I hate today.

[jojoandleo]

1- last night I asked H what our plans are today for our anniversary. He said, oh, I forgot! Really? He planned an amazing date with a hotel and shit last year and forgot this year? But, whatever. We are both busy anyway.

2- this is why I hate today. My 22 year old brother and his 21 year old wife are having a baby. He's getting deployed for 10 months in a week. He won't even be here for her pregnancy or the birth. She doesn't have a job or a drivers license. Which, hello! What if something happens and she needs to go to the doctor? Also, only a few months ago she got a DUI. Yes, without a license. When she stole my brothers car and wrecked it. I feel like they are playing grown up. Get married, have babies, live a sitcom life. They can't afford a baby. They aren't ready or prepared. I cried when thy told me.

[mcc]

Ugh I'm sorry jojoandleo. Silver lining--you took the Bar last year and not this year?

I hope your brothers gf gets her shit together

[bullygirl979]

I hope your brother and his wife get everything together. I'm sure they will learn quickly that real life isn't always fun.

In terms of your anniversary, why don't you surprise your H and plan something fun?

[jojoandleo]

Jul 31, 2014 7:49:10 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I hope your brother and his wife get everything together. I'm sure they will learn quickly that real life isn't always fun.

In terms of your anniversary, why don't you surprise your H and plan something fun?

See, this is partly why I can't really be upset. Lol. But, I have been saving for our 5 year- I'm taking us back to our honeymoon spot for our five year anniversary.

[winecat]

Jul 31, 2014 8:01:56 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jul 31, 2014 7:49:10 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I hope your brother and his wife get everything together. I'm sure they will learn quickly that real life isn't always fun.

In terms of your anniversary, why don't you surprise your H and plan something fun?

See, this is partly why I can't really be upset. Lol. But, I have been saving for our 5 year- I'm taking us back to our honeymoon spot for our five year anniversary.

I hope your brother and his wife get it together asap.  

Could you do priceline for a hotel?  Sometimes you can get something pretty nice for not a lot of $ because they need to fill space. 

[callunafirefly]

I'm sorry your brother is deploying and that sucks but it can't really be helped. I was in the military, I don't know why but everyone gets married and has babies young. I did. Anyway sounds like a problem...not necessarliy yours. I'm assuming he's in the military, they have support for spouses. Best advice to you, lend an ear to her, but nothing else. She needs to figure this out on her own, or else she never will.
My exH is still acting like someone should be caring for him.

[1confused1]

Hugs

[Deleted]

That is rough jojoandleo. I would be super stressed and upset too.

[prettyinpearls]

I hope your brother and his wife get their act together...and quick!!

Can you surprise your H with something local to celebrate?  Edit: Tell your H he has to come up with something. Is the 5 year trip a surprise? If so, put the effort onto him this year.

[Deleted]

Hugs. Your bro and sil are likely in over their heads and that sucks.
 Try and plan something local for a little something special.  Maybe an awesome restaurant?  

[kitkat1502]

do you think your H is joking he forgot and maybe planning a surprise?

[sassycat]

Jul 31, 2014 9:09:14 GMT -5 kitkat1502 said:

do you think your H is joking he forgot and maybe planning a surprise?

Those are my thoughts!  I don't think he forgot, he wants YOU to think HE forgot,  hopefully.   I would not be hanging out in my workout clothes when he comes home that is for sure. 

I hope he did something.   BTW  Happy Anniversary!  

[idahome]

Hope your H surprises you with something later today!

[MyName]

Oh wow, the brother situation would upset me, too. That is going to be rough.

I hope whatever you guys end up doing (although, I'm inclined to agree with PP that he is probably lying about forgetting), you have a great time. Happy anniversary!

[jojoandleo]

Jul 31, 2014 9:09:14 GMT -5 kitkat1502 said:

do you think your H is joking he forgot and maybe planning a surprise?

Lol, no. I'm really not THAT upset about it. It happens. We really are both so busy lately. I didn't plan anything either, but I remembered the day! Lol. I'm more just disappointed because he is usually good about these things, but he's allowed to slip up. We all do. We are leaving for Austin tomorrow anyway.

[starburst604]

Sorry Jojo, it sucks to watch that all unfold I'm sure. T's niece just had her second child at 19 and he's livid to be a great uncle for the second time!

