Wait. She GBCN'ed because it came out she's a rabid catholic? Didn't we already know that? How else would people expect her to react? This doesn't surprise or offend me.
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
She kind of didn't give anyone a chance to. She was immediately all, "No, I know! I'm out! I'm dead to you all!" (paraphrasing, you know) and that was pretty much it.
Lucky for her, Jez and Gypsy moved into the ring and tore off the gloves pretty fast and everyone rubbernecked that way.
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
No one demanded that she leave. She chose to GBCN. I think she'd be totally welcomed back if she chose to return.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
She more or less left on her own. I think she wanted a break and this was an excuse. People flamed her a bit for sure, but she's dealt with way worse in the past.
I think the problem (other than the original PM offering to adopt the poster's baby was inappropriate) was that she continued to PM after the offer was declined.
No. I don't think this is true at all. She made several PMs before she made the offer. Once the offer was declined, she said ok and stopped.
Well, she isn't dead to me. This doesn't shock or offend me. I sincerely thought it was going to be something like faking the cancer. Or something. This isn't dishonest or out of character. Not worth gbcn'ing in the least. Come back Stella's.
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
There was no confiding.
She PMed the person (WHO HAD ALREADY DECIDED WHAT SHE WAS GOING TO DO) sua sponte.
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
No. Once it came out that it happened (I guess the convo was few months ago or something) she was like, "welp, I knew once this came out you'd all hate me! Peace!"
I mean, there was certainly shaming, but she left pretty early on.
ETA - lol. I see this has been covered....extensively.
Well, ok, that a bit worse, but still, caveat emptor. What else would people have expected her to do? She is NOT the person I would pick to confide in about abortion.
Did you all run her out of town for being her? That's mean. She has cancer. She needs us.
No. Once it came out that it happened (I guess the convo was few months ago or something) she was like, "welp, I knew once this came out you'd all hate me! Peace!"
I mean, there was certainly shaming, but she left pretty early on.
Well, that is odd. I wish she would come back. This was not worth a GBCN. A good flaming, sure. But not worth leaving over. IF YOU ARE READING THIS COME BACK.
She offered this via pm after feigning to care about the poster and the poster's circumstances.
She has cancer. She needs us.
Elle- I agree w/ this & shamefully, haven't had the balls to say it. I was out of town when this went down, & have just caught bits & pieces. (Not that that's a legit excuse) Stellas- if you see this; please know you're still in my prayers (like, literally, still on my list)
No. I don't think this is true at all. She made several PMs before she made the offer. Once the offer was declined, she said ok and stopped.
Oh. I thought differently but it was a long thread and a few weeks ago so I am probably wrong. I deleted my post so that I don't start a rumor that isn't true.
Cancer or no cancer, she deserved the flaming she got. She crossed the line. Did she need to leave? No. There are still many of us who wish her well and hope that she's ok.
Oh and then martyred herself about the entire thing and acted like the poster was the offender.
Yes!
And FFS sake miniroller, no one was even horrible to her. God.
I wasn't @ all acting like anyone was awful, or believed that myself! Sincerely, I'd thought that this was sort've the last straw for stellas. (From what I'd read w/ her almost immediately departing) I wholeheartedly agree that a shaming was due her for that PM shiz. If I was around, I can't say that I wouldn't have also let her know I disagree with her, what I consider to be disputable, actions. Still miss her though.
Cancer or no cancer, she deserved the flaming she got. She crossed the line. Did she need to leave? No. There are still many of us who wish her well and hope that she's ok.
I won't disagree she deserved a flaming. I just thought she had been run off, which seemed unkind. Come back Stella's. Come back.
Post by pantsparty on Jul 29, 2014 18:16:36 GMT -5
If she had admitted she crossed a line in sending the PM, I think the reaction would have been much tamer. Instead, she took a holier-than-thou (LOL) attitude and was basically, "Well, I knew this would be the end of me if this came out."
I think she was looking for an excuse to leave, and took it.