I am at work and was talking to one my managers about first impressions. How important to you are they? Do you care? Do you move on if the impression wasn't good? Is it easy for you to get over? Etc I am curious
Post by estrellita on Jul 31, 2014 19:33:44 GMT -5
I'll usually remember a bad impression for a while, but if it was just somewhat bad, I can get over it pretty quickly. I tend to be pretty laid back and allow second chances quite often. I think if I let things get to me that much, I wouldn't have half the friends I have now, haha.
I am at work and was talking to one my managers about first impressions. How important to you are they? Do you care? Do you move on if the impression wasn't good? Is it easy for you to get over? Etc I am curious
Do I care? yes. (I hate it when people are late to be more specifically)
Do I get over it? yes.
I feel like I have made a horrible firs impression here. :(not my intentions I'm pretty awful at that sort of stuff. That is why I don't hold grudges.
Post by wanderingenough on Jul 31, 2014 20:35:11 GMT -5
I always remember a negative first impression. I try hard not to hold to the impression until I know the person better though...especially now that I'm married to an introvert (while I lean much more toward extrovert). I've realized that a lot of what I viewed as standoffish in new people when I was younger, is just a different personality type than mine.
Post by melsamoony on Jul 31, 2014 21:07:48 GMT -5
First impressions aren't very important to me except if I am interviewing someone.
I feel like I change my mind a lot about people. My family has very big introverts and very big extroverts... We are a family of extremes so I feel I understand you have to take time to get to know someone.
It is easy for me to get over bad first impressions. I actually didn't like my now H when I first met him lol.
I love first impressions and think quite highly of them, but I am all for 2nd chances sometimes people have off days, but I usually don't forget about the first time!
I am the same way with interviewing people, those are crucial to me!
I don't let first impressions carry a lot of weight and I get over a bad first impression quickly. The reason being, I often give off a bad first impression without even realizing it. The combo of my shyness, bad resting bitch face, and my hearing impairment that is juuuussst enough to make people think I am merely not listening, has caused a lot of people to get a bad first impression of me. I've had a few people say to me "I thought you were such a bitch the first time I met you but now I know that's not the case."
So basically, because I am always hoping for that second chance, I am willing to give it.
I try to trust my gut when it comes to first impressions. In the past, when I'd get a bad feeling about someone but rationalize it away, eventually I would come to regret it. For instance, when on a first date with someone I'd get a nagging feeling that something was wrong, sometimes I'd ignore it, which turned out to be a mistake.
One time I was interviewing for a job, and everything seemed fine, but the interviewer (who was the company owner) gave off a creepy vibe. I didn't think much of it; I mean, I wanted the job and I was focused on making my own good first impression during the interview. But then at the end of the interview, when I went to shake his hand, he hugged me super close and pressed himself up against me. So my first impression of him being creepy was totally right. Needless to say, I didn't take that job.