Do you RE-friend?

[vthokie]

I have a college friend that I was FB friends with. He went very religious a few years ago and has posted some very uninformed and hurtful things since then. And was pretty insulting to my best friend, his old roommate. All comments dealing with homosexuality, which is worse since our circle of friends consists of a very gay-heavy population, including 3 of his old roommates.

I de friended him a year or so ago after some hateful remarks he made. I should have just his his feed, but whatever.
Today I got a friend request. He KNOWS we were FB friends before. I just don't think I would ever try to be FB friends with someone I knew gave me the boot. Maybe he thinks it was accidental. Who knows.

Do you do this? Do you just assume it was an accidental de friend? Say, fuck it, I want to be your friend anyways? I just find it weird.

[maccalovah]

Yeah seems weird- I wouldn't ask to re-friend a former friend, because obviously it was intentional... the whole "accidental" removal aspect always confuses me...doesn't FB ask to confirm anyone before they are removed? Ha

[muppetinma]

If I unfriend somebody, I immediately block them to keep that from happening.

[vthokie]

Jul 29, 2014 17:02:55 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

If I unfriend somebody, I immediately block them to keep that from happening.

Well that would have been smart. Damn hindsight

[polarbearfans]

Jul 29, 2014 17:02:55 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

If I unfriend somebody, I immediately block them to keep that from happening.

Ugh... I have one person from my grade in school who makes a new Facebook every few weeks. There is no blocking that. I told him he can customize his privacy settings and there is no reason to make a new account often! And I also said I would delete him and never friend him again... He kept doing it. No regrets. I accepted one more time since I ran into an old friend at a wedding who said Facebook was this guys whole life, but he kept doing it, and I'm done.

[muppetinma]

Jul 29, 2014 17:04:03 GMT -5 vthokie said:

Jul 29, 2014 17:02:55 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

If I unfriend somebody, I immediately block them to keep that from happening.

Well that would have been smart. Damn hindsight

I think I got into an awkward situation with an ex-boyfriend a while ago, so now it's second nature.  Also, if there is somebody I don't ever want to friend, like a coworker, I block them before they ever get a change to friend me.  I swear my block list is longer than my friends list.

[shevacc]

Nope. Though I rarely defriend, mostly hide people. I wouldn't refriend someone who requested again and if I noticed someone defriended me, I might be butt-hurt about it but would assume it was for a reason.

[jamaga2583]

Jul 29, 2014 17:07:18 GMT -5 polarbearfans said:

Jul 29, 2014 17:02:55 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

If I unfriend somebody, I immediately block them to keep that from happening.

Ugh... I have one person from my grade in school who makes a new Facebook every few weeks. There is no blocking that. I told him he can customize his privacy settings and there is no reason to make a new account often! And I also said I would delete him and never friend him again... He kept doing it. No regrets. I accepted one more time since I ran into an old friend at a wedding who said Facebook was this guys whole life, but he kept doing it, and I'm done.

I have an aunt who does this. She does nothing but Facebook all day every day. She likes every single photo within seconds of it being posted. If you unfriend/block her, she makes a new account and sends a new request. It's become a running joke in my family. It's sad.

I would not re-friend someone whom I know has unfriended me. It would be too awkward, and I would be self conscious about what I was posting, wondering what it was I said that made them unfriend me. Not worth it to me.

[charlielove]

I wouldn't even notice if someone unfriended me.

[vthokie]

Jul 29, 2014 17:27:15 GMT -5 charlielove said:

I wouldn't even notice if someone unfriended me.

I wouldn't either. I think we both commented on mutual friends posts today. He must have seen my name and realized. He knew we were "friends" before because we've gotten into some heated discussions. It just weird.

[Regina Philange]

I have deleted ppl and they try to refriend. I ignore.

But I also get requests from ppl all the time, that I thought I was already friends with.

[thedahliharpa]

Jul 29, 2014 17:14:19 GMT -5 shevacc said:

Nope. Though I rarely defriend, mostly hide people. I wouldn't refriend someone who requested again and if I noticed someone defriended me, I might be butt-hurt about it but would assume it was for a reason.

This.

[abbypug19]

Nope, but I usually block people I unfriend or that I notice unfriend me.

[mumegs]

One time I had one of my really good friends from high school defriend me. I couldn't figure out why she would have done it on purpose, we didn't get in a fight or anything and I barely post at all let alone political opinions or anything controversial. I refriended her bc I thought it must have been a mistake. We weren't super close anymore but we still like commented on each other stuff and we both have kids the same age. But then she unfriended me again so I figured it must have been on purpose. I am still sort of upset about it till this day I can't figure out why she couldn't even be my friend on Facebook. She is still friends with like a girl she met through me that I know she doesn't talk to anymore so it's not like she's only friends with close family or anything.