Have we done this lately? They multiples board is gone and I really wish it wasn't
What do you discipline for? Hitting, biting ( started with their molars and they chew everything now including each other) doing something after being told numerous times to stop.
What is the punishment? Is it effective? A warning, a second warning, and then a 2 minute time out in the corner. Eh, I have to sit with them to get them to stay there. Sometimes if I say. "Do you want a time out?" it stops the behavior.
If you have more than one child, how is that going? hahahahhaha! Not well.
Any techniques you would like to share? I hope someone has good ones which is why I posted this thread
Or books? 123 Magic? 123 Magic is in my Amazon cart.
I'm doing all of the things that you are (warning, 2 min timeout). Do you explain to them why they are on a timeout? I've been doing that lately and having him repeat it back to me so he gets it. It seems to be working (a little bit).
What do you discipline for? Repeatedly doing things after she is told not to, throwing things, hitting (this has only happened a couple of times, thankfully)
What is the punishment? Is it effective? Same as OP... warning, second warning and telling her if I have to say it again it's time out, then 2 minutes in time out. I tell her why she is going in timeout, put the timer on my phone, then when the 2 minutes is up, we talk about why she was put in timeout again. If she hit DH or I, she had to apologize and tell us why she was sorry.
If you have more than one child, how is that going?
Any techniques you would like to share? No - sorry! The two warnings before timeout usually works!
He gets time outs alone in his room. He is always apologetic afterwards. He gets them for hitting or not listening after like 5 times, I also reward...like say oh c'mon if we do this well get some icecream after...that actually works everytime.
I tell her what she is doing wrong and count to 3, and she has that amount of time to stop before she goes to time out. It works 90% of the time so I get to avoid time out.
For mean stuff like hitting, she gets one warning to stop and then goes to time out. She doesn't hit much though.
For things like running in the street, I grab her and give her a stern talking to and if she does it again we go inside. I don't know what else to do for that because time out near the road doesn't make sense.
Post by lauranicole91 on Jul 31, 2014 9:07:09 GMT -5
We do a warning/"you want to go to time out?!" And then she gets a 2 minute time out. Then we talk about why she was in time out and what would have been an appropriate alternative to whatever she did.
What do you discipline for? Outright disobedience. If I tell him not to do something and he does it, or vice versa,
What is the punishment? Is it effective? he gets to the count of 3, then time out. For the most part right now, it just redirects him/distracts him. It's mostly effective, but he is testing right now to see what he can get away with.
If you have more than one child, how is that going? Abby's punishments are generally loss of privileges or being sent to her room. She's in a calm phase now, so things are fairly peaceful
Any techniques you would like to share? What works for one might not work for another, but I've found that it helps to try to figure out why a tantrum might happen and consider child development first-is the tantrum because he's not getting his way or because he's confused that I've suddenly changed something? Did I give him enough warning for what was going to happen and give him a chance to stop?
Or books? 123 Magic? I've never read any discipline books. Well, except an Ezzo book, and I'm certainly not recommending that one.
I do the counting. When she is doing something naughty I say "ok matilda. ONE. TWO. THR---" often she stops. Sometimes she doesn't.
She gets a time out if she hits, bites, throws things etc. I'm not sure how effective they are. She usually cries and then will say sorry. But she'll do it again
she's not terrible I suppose. I would say our biggest issue now is her being a massive whinypants. Crying and whining all the time. I don't "punish" for that I just reasonably ask her what I can get for her and often end up just ignoring her until she stops.
I'm doing all of the things that you are (warning, 2 min timeout). Do you explain to them why they are on a timeout? I've been doing that lately and having him repeat it back to me so he gets it. It seems to be working (a little bit).
Yes. We say, "no hitting. Its naughty and it hurts. if you hit, you go in time out." Then they have to give a hug to whoever they hit when time out is done and we again tell them no hitting....
Post by redmonkeystomper on Jul 31, 2014 9:31:02 GMT -5
I have certain behaviors that cause automatic time out with no warning. Right now it is hitting and throwing stuff when mad. We have addressed those with warnings and then time out but I feel like she needs time out if those happen at all.
I only give 1 warning for other things. Say she won't clean up I day help me clean up or you go to time out. If she doesn't comply she doesn't get another warning.
I stopped asking " do you want to go to time out". Instead I say if you do X you will go to time out. I find it has been more effective.
I have started going over rules for in public. I give her 3 simple rules like ride in the cart, no hitting, or if with friends share. She repeats them. Then I say if you don't follow the rules you will have time out. I did have to do a time out in public twice. It did correct the behavior.
The key to discipline is to be consistent. I get lazy sometimes because I don't want to get up and put her in time out for not getting dressed but if I don't do it then it takes us 20 min. of me asking her to come get dressed. Since I started time out for refusing to come when called it has decreased.
I imagine having 2 is tons more challenging in respect to discipline.
Elias is still pretty non verbal for the most part, so I usually just explain what I want him to be doing instead of what he is doing. Or I tell him what he did was a no-no. I don't really do punishments yet, but if the communication was there I might. I just can't tell what he is able to understand yet. I have taken him to the chair in his room and sat him down on it so he could have a 'break' if he was being exceptionally naughty or having a huge tantrum. It usually only lasts 30 seconds or so until he wants a hug. Haha. I'm no help.
Um. .. Sadie is grounded from Daniel tiger right now because she throws a fit every time he's not on. For the most part I'm at a loss on how to discipline the kid, though.
What do you discipline for? hitting, kicking, climbing up on tables, throwing things
What is the punishment? Is it effective? I read 123 Magic..so I follow that which is a count then 2 minute time out by herself either in her room or sitting alone. Ehh, sometimes it works but not always. When I first started with 123 Magic it took a few times of her doing the same thing, over and over in a row before she stopped and then got what I was doing.
If you have more than one child, how is that going?
Any techniques you would like to share? I have no idea except consistency. My child talks back to me when I say "that's 1", she says "go to your room mommy". And smiles. She will say yes if I ask if she wants to go into time out. 123 Magic talks about not talking to your child as if they are a little adult. They don't get it. The counting is to be done during behavior and them understand not to do it because they can go to timeout. Someone correct me if I am wrong. The book makes everything sound like it makes sense.
Or books? 123 Magic? Yes, read it or half of it anyways. I didn't get to the section where you are asking your child to do something (put on clothes, get ready, etc). I needed it more now for trying to stop a behavior. I will get to the other section.
For my older one it is mostly the loss of privileges and being sent to his room. Time outs only if I want him to calm down immediately so he will sit close to me then. For the little I mainly try to distract unless it is truly something destructive or it hurts someone else (she doesn't hit or bite). At this she discipline is still really hard. I feel consistency is much more important and it will fall into place eventually.