar reasons.
(BTW this has totally gotten off my original topic, lol.)
Who did he cheer for in the World Cup?
I am also curious how the parties in the half sibling situation figured this out.
And not a flame or a scandal but I just interviewed someone who would have a position above me. I'm in a fairly conservative industry (think law/finance). The candidate was not wearing a suit. She was wearing a sweater and a pencil skirt and I'm judging the lack of a suit and at least a jacket/blazer.
Also, candidate had a teeny tiny error on her resume. If you can't get a resume flawless I worry about your work.
I'm wondering if I'm being too hard on candidates or not.
Those are things that would really bother me about a candidate in either of our professions. (That said, I've had to "interview" people at levels above me before and nobody cared what I thought about them -- my purpose was to answer their questions/let them meet more people at the firm -- so I don't know whether my judginess would get my anywhere).
What was the error?
The error was stupid. All of her slashes had no spaces before after. Like and/or. But one of them had spaces. Like and / or. But all the presentations I make I do a ctrl + F to make sure they are all the same because I'm anal.
Those are things that would really bother me about a candidate in either of our professions. (That said, I've had to "interview" people at levels above me before and nobody cared what I thought about them -- my purpose was to answer their questions/let them meet more people at the firm -- so I don't know whether my judginess would get my anywhere).
What was the error?
The error was stupid. All of her slashes had no spaces before after. Like and/or. But one of them had spaces. Like and / or. But all the presentations I make I do a ctrl + F to make sure they are all the same because I'm anal.
That would be enough to get my ^o). You can't have inconsistencies like that on your resume!
How do you steal an animal? It's not like you can put it in your pocket.
I did put it in my pocket. They came in those little round cups and this particular cup had a lid. So I picked it up and put it in my pocket. I guess they don't put security alarms on their fish.
Now I feel bad for the poor fish who was living in a teeny container.
Post by hopenotlost on Jul 29, 2014 14:12:56 GMT -5
My confession: I came into this thread hoping it would entertain me for a few minutes while it is quiet in my house, and I was disappointed that it was a discussion mainly about in-state and out-of-state tuition. Gah.
My scandal: I'm disappointed the normal first baseman isn't going to be playing in DH's softball tournament this weekend. He's got a cute butt and I like the eye candy.
Well, in this specific case that's not entirely true either. He grew up in London but as soon as he went off to college, his family left England and his parents have lived in a few countries - they are currently in Germany. He lived in LA for several years when he came to the states, but has no family there either. He doesn't really have a "home" other than where he lives. And he lives in Iowa. But regardless, I'm not saying my BF in particular should receive special treatment, I just think that graduate students who move their lives to another state for several years to attend grad school should get in-state rates, or maybe there shouldn't be an in-state/out of state rate for grad school. I would guess a majority of students earning a PhD have to relocate to attend a particular program, so I think it's unfair to charge them more.
So living somewhere for 18 of your 32 years makes it less of a home than the place you moved to for a few years to attend school?
Also, I do not understand why you think grad students deserve special treatment. Are there no PhD-granting institutions in California or England? Is he really that different from the kid from Delaware who decides to go to UVA undergrad because it is one of the very best schools in the country and because his state doesn't have a school of that caliber?
Truthfully, I get it that there have to be rules to apply to everyone regardless of circumstances. I am really not in support of charging out of state tuition to anyone at all, but I understand it more for an undergrad. I don't know the statistics on it but it's probably safe to say that the majority of undergrads live in their home state at least part of the year and many will return to their home state after graduation. So, I think it is kind of "fair" that if they are only attending school in one state that they can't be residents. But truthfully I think good students should be able to pick any school in any state that has the best program and it should be affordable to attend. I think it's harmful to the programs and the students if there is a huge financial incentive NOT to attend.
My BF does not live in England, hasn't lived in England in 10 years, and won't ever live in England again, so I don't really see that part as relevant to the current situation. You could maybe argue he's more a California resident but it's unlikely he'll ever live there again, either, and he doesn't have a mailing address or anything there. So he's just a resident of nowhere, I guess. I don't think he actually could get in-state tuition there OR in England at this point (if such a thing exists) since he doesn't live in either place. I guess that's what I think is screwy about these policies.
I moved to Iowa for a job, but didn't grow up here and don't intend to stay here forever. Does that mean I'm not a resident just because I moved here for a specific career related purpose for a few years? Obviously not. I'm not sure it should be different for students who move to a state for similar reasons.
