update: So I basically laid it all out for ginger

[jigsy]

It sucks that you had to do it, but in the end, it is all for the better. You absolutely deserve to be with someone who will bend over backwards to make you a priority, and while it seems ginger is interested, he isn't really giving it his all, it's more just when its convenient.

(((hugs)))

[kanga1]

Good idea getting it figured out before you get too many feelings invested and you will get hurt/upset

[MyName]

There is nothing better than being honest and straightforward. I think this a great step, @stpete! I hope that whatever happens, you end up happier.

[achase123]

Good for you! Keep us posted.

[kitkat1502]

Aug 1, 2014 15:46:24 GMT -5 jigsy said:

You absolutely deserve to be with someone who will bend over backwards to make you a priority

 This.

Idk, I could be totally wrong but it sounds like you'd be more willing to make him a priority (occasional baby sitter when you have the kids) then he is willing to make changes. I hope he get back to you soon and doesn't leave you hanging, I can't stand that.

[locarb]

I like the straight fwd approach. I hope he's willing to reciprocate. Keep us posted

[WinterIsComing]

I think it is a good email - very honest and straightforward. I hope he says he feels the same but if not at least not you will be able to step away from the relationship if that's what's best for you.

[sweetchix]

Good for you for being honest about your feelings, to him AND yourself. I hope you're able to sit down with him soon.

[1confused1]

Good for you!

[winecat]

Very brave!

[onedayatatime]

A very straightforward email - I hope it works out for you, but either way you will know that you were honest with him and gave him the choice. That is the best you can do for yourself.

[1confused1]

@stpete did he respond?

[1confused1]

Aug 1, 2014 22:16:56 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Nope.

Ugh. Sorry

[MyName]

He's probably busy or thinking of the perfect, breezy but invested, response. No worries.

[berbles]

Aug 2, 2014 9:28:44 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I just want to say, the cool thing here would be to sand an email or text and say, "hi, got your email. I need to think it over and get back to you." I'm not a fan of this no response at all bs. berbles didn't you have some issue when you told the EMT that you wanted a relationship. He took a week, right? Did you guys talk in that time?

We hung out every night in the week between me asking and him accepting.  :?

That's how I learned EMT is really bad at confrontation. He said he knew his answer pretty much right away but just avoided bringing it up. 

[idahome]

I will never understand why it's hard to say "hey, got your email, doing some thinking and will respond in the next few days." Good luck, either way.

[Deleted]

Good for you laying it out like that.

Inspired me to have a talk with my BF. I avoid relationship confrontation. Been dreading it for a week.... Time to come clean.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

I really admire your honesty, StPete. Time management is hard for me in any relationship, open or not. I'm happy you were able to come to some kind of understanding with each other.

[WinterIsComing]

Glad it all worked out. You both handled this situation in a very mature manner.

[DirtySouth]

I missed the OP so I don't know the details, but I'm sorry because I know you really liked him.  

Never mind.  I saw that things worked out.  I'm glad for you, and I'm a big fan of being really open and honest with people.  It seems like you handled it well.