Anyone else a little superstitious?

[persa]

About buying stuff too early?

For example, I want to buy the boys' cribs with the 30% Kohl's coupon coming up next week and I've seen some double stroller deals on CL but I'm only 20 weeks and I'm so nervous.

It's been a totally great pregnancy but it's still high risk and I can't bear the thought of having all this baby stuff if God forbid something should happen.

Anyone else like this? It's not a cultural thing, just me being nervous after all it took to get us here.

[krystee]

I just bought a glider at six weeks and I'm terrified that I've jinxed everything. It's super returnable (Costco) and wasn't on their website so I wanted to get it while it was still in stock. But I'm wondering if I made a terrible mistake.

[azurely]

Yes I'm 26 weeks and still superstitious about doing or buying too much. I think after going through all we did to get pregnant, I'm still nervous that we won't get to bring home a healthy babe.

[persa]

It's like a TTTC reunion up in here, lol. We're a mess.

[Odonata]

I responded to an add of someone giving away free maternity clothes when I was around 8 or 10 weeks pregnant. The box sat in my car for so long, and I grew fast and could have really used them.

Then just a few days ago I bought a ton of