So I sent out an email to a group of co-workers about ordering pizza for lunch. Everyone accepted the invite except for one. This lady usually doesn't take a lunch, so I just figured she wasn't interested.
Fast forward to today. We're all eating pizza in the conference room, and she comes in, ready to eat. The room went silent. She asked for a plate and I said, I'm sorry, co-worker, but you didn't respond so I didn't include you when I ordered. If you can find a plate you're more than welcome to eat with us. She just said oh that's ok and walked out.
I don't know why I feel bad about this, but I do. Maybe I should have sent a reminder to her to make sure she didn't want to have lunch with us? Or maybe I'm just feeling guilty for no reason.
If she didn't respond, that's on her. But I'm kind of confused- is this lunch on the company or did everyone pitch in? If everyone pitched in, then yeah, she's SOL. But if it's on the company, I kind of think "it's pizza - there has to be one or two extra slices....".
Eh, it sucks to be the one to enforce non RSVPs (or people who don't contribute $ like everyone else) but at the same time, if your initial email was clear about the terms, that's on her. Otherwise its rude to the people who did contribute.
If she didn't respond, that's on her. But I'm kind of confused- is this lunch on the company or did everyone pitch in? If everyone pitched in, then yeah, she's SOL. But if it's on the company, I kind of think "it's pizza - there has to be one or two extra slices....".
Not on the company. Something a few of us decided to order and we all pitched in. I only ordered for the number of people who responded, so it wasn't like there was extra.
If she didn't respond, that's on her. But I'm kind of confused- is this lunch on the company or did everyone pitch in? If everyone pitched in, then yeah, she's SOL. But if it's on the company, I kind of think "it's pizza - there has to be one or two extra slices....".
Not on the company. Something a few of us decided to order and we all pitched in. I only ordered for the number of people who responded, so it wasn't like there was extra.
Well, definitely in this case, don't feel bad. It's not fair to everyone else for her to get food if she didn't pay.
Post by fivechickens on Jul 30, 2014 12:41:44 GMT -5
I don't think its your fault she didn't respond but I would have sent her another email asking if she wanted in on it since she was the only one who didn't respond. She may have intended to respond and either forgotten or thought she had.
Post by schitzengiggles on Jul 30, 2014 12:42:41 GMT -5
She should have responded to your invite, so that is her own fault.
However, it's pizza. Isn't there normally extra? It's not like you each ordered your own individual items from somewhere. I would have just said "Oh, hi! I didn't see you respond to my invite...but we should have plenty extra. Here, have a plate!"
You didn't do anything wrong, though. Maybe just made it weirder than it needed to be.
ETA I see you said there wasn't extra. If that's really the case, then yeah, not much more you could do. You snooze, you lose.
If she didn't respond, that's on her. But I'm kind of confused- is this lunch on the company or did everyone pitch in? If everyone pitched in, then yeah, she's SOL. But if it's on the company, I kind of think "it's pizza - there has to be one or two extra slices....".
Not on the company. Something a few of us decided to order and we all pitched in. I only ordered for the number of people who responded, so it wasn't like there was extra.
I get what you're saying here and I believe you, but did you order by the slice? I ask not because I think you did anything wrong in your response, but because I think coworker may be grumble grumble they couldn't have spared a slice grumble grumble. So even though you are cool, she may feel she has justice and righteousness on her side and will act weird.
Come on, its pizza. You really can't order specifically for a certain amount of pizza like you do with burgers. Aren't you going to feel like an ass when there are a couple of left over slices she could have had. Then she wouldn't feel embarrassed and you wouldn't have to feel bad right now.
Common decency would also dictate that you not appear at a luncheon for which you were asked to contribute, without having contributed or responded.
This is cracking me up. I agree with you totally, but luncheon just sounds so fancy.
Maybe she thought she would pitch in her share on the spot? I've done that before, but it's because they always order way more pizza than necessary.
I do wonder about this. Perhaps in the future, either send a reminder or make sure you're really clear that you need to know BEFORE you order who's in and who isn't.
Maybe it was like 4 of them, 1 pizza with 8 slices, they each get two slices so all of the pizza was spoken for? WHY AM I PUTTING SO MUCH THOUGHT INTO THIS?
Was the email clear that an RSVP and contributing beforehand were necessary? I can see someone thinking it was a casual thing if an email went something like, "Hey, I was thinking it might be fun to all order pizza together on Tuesday. Opinions?" As opposed to, "Anyone want to chip in and order pizza together on Tuesday? Let me know if you're going to take part."
No, you shouldn't feel bad. And if I was a coworker who had paid, I would probably have been annoyed if you had given some to someone who didn't pay. I can eat a lot of pizza, and love leftovers!
Post by polarbearfans on Jul 30, 2014 12:52:17 GMT -5
It sounds like she was offered some of the pizza but chose to leave. I thought I read that she could have some if she had plate or something like that.
Regardless, she should have responded to the email
eta: I would have been annoyed about sharing with someone who knew in advance, made the decision to not participate, and then showed up with no money. For someone who wasn't there to get invited, no problem sharing, as long as I still got a decent portion