Post by studytime45 on Jul 30, 2014 5:41:12 GMT -5
@cse1960
I never said, or even implied, that I was going to have sex. The drinks/dancing is a separate event (with classmates) than the dinner date. Slooooow your roll.
I'm pretty sick of people judging me for no reason. So I'm calling them out. Didn't a few women here separate from/divorce their husbands and date soon after? One in particular comes to mind. A regular. Who didn't get called out.
I never said, or even implied, that I was going to have sex. The drinks/dancing is a separate event (with classmates) than the dinner date. Slooooow your roll.
This right here is why you're BEC (for me, at least). @cse1960 offered you good advice on your OP and you cop an attitude with her. If you would've stuck to the first two lines of your response, you'd be fine. Instead you have to take the last word and get all pissy.
I'm not pissy or copping an attitude. I'm not discounting Sue's advice at all. It's great. I just don't really need the safe sex talk. And I didn't realize 'slow your roll' was offensive.
I never said, or even implied, that I was going to have sex. The drinks/dancing is a separate event (with classmates) than the dinner date. Slooooow your roll.
@cse1960 was the only one who had a decent thing to say to you in this post. Or one of the only ones. No need to get tough with her really.
I probably would've had the same reaction to Sue Sue, honestly. I wouldn't have used the slow your roll terminology, lol, but I also don't think there was any question that the question in the OP was 99% rhetorical. And even if she was curious what ppl thought was an "appropriate" period of mourning (lol) before having some fun, she definitely didn't ask for a paragraph out of "the dangers of being Out on the Town." The fact that Sue Sue felt the need to lay all of that out would suggest that she thinks the OP doesn't know it, which definitely comes off as condescending even if that wasn't the intention.
But again, it's all in the way you respond, OP, that makes you come off as immature and/or defensive.
Didn't read all responses, but rolled my eyes at your OP.
It's not like you were married to the asshole. You're 23. Go out. Have fun. Be single.
Get over yourself.
Yeah, read the post. The OP was sarcastic. I was getting shit for going out, having fun, and being single.
I suppose my question would be why you care so much.
You're young and fresh out of a relationship. Do what the fuck you want when the fuck you want to do it, and later in your life, when you have saggy tits, too, you'll look back upon this time in your life and say, "That was fun."
This isn't as hard or dramatic as you're making it out to be.
The healthy response whenever a stranger on the Internet needles you a bit about going out after a break up: "Yep! I'm super excited and ready to have fun and relax. Which top looks best?"
That's it. You're wearing your insecurities on your sleeve when you come out swinging on comments like that. Just own who you are.
I'd totally be "dancing" (safely of course) if I were in your place. I actually did when I broke up with a boyfriend after 3 years when I was 22. It was one of the best years of my life, going out with the girls and having random hook ups. Dumb monogamous relationship the first 3 years of college really held me back.
Post by flamingeaux on Jul 30, 2014 8:24:31 GMT -5
Dude, this is the age for you, to bounce from one relationship to the next. Dating is like shopping for shoes. Try on a bunch of pairs so you can figure out what fits you best, but make sure you use the little socks so you don't get covered in other people's toe cheese.
Post by cinnamoncox on Jul 30, 2014 8:33:09 GMT -5
Ok I posted and read this post before I saw the outfit post, so never mind. I think it's in poor taste to question your activities, but also no need for the call out.
Dude, this is the age for you, to bounce from one relationship to the next. Dating is like shopping for shoes. Try on a bunch of pairs so you can figure out what fits you best, but make sure you use the little socks so you don't get covered in other people's toe cheese.