So I sent SIL a text and she finally responded. OMG.
Me: I am furious with you. Do not even act like you were snooping in her phone out of concern. You purposefully hurt my sister. I do not understand how you could do that and then defend it. You are right, you guys are not close so do not try to "help" her anymore. Leave her alone.
SIL: You know I'm glad that you know me better than I know myself. If you did know me at all then you'd know I was very concerned about her & so is (brother), (the one you call brother) She'd been crying over things (her boyfriend) said to her all that day and night. How about this, instead of instantly placing blame & yelling at me over a text sit down face to face and actually talk it out for once. Not that you've ever honestly liked me as it is, I'm not stupid, I know it's pretend, it always has been no matter what, even before the very first argument we all got into all those years ago. I will be honest in thinking I'd thought things could change for the better after (niece) was born but now I see I was only kidding myself. Shame on me for trying to raise my daughter in a world where blended families could get along and love one another even when one makes mistakes, I will not allow her to grow up in a world where all her family does is fight even if that means keeping her from it I will protect her from things I grew up seeing! I will also tell you what I told (sister), I fully admit I went about things the wrong way never said I didn't, but I was and still am very worried about her. And no matter how many times any of you say you hate me, don't like me, or anything else that's been said just know that no matter what none of y'all can say anything mean enough to make me stop loving any one of you. I won't lie and pretend it doesn't it hurt but you know what I grew up when I was 5 years old taking care of two 3 year olds because my dad's side of the family was too drunk to do it, so I have a tough enough skin to take the terrible things that any of you say behind my back or to my face. And by the way if y'all think I've never been hurt by things y'all have said either to my face or behind it, you're crazy. I do know well enough though that I forgive all of it even the fact that it's been said "I wish her and (brother) would get divorced!" Yes I know that's been said, broke my heart at the time but not anymore. It's in the past and forgiven. However you should remember this, (niece) is half me no matter how much you all hate it so talk bad about me, hate me, I'm not going anywhere and none of y'all can change that. And also remember this no matter how terrible any of you treat me from here on out, I will still love and forgive each time.
Oh and if I'm not allowed to help her, then one of you needs to sit down with her and have some serious talks, she's going through way more than a 17 year old should be.
Me: You are delusional. Like I said, leave my sister alone.
SIL: I'm sorry I'm an adult you can't tell me what to do last time I checked. But like I said I forgive all of you and will keep loving you no matter what any of you say to me or about me. And I say that because I want (niece) to grow up and know all of you, but if we can't get along and I can't be spoken of like I'm trash when I'm not around but she is then I can't allow my daughter to grow up in that and that breaks my heart.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Dude, it's like an incoherent stream of consciousness. I didn't realize this was all about HER childhood. She needs some therapy and to stop projecting her issues onto everyone else. But don't worry, she will forgive you.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
You know how if you are on the app here and there is a long post it will take you to another page with the littel arrow. Yea, my text message did that.
I hope she's not hassling your sister with this crap
Yup she is! SIL is having surgery on Monday and she texted my sister that she needs to forgive her and not "be mad at stupid things" because what if she died during her surgery. How would that make my sister feel?
I hope she's not hassling your sister with this crap
Yup she is! SIL is having surgery on Monday and she texted my sister that she needs to forgive her and not "be mad at stupid things" because what if she died during her surgery. How would that make my sister feel?
BREAKING NEWS: Your sister is the first person in recorded history to be upset about a boyfriend at 17. This is obviously way more than any 17 year old should ever endure.
Yup she is! SIL is having surgery on Monday and she texted my sister that she needs to forgive her and not "be mad at stupid things" because what if she died during her surgery. How would that make my sister feel?
STOP.
No. NO. She is a lunatic.
Yup. My sister has not texted her back. I told her she needs to block her number.
I hope she's not hassling your sister with this crap
Yup she is! SIL is having surgery on Monday and she texted my sister that she needs to forgive her and not "be mad at stupid things" because what if she died during her surgery. How would that make my sister feel?
I hope she's not hassling your sister with this crap
Yup she is! SIL is having surgery on Monday and she texted my sister that she needs to forgive her and not "be mad at stupid things" because what if she died during her surgery. How would that make my sister feel?
I'm sorry, but your SIL is going to have to be put down.
Where the EFF is your brother in this?
And please tell me your sister told her to fuck right off.
I hope she's not hassling your sister with this crap
Yup she is! SIL is having surgery on Monday and she texted my sister that she needs to forgive her and not "be mad at stupid things" because what if she died during her surgery. How would that make my sister feel?
Noooooo.
Sister needs to block her fucking number. What a douche.