(BTW this has totally gotten off my original topic, lol.)
Well, couldn't he have gotten in-state tuition by just moving to Iowa and working for a year before starting school? If anything, it is easier for a 32 year old to do something like that than for a dependent undergrad to.
I went to both college and law school in states I had no intention of staying in, but I also had no intention of returning to my home state. I don't think that's all that uncommon among grads or undergrads (particularly among students who leave their home states for school). I'd imagine many, many Iowa PhD students from out of state leave Iowa right after graduation.
You say "But truthfully I think good students should be able to pick any school in any state that has the best program and it should be affordable to attend. I think it's harmful to the programs and the students if there is a huge financial incentive NOT to attend." -- Why is that any more applicable to grad students than to undergrad students? Obviously there's a huge tuition crisis in America right now, but I don't know that we should be crying for the poor Anglocalifornian Iowa PhD students who had funding for at least 2 years (and couldn't figure out that funding wasn't guaranteed for the other years -- why exactly???) any more than we should be for the many, many other students (at all sorts of levels) who are in similar or worse or far worse positions tuition-wise.
Hey, I never said he "couldn't figure out" anything - he's not thrilled about the idea of not getting funding, but isn't shocked or anything, just frustrated - nor did I say that anyone should feel sorry for him. I just personally wish that things worked differently regarding tuition rates for students who only reside in one state. My BF is a smart and highly capable person who will pay whatever he needs to in order to get the degree that will get him his desired job.
I think we're going to have to agree to disagree on the rest, I just really don't want this turned into something HE is doing wrong when I'm the one doing the complaining.
And not a flame or a scandal but I just interviewed someone who would have a position above me. I'm in a fairly conservative industry (think law/finance). The candidate was not wearing a suit. She was wearing a sweater and a pencil skirt and I'm judging the lack of a suit and at least a jacket/blazer.
Also, candidate had a teeny tiny error on her resume. If you can't get a resume flawless I worry about your work.
I'm wondering if I'm being too hard on candidates or not.
I don't think so at all but I'm kind of a hard ass about things like this. Whenever my company interviews people to join, I always note when they aren't wearing a suit. We are a business casual environment but if you can't even be bothered to wear a suit for an interview, I question your judgment.
I just didn't have a good first impression. She was tough on me in one of my posts as a newbie. Who knows, maybe she was having an off day. I know how much this board loves her, but I can't shake off my first impression. First impressions die hard, yo.
I'm sure everyone on here has a person like that. It's hard to get over that hurdle:
I am still afraid @fryjack thinks I'm an asshole--I was trying to be funny in one of her posts and she called me out for missing the mark and being hurtful . I still feel awful about that.
What?! I randomly opened this thread (because it was a few pages long-ha!) and saw this. I have no recollection of what you are talking about! What thread was it? I have no hate towards you at all! There are only 2 people that I can say I consistently didn't like from my time on the boards and they were both banned on the old place and don't post here.
I'm sure everyone on here has a person like that. It's hard to get over that hurdle:
I am still afraid @fryjack thinks I'm an asshole--I was trying to be funny in one of her posts and she called me out for missing the mark and being hurtful . I still feel awful about that.
What?! I randomly opened this thread (because it was a few pages long-ha!) and saw this. I have no recollection of what you are talking about! What thread was it? I have no hate towards you at all! There are only 2 people that I can say I consistently didn't like from my time on the boards and they were both banned on the old place and don't post here.
I quoted the Suze Orman "are you kidding me?" When you asked a question, and it came off snarky. I felt awful about that.
What?! I randomly opened this thread (because it was a few pages long-ha!) and saw this. I have no recollection of what you are talking about! What thread was it? I have no hate towards you at all! There are only 2 people that I can say I consistently didn't like from my time on the boards and they were both banned on the old place and don't post here.
I quoted the Suze Orman "are you kidding me?" When you asked a question, and it came off snarky. I felt awful about that.
Haha! H hates her and we got rid of cable so I never watch her anymore. It went right over my head, but I would have laughed if I lurked more
I probably asked a dumb question though right? Was it the one about borrowing from my 401k to buy my (at the time) dream house? Maybe this is flameful and scandalous but if we really really wanted the house and it would have been our forever home, I may have looked into that more.