I need to get this out

[redheadbaker]

You are NOT a failure! Even with support, solo parenting for six months is stressful!

[rugbywife]

You aren't a failure!!! I am sorry you are struggling. I am too. I just lost it because DD refused to stay asleep when I put her down (but slept in my arms) and I just wanted to eat my fucking dinner. MOTY.

[noodleskooze]

Having to do it on your own is hard. Having to deal with a picky, whiney, exhausted toddler is even harder.

I know you are overwhelmed because it's just beginning, but you can do this. You are a wonderful mom!

[212]

Just because some may have it "harder," don't ever feel bad for bitching because your shit ain't easy. Parenting in general is HARD. Bitch away, hugs, and BOOZE.

[cincodemayo]

Hugs. It's ok to just do the best you can. Hope J and you can get some good sleep soon.

[humpforfree]

Jul 31, 2014 18:50:14 GMT -5 rugbywife said:

You aren't a failure!!! I am sorry you are struggling. I am too. I just lost it because DD refused to stay asleep when I put her down (but slept in my arms) and I just wanted to eat my fucking dinner. MOTY.

This has been me today.

[formerlyllizzyb]

I solo parent a lot the second half of the calendar year, too. It sucks.

[hermione]

Pfffft. You're a super star. I got home from work at 2:30. Put C down for a nap at 3:30. Napped myself from 4:00-5:30 and was still totally DONE by 7:30. The last half hour before 8:00 bedtime was a challenge to say the least.

[lillioness]

Not napping is the worst! DD haven't been napping all summer, and not for my lack of trying. You need a break and are truly doing the best you can. Sometimes it's just about surviving!

[scribellesam]

Anybody who solo parents in the evening on a regular basis is a freaking rock star to me. You should hear me bitch when DH has to work until 6:00 instead of his usual 5:00.

[teatimefor2]

Hugs, parenting is HARD. There will always be someone is has it harder and someone who has it easier. That doesn't mean your struggles are less legitimate.

I swear some days all that keeps me going is saying this too shall pass.

[pierogigirl]

Solo parenting sucks! Is there any way your ILs can watch him late one day, or on a weekend day, so you can get some alone time? I've been sending the kids to daycare two days a week while I'm off this summer (and some weeks, when they're being difficult, that doesn't seem like enough).

[jeaniebueller]

Hugs to you. We all have those days and I don't blame you for being overwhelmed.

[rootbeerfloat]

Hugs.

[Deleted]

You are not a failire! Solo parenting is so, so hard.

[chicago]

You are NOT a failure. Period. This shit is hard!

[Deleted]

I'm sorry you are having a rough time. I feel like that almost every time I am alone with my daughter and it is the WORST when they don't sleep and you can't get a break.

[gibbylod]

I think we all go through times like this where we are completely overwhelmed. It's okay. Being a mom is definitely the toughest job in my opinion (I vote that mother's day should be a whole month of appreciation for all we do instead of just one day !)

Hang in there! Enjoy your beer, you deserve it!

[sjh722]

Don't feel bad. When H is gone, I have DD fed, bathed, and in bed by like 6:55. Days where you are totally solo are HARD.

[maebyfunke]

You're not a failure, and just because someone has it worse, that doesn't mean you aren't allowed to feel stressed and worn. Parenting is just so fucking hard sometimes.

Hugs and enjoy that beer!

[djc315]

You stop it right now. You're an amazing mom and you know it. You are allowed to have a bad day (or week!).

Enjoy your beer!

[Deleted]

Tammi, my family calls this time of year "going in to the submarine." My dad re-emerges in February, after football and recruiting, and practically has to reintroduce himself to us. It was always a hard adjustment- months of my mom being the primary pint of parenting, then my dad showing back up and trying to lay down the law.

Can you join a kids gym or something? Send your son to practice to tackle the dummies, or build forts with them?

[dcn]

This age is really really hard for me, so I get it and i dont blame you. Vent away!!

[wavepool]

I'm sorry today was so tough. You are not a failure! It's nice to have support from family, but it can still be tough when it's just you at home. You'll make it through!

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[Deleted]

*hugs*

[kangaroo11]

I only read the OP, but there must've been something going on with these kids today! I called my mom over in a panic because DD would.not stop screaming at me! I tried everything and was convinced I was just a bad mother. She did call down for my mom, but damn, I felt like a failure today.

[lg28]

Jul 31, 2014 19:16:20 GMT -5 scribellesam said:

Anybody who solo parents in the evening on a regular basis is a freaking rock star to me. You should hear me bitch when DH has to work until 6:00 instead of his usual 5:00.

Ha! This is me. I make DH come home at 430 now that we have the newborn. 

[Deleted]

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Solo parenting is hard- you are definitely not a failure! I hope you enjoyed your drink tonight and tomorrow is a better day!!

[arch01]

Don't feel bad. Solo parenting is tough.

Last year was my first year of having no DH on Saturdays due to football (he has to work the games). It was a huge energy suck-but I found that by the end of the season, it was actually kinda fun. We are in the same spot you were last year, not quite at age 2, and as they get older, it becomes a lot less work and a bit more play IMO. They're eager to help with simple chores (loading the washer/dryer), eager to please (for the most part), the list goes on. The no-nap days suck, and there will be bad days, but hang in there. It's tough to be "on" all the time.

[UnderProtest]

It happens to all of us. Kids know how to push all your buttons at the worst time. You can and will get through this. I had a bad day yesterday too (the kids of MMM must have all conspired). I may or may not have had a friend stop by and we may or may not have gone through several bottles of wine.