I'm about to talk to my boss about possibly hiring my DH. The opportunity would be AMAZING for us. Boss has already sort of said no in the past, but that was when they weren't going to replace the person retiring. Now they are and have two interviews set up next week for it and I am going to ask my boss if they'll consider DH. I work in a VERY unconventional place, so the nepotism isn't strange or unheard of. I'm even going to offer a substantial pay cut on my end. I am so nervous about approaching him though, like I feel sick. He's very intimidating and you NEVER know how he'll react to anything. I barely slept last night thinking about it so I know I have to get it over it and just do it.
Good luck! Although don't sell yourself short. I wouldn't offer a pay cut at all. You work hard, you deserve your own paycheck. It shouldn't have anything to do with your DH. They should hire him because if his qualifications, not because it would save them money.
Do NOT offer up a paycut. Honestly, this is kind of an awkward way to do this. It might come off better if your H emails your boss himself and just note that you had told him your office was hiring for a position he's interested in, with his resume, etc.
I'm glad you posted before speaking with your boss. DON'T offer a pay cut. DO keep emotions out of it, boss should hire DH because he is a qualified fit for the job. If boss is uncomfortable with it move on, no sour grapes!!
I'm offering a pay cut because I feel my boss will say he can't hire his assistant's DH. However, that's only about 5% of my job. So my offer will be to NOT be his assistant anymore and switch roles with someone else, yet keep all of my other duties. This girl makes a lot less than me, so I plan on offering to switch salaries. He has a "soft spot" for her, so it may work. It's very complicated and again, non-conventional. Hell, I'd offer to quit if I'd think it'd help his chances, but my manager is very against that.
For my DH, this would be almost a 3x pay raise, better hours, 2 fully funded pensions, plus a 401k option, free health insurance for us FOR LIFE, a car allowance and paid mileage. He'd rarely be in the office so his dealing with my boss would be slim to none.
This is definitely a coveted position and it's a more of "who you know" vs. "what you know" type of thing.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Jul 31, 2014 10:07:48 GMT -5
If you've already mentioned this to your boss in the past, even if the situation has changed I wouldn't recommend "meeting" with him about this. You can mention that your husband is still interested, but drop it at that. For God's sake, don't offer to take a pay cut! They'll hire someone else AND you've informed them that you're overpaid. What do you think will be next on Boss's to-do list?
I'm offering a pay cut because I feel my boss will say he can't hire his assistant's DH. However, that's only about 5% of my job. So my offer will be to NOT be his assistant anymore and switch roles with someone else, yet keep all of my other duties. This girl makes a lot less than me, so I plan on offering to switch salaries. He has a "soft spot" for her, so it may work. It's very complicated and again, non-conventional. Hell, I'd offer to quit if I'd think it'd help his chances, but my manager is very against that.
This comes off like you're basically bribing your boss to hire your DH. This floors me that you think this is a good idea. It really does. Especially, as said, as a WOMAN in the workplace.
And really- if you offer this deal and your boss actually goes for it, I feel like it could very well come back to bite you at some point. Because your DH didn't get the job based on his skills and experience. He got it because you bribed your boss.
I totally get that in 99.9999% of circumstances this is weird and unimaginable and so wrong. I honestly do. It's just an entirely different world here.
I am rethinking how to approach it though, so thank you.
FTR, it's not an "open" position that anyone can apply for. You have to be asked. Usually you're just chosen and boom, it's your job. It's unusual to have two people coming in to interview for it.
I'm offering a pay cut because I feel my boss will say he can't hire his assistant's DH. However, that's only about 5% of my job. So my offer will be to NOT be his assistant anymore and switch roles with someone else, yet keep all of my other duties. This girl makes a lot less than me, so I plan on offering to switch salaries. He has a "soft spot" for her, so it may work. It's very complicated and again, non-conventional. Hell, I'd offer to quit if I'd think it'd help his chances, but my manager is very against that.
For my DH, this would be almost a 3x pay raise, better hours, 2 fully funded pensions, plus a 401k option, free health insurance for us FOR LIFE, a car allowance and paid mileage. He'd rarely be in the office so his dealing with my boss would be slim to none.
This is definitely a coveted position and it's a more of "who you know" vs. "what you know" type of thing.
first you said nepotism isn't strange or unheard of in your workplace but now you don't think your boss will consider your husband because of your current position?
seriously, this is a terrible idea. PLEASE DONT DO THIS. your H's future employment should NOT mean that you have to switch jobs with someone? that's not your decision to make. presumably if he wanted you to switch jobs with this other lady he, as, ya know, THE BOSS, would have already done this. YOU are not the decision maker in this situation.
Even in the most unconventional workplace, this is a horrible idea. And if I'm reading correctly, you are keeping all your tasks except the assistant portion, which is 5% of the job. Yet I have a feeling you'd take a much larger pay cut. This is a bad idea no matter how you slice it.
I'm offering a pay cut because I feel my boss will say he can't hire his assistant's DH. However, that's only about 5% of my job. So my offer will be to NOT be his assistant anymore and switch roles with someone else, yet keep all of my other duties. This girl makes a lot less than me, so I plan on offering to switch salaries. He has a "soft spot" for her, so it may work. It's very complicated and again, non-conventional. Hell, I'd offer to quit if I'd think it'd help his chances, but my manager is very against that.
For my DH, this would be almost a 3x pay raise, better hours, 2 fully funded pensions, plus a 401k option, free health insurance for us FOR LIFE, a car allowance and paid mileage. He'd rarely be in the office so his dealing with my boss would be slim to none.
This is definitely a coveted position and it's a more of "who you know" vs. "what you know" type of thing.
This is some wackass shit. No. Hell no. Absofuckinglutely NO.
If your husband should be hired, EVEN IF it's a "who you know" deal, he should be hired. FULL STOP. There should be no, and I mean, 0 change to your role/pay/position/blah blah.
No. I mean, a former partner here had his girlfriend (he was not married) hired to be his OWN secretary (and someone else's) and not only did jack SHIT change about his position, she got permission to do 4, 10-hour days and take EO Friday off. That's how nepotism works, my friend.
I totally get that in 99.9999% of circumstances this is weird and unimaginable and so wrong. I honestly do. It's just an entirely different world here.
I am rethinking how to approach it though, so thank you.
FTR, it's not an "open" position that anyone can apply for. You have to be asked. Usually you're just chosen and boom, it's your job. It's unusual to have two people coming in to interview for it.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Jul 31, 2014 10:14:44 GMT -5
You aren't very savvy, are you? Good grief. The ALL sounds like a horrible idea. Everything you type sounds worse and worse. Get your shit together and have some respect before you talk to your boss--and really your H should be talking to him.