MIL/FIL's guest list was 375 invitations, mine was 50. I knew approximately 15-20% of the guests. Eloping would have been way easier and I would have known 100% of the people in attendance.
The three-ring circus of having a rabbi and a priest and a papal dispensation is probably something I would not go through with right now, but I was young and my grandmother was still alive and it felt important to make her happy.
Inviting all of our exes was also kind of stupid, but we were still very enmeshed in the social networks of our college days and we felt like we were taking the proverbial high road.
Post by WinterWine on Jul 29, 2014 17:37:46 GMT -5
Different florist. Mine was super disappointing for the price. There was one I loved 2 hrs away but I was scared of using her due to winter travel concerns. I also would have left my mom off the guest list.
Pretty much everything except the groom. We were young and let our families walk all over us about most aspects of the wedding. I'd definitely change a lot if I had it to do over now.
I would have skipped doing a reception. We had a destination wedding ( ) and a reception when we returned. But we aren't super close to family, it was a ton of money, and overall, not very fun. If anything, we should have just had a casual cook out that summer. I also would choose a different dress!
Post by polarbearfans on Jul 29, 2014 18:42:00 GMT -5
The only thing I would have done is splurged on the reception dress I wanted... It was amazing. I just wore a casual dress because the one I wanted cost more than my ceremony dress. Yes, I could have worn that, but I wanted to be comfy for dancing, and it was heavy and strapless.
I would have also hired a different photographer.
eta: the asshole is using 2 of my pictures for his website homepage. He only has 4 pictures... Ugh!
Post by teatimefor2 on Jul 29, 2014 19:18:08 GMT -5
A lot! Not having the ambulance come twice!!! That would have changed the rest of the evening! Meaning I would know the song I danced with my Dad, tried the coffee bar which everyone craved about and we would have had a nice relaxing wedding night as opposed to being stressed and worried.
Sigh, it took me a year before I could talk about my wedding without crying. I'm still not crazy discussing it. We are doing to do a major 10/15 year celebration to make up for it!
Post by pierogigirl on Jul 29, 2014 19:39:44 GMT -5
Hired a different photographer and made it not rain so our ceremony could have been outside, as planned. I have one picture of the venue set up for our outdoor ceremony and I hate all of the pics of the actual ceremony.
lasagnasshole - I did have a brunch reception and it was scrumptious!
Post by doctorsbaby on Jul 29, 2014 22:20:08 GMT -5
We would have gotten married on an island somewhere and told everyone they were welcome to join us. I spent 6 months completely stressed out and didn't get to enjoy most of the day.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jul 29, 2014 23:29:02 GMT -5
I would have had someone record the bridal party entering the ceremony and the reception. When you're the bride, you're last in line! You don't get to see any of it!
I would have reminded the reception place to put out the pictures I wanted guests to sign.
Videographer. I didn't think I would regret not getting one because family said they would take videos and I was being cheap because we were spending so much on our photographer already.
Biggest regret. Family didn't take video and I really wish I had one.
We are now considering (me, dh, ds1 and ds2) a 25th anniversary brunch party at the Cape with an omelet bar, pie bar, bacon centerpieces, and mimosas. then a stroll on the beach, and then back for more.
I wish we had outdoor pics, but it was cold! Also wish the cake delivery would have been on time so the florist could have decorated our cake with the flowers rather than leaving them in a bucket -- thankfully a friend was able to arrange the flowers on the cake for us.
Also wish we'd chosen a different venue. It was beautiful, but they were difficult to work with after we chose someone else to do the cake instead of their brother (he used boxed cake mix and canned pie filling for filling...and the cost was more than the best bakery in the area)
Also wish we could have left for the honeymoon after our wedding rather than a week later. H couldn't get off work, so we went for a weekend the following weekend.
Destination wedding No seriously, I would have a non strapless dress. the ceremony would be outside and I would have one person stand up with each if us. Also DH would wear Khaki and not white.