[jojoandleo]

Jul 31, 2014 9:44:05 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Sorry Jojo, it sucks to watch that all unfold I'm sure. T's niece just had her second child at 19 and he's livid to be a great uncle for the second time!

Ugh, that would be worse! I just practically raised him until I left for college and thought he was smarter than this! Apparently they "weren't preventing" and are excited. I'm like... You are excited to be pregnant alone and have the dad miss te baby's birth while on one income? What?

[riverpestie]

Jul 31, 2014 9:37:17 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jul 31, 2014 9:09:14 GMT -5 kitkat1502 said:

do you think your H is joking he forgot and maybe planning a surprise?

Lol, no. I'm really not THAT upset about it. It happens. We really are both so busy lately. I didn't plan anything either, but I remembered the day! Lol. I'm more just disappointed because he is usually good about these things, but he's allowed to slip up. We all do. We are leaving for Austin tomorrow anyway.

Auuustttiiiinnnnn, you say!...

[jojoandleo]

Jul 31, 2014 10:09:33 GMT -5 riverpestie said:

Jul 31, 2014 9:37:17 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Lol, no. I'm really not THAT upset about it. It happens. We really are both so busy lately. I didn't plan anything either, but I remembered the day! Lol. I'm more just disappointed because he is usually good about these things, but he's allowed to slip up. We all do. We are leaving for Austin tomorrow anyway.

Auuustttiiiinnnnn, you say!...

Only for the weekend to see my brother and family while he is there before he deploys. . I think we will be there 36 hours total. Lol. Next trip I will hit you up! My mom and sisters both still live there.

[starburst604]

Jul 31, 2014 10:01:55 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jul 31, 2014 9:44:05 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Sorry Jojo, it sucks to watch that all unfold I'm sure. T's niece just had her second child at 19 and he's livid to be a great uncle for the second time!

Ugh, that would be worse! I just practically raised him until I left for college and thought he was smarter than this! Apparently they "weren't preventing" and are excited. I'm like... You are excited to be pregnant alone and have the dad miss te baby's birth while on one income? What?

They have no idea. None. Zilch. What a slap in the face the reality is going to be for them

Yeah his niece is a special one for sure. First got pregnant at 15 but had a miscarriage. Pregnant by a different guy at 16, that guy went to jail and got killed while she was pregnant. Had a new bf by the time her baby girl was born and they've raised her together with govt assistance. She "wanted a sibling close in age" for her daughter so boom, they had a boy. No one in the family even knew she was pregnant again, she called them all from the hospital when he was born. Surprise!! He won't speak to her or go see the baby, so far. He kind of helped raise her too and like you is just so disappointed. He wanted better for her.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 31, 2014 12:01:44 GMT -5 mp said:

OOOOH man, I can't believe he stayed with her after the car situation.

They are a hot mess, I'm sorry that all your fears were realized with this marriage.

DUDE!  She also maxed out his credit card when he deployed for a month like a month or two before or after that. She is... yeah.

She has officially posted a picture of her PEED ON pregnancy test to FB. She peed on it LAST NIGHT. She hasn't even seen a doctor yet... like, what?

[starburst604]

Jul 31, 2014 15:41:35 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jul 31, 2014 12:01:44 GMT -5 mp said:

OOOOH man, I can't believe he stayed with her after the car situation.

They are a hot mess, I'm sorry that all your fears were realized with this marriage.

DUDE!  She also maxed out his credit card when he deployed for a month like a month or two before or after that. She is... yeah.

She has officially posted a picture of her PEED ON pregnancy test to FB. She peed on it LAST NIGHT. She hasn't even seen a doctor yet... like, what?

WHAT to all of this.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 31, 2014 16:28:02 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Jul 31, 2014 15:41:35 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

DUDE!  She also maxed out his credit card when he deployed for a month like a month or two before or after that. She is... yeah.

She has officially posted a picture of her PEED ON pregnancy test to FB. She peed on it LAST NIGHT. She hasn't even seen a doctor yet... like, what?

WHAT to all of this.

Yeah. After the car thing (I think I told this story here), I thought he was leaving her, but he decided to stick it out. How it went from almost divorce to YAY BABY! In a few months? I don't know. Because they are children, maybe?