I voted ss because Yes, it was our ideal spacing in the sense that we got pregnant with kid# 2 when we wanted to even if it was a little faster than we expected. HOWEVER, the fact that it was twins thereby making it kid 2 and 3 it definitely was not our ideal spacing. 2 under 2 we were prepared for, 3 under 2 is just crazy.
Ha ha...not at all...let's see TTC 6mo & a miscarriage to get DD1 TTC for DD2 roughly a year Oops for DD3 TTC almost a year for DD4
I wanted 2 under 2yrs....then big gap (4-5yrs)...then 2 close together again. -Each set would have a sibling close in age but I wouldn't be overwhelmed & long term sleep deprived.
Instead I got 3 all 2-2.5yrs apart...and it nearly killed me. I gave up the 4kid dream for a while. Finally got back on the TTC bandwagon when DH came around on my 36th birthday...then took almost a year & DD3 & 4 are almost 4yrs apart.
Originally we were one and done...then we were wavering. Then we decided to go for it. We get pregnant very easily but had two m/c and a c/p over the course of 10 months.
so now our kids will be 4.5 years apart instead of 3.5 and I couldn't be more thrilled. DD is going to be a great big sister.
This is the exact gap we have and it is fantastic! I love it and the jump from one to two has been a breeze.
Post by gibbinator on Jul 31, 2014 16:37:49 GMT -5
Yup. It took us I think 4 months to get pregnant the first time (we were expecting 0 to 6). We wanted our kids to be as close to 2 years apart as possible and ds will be 26 months when the new baby is born.
Originally when we thought we wanted two kids we thought two to three years between them. Then we had DS and I thought maybe I was one and done. Then I waffled and we got pregnant in a waffling moment. Five years between the two but I think it's going to be great.
Not even close. We were hoping for about 2 years apart and now we're looking at minimum 3.5ish. I am hoping it'll work out since DD is potty trained and getting much more self sufficient, but it stinks since we were hoping to have a second kid by now.
Post by rootbeerfloat on Jul 31, 2014 19:47:09 GMT -5
We were aiming for 2.5-3.5 years apart, and we weren't really ready to TTC until almost 2. it took awhile the first time and we thought it would again, but it didn't. They are 2yr 10m apart.
Post by fortmyersbride on Jul 31, 2014 19:53:46 GMT -5
Yes, I wanted them 3 yrs apart. DH originally wanted them 2 yrs apart, but it wasn't good time for me work-wise. Once he saw the benefits we had in that gap- DS in PS when DD was born, PT'd, and largely self sufficient, he agreed it was a good gap. I would have timed the third to be almost exactly 3 yrs apart again, but had to delay a few months to plan around work schedules.
I never wanted kids closely spaced together. I wanted to either be OAD or have a 4-ish year age gap so that the oldest would be in school for most of the day by the time #2 came along.
Now our kids will be 6 years apart. This is a-ok in my book, but I probably wouldn't have wanted spacing of 7 or 8+ years simply due to my age.
Post by MadamePresident on Jul 31, 2014 20:18:36 GMT -5
We wanted them close together in age, but never really discussed what exactly that meant. With EBF I didn't have a period until Nods first birthday and we weren't trying and weren't avoiding, but I got pregnant that first cycle. They are 21.5 months apart. It's hard when I have to handle both on my own, but I think it will get better as we get into a routine.
We originally planned to have 3, each two years apart. DD1 and DS are 22 months apart, and then I decided hell no to a third. Two and three are 3.5 years apart. It took me an extra year and a half to wrap my head around three kids.
Post by bugandbibs on Jul 31, 2014 20:44:29 GMT -5
SS- only sort of.
It took almost 4 years for DD1's adoption to finalize and we thought it would take about a year. We didn't ttc until after it finalized and we could move out of state.
3 losses effected our timeline some, but it never took us more than 2 cycles to get pregnant.
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I always thought I wanted to have them 2-3 years apart. It worked out for my first and second (2y4m apart), and I thought we'd try for the same difference with our third, but H said he needed a little more time. Then I did get pregnant and would have been due just before my second turned 3 but ended up miscarrying. Thankfully I got pregnant again quickly, and the difference (3y4m) has been great. It all worked out for the best in the end.
Post by curbsideprophet on Aug 1, 2014 7:30:35 GMT -5
I will say yes. I did not want two under two and we did avoid that. We decided to start TTC number two right around DD's 2nd birthday. We got pregnant the first cycle trying.
I can't complain since we got pregnant within 2 months of trying with DS and one month of DD. I would have preferred 2 years apart had money been no problem. But we had to delay a year since we were trying to buy a house and we couldn't afford 2 in daycare until we had bought the house.
DD was conceived about 6 months before we planned her to be. We were off the pill so we knew it could happen and we were thrilled when it did, just a little shocked. The spacing so far has been great (2 years 4 months) but my original plan was to have them closer to 3 years
Nope. I wanted my kids within 2 years apart from each other so they could be pals growing up. Then the OB said I have to wait minimum 18 mo before trying again due to a c/s. So there went that plan.
Yep! I wanted DD to be at least 2.5 when the baby arrived, and they are exactly 2.5 years apart. We were lucky and got pregnant the first month trying. Hoping for a similar (2.5-3 y) spacing between DS and the next one, so we will not start trying until next fall at the earliest.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Aug 1, 2014 12:25:08 GMT -5
not sure yet! DD was planned, we wanted to start TTC after we turned 30 and it took about 5 months to get pregnant with her. We wanted to start TTC something this summer and so far we've tried two cycles. Onto the third. IT's ok, because i'm relieved dd will be a little over two. I'm hoping to get pregnant in the next 6 months I just noticed my ticker has dd two months younger than she is... it used to be right. that's weird.