Poll: Did your TTC plans/ baby spacing work as you hoped?

[badtzmaru22]

We did not plan it out. We would have preferred more space, due to paying for daycare, but what we ended up with is going to be just fine. It took a lot longer to get our first than it did to get #2, which is not a terrible problem to have, all things considered.

[Deleted]

Mine did not.  Ideally, I wanted kids 18 months to two years apart. But with maternity leave and daycare, that just wasn't practical. Even so, I was hoping they'd be around 22 months to 26 months apart.  They'll be 30 months apart, so my plans didnt totally fall apart, lol, but its not precisely what I had envisioned, even though its only off by a few months.

[mpc]

I'll find out when I test this weekend, lol.

[charlotteandwilbur]

Jul 31, 2014 14:18:02 GMT -5 mpc said:

I'll find out when I test this weekend, lol.

This!

[zarapipe]

Ha, no!

Originally we were one and done...then we were wavering.
Then we decided to go for it. We get pregnant very easily but had two m/c and a c/p over the course of 10 months.

so now our kids will be 4.5 years apart instead of 3.5 and I couldn't be more thrilled. DD is going to be a great big sister.

[Deleted]

Yes. It took 1 month TTC for DS and 3-ish for DD. We were very lucky, and the reasons we wanted them that far apart worked out pretty well as well.

[Deleted]

I had 4 pregnancies over two years trying for DS1, so I anticipated having trouble before DS2, but NOPE. I got PG month 1 of trying, and it stuck. So we were trying, but expected a little bit more time, not that I minded to not have to suffer through the 2WW mindfuck again.

[hocus2]

I got pregnant the second time right when I planned (It was 1 or 2 cycles of trying I think). We weren't sure if we were having 2 or 3 and so we wanted them close to leave time for a third. I also really wanted a summer baby because I had a winter baby and it sucks having nothing to do and no where to go for 12 weeks.

We're probably not having any more. At times I wish we had a bigger gap because having 2U2 is hard at first but now it doesn't really matter so I don't really think much about it. If I was every going to try for a 3'rd I'd probably hope for an Mar/Apr baby because I think that has some advantages in the early schools years (based on our cuts offs).

[wanderlustmom]

DH comes from a family of small gaps, I came from a family of larger gaps. I can see benefits to both. He pushed for two kids under two years apart and that's what we got.

[undecidedowl]

I said yes. However, we changed our mind about timing after we had our first. We always thought we would try for 2 years apart but once we got there we weren't quite ready and decided we would shoot for closer to 3 years apart. They will end up being 2y 9m apart so not too far off.

[Deleted]

Yes to #1 and 2. We wanted to have them close together in age (and we envisioned having two boys too actually) and that has worked out for the best. I love that they each have a built in playmate, essentially. I think it's good for them.

Our third was unplanned. I wanted to have a 3-4 year gap between 2 and 3. It probably would have been way easier. However, I'm glad I have a 2 yo right now instead of a baby! Ryan is great with Katie. He holds her other hand for me a lot when we cross the street. She goes right to him when I ask her to. He also loves to play with her and entertain her. Ben and she don't get along that well though, lol. There's a lot of sibling rivalry there at the moment.

[mrsGreeko]

We wanted the kids about 2 years apart.

Our first two are almost 3 years apart because DH was deployed to Iraq when DD1 was 15 months until she was 22.5 months. So that didn't work out. It was better the way it turned out though.

Still wanted third kid 2 years apart from second. Got pregnant and would have been 27 months apart. Lost the baby and ended up almost exactly 2.5 years apart. Worked out better that way too, but kind of wish it would have been 3 years looking back.

[kershnic]

No. 2 Years to TTC and ended up with twins.

[Brie]

We wanted our kids between 2-3 years apart and I didn't want to be hugely pregnant in the summer again. Worked out for us.

[whitepicketfence]

Yep, our timing worked out as we had hoped. DD1 and DD2 are 18 months apart and DD2 and DD3 are 34 months apart.

[turtlegirl]

We wanted our first two close together and I got pregnant the first month we didn't use condoms. They are 20 months apart.

I think DH was ready for no.3 sooner than me, but I just wasn't ready to even think about it until DS2 was almost 2. Ideally I'd like to go get pregnant this cycle or next for both age spacing and work reasons. So we'll see how it works out.

[Deleted]

If we had really been planning it out, what we should have done ideally is had 2u2 and then waited 3-4 years and then had another 2u2. But I don't think a #4 is in the cards for us now. I don't want to go through another pg./newborn stage and kids are so expensive, we don't really have enough room in our house and we don't want to move, etc. etc.

Still though, I'd happily take a two or three year old! Lol.

[sometimesrunner]

I will find out in September. We'll start TTC next month. If my cycles stay consist for this month and next, the next baby and M would have the exact same due date, 5/29.

[ilikedonuts]

I wanted 18 months to 2 years apart. My kids are 2 years and 1 day apart so I think that counts as a success.

[mie]

Yes and no. My oldest and middle have a larger gap because I had a m/c. The spacing worked out for 2 and 3.

[starlily]

It did. We wanted them around three years apart with the hope DD1 would be out of diapers 've having a 2nd child and it all worked out. We also wanted that amount of time in between to find a bigger place to live.

[lillioness]

Eh, not really. It took a year and a half and 2 m/c's to get pg with DD so we started NTNP a little early this time. Of course this one stuck on the first try so they'll be 27 mo apart rather than the 3 yrs we were shooting for. I'm not complaining after everything we went through the first time, but it wasn't what I was expecting. We've accepted it now and I'm looking forward to all the things that a 2 year age gap will bring

[cilantro]

Not so fucking far. Cue violins...

[Deleted]

Pretty much. I had wanted 2.5 years between and we ended up with 2 years, 5 months in between. I got pregnant accidentally the month before we started trying. LOL.

[nonsenseabound]

Almost exactly. I wanted kids about three years apart. My DD and DS are exactly three years apart. I am currently pregnant and then DS and this baby will be 3 years and 1.5 months apart if baby comes on due date!

DS came three weeks early and stole his sister's birthday. First act as a bratty baby brother ;-) I'm praying that this baby is not a Nov 26 baby as that would be about 6 weeks early! too early for comfort.

[teatimefor2]

Yes, surprisingly! When this baby is born they will be about 25 months apart. It took over a year to get pregnant with DS, but it took four cycles for this pregnancy. Ideally I would have preferred them born in the Spring rather than Fall, but that's life!

[egishere]

I wanted mine spaced out but that didn't work out for me! It's ok because our family is complete now.

[Deleted]

DS1 took 8 months to conceive. We weren't ready to even try for #2 until DS1 was 2.5.

DS2 took two cycles to conceive.

We knew we wanted a third, DS2 was an easy baby and we are older parents (me 36, DH 44) so we just went for it when DS2 was 14 months. Got PG first cycle trying.

If our first was an easier baby I would have preferred to do 2U2 and then a 3 year gap for #3. Instead we have done the reverse.

[anaps28]

We wanted kids two yrs apart but my TTC plans went to shit due to multiple miscarriages. Now I am 30 weeks pg and they will be just about 3.5 yrs apart. Honestly I'm not concerned about the spacing, DS still naps ,sleeps great at night and is potty trained. But 3 yr olds kind of suck lol

[docholly]

Yes. I wanted to start trying when our oldest was 18 months. We got pregnant the first month. They are 28 months apart. I am happy with the way they interact etc. i didn't want a super small nor a super long gap. I love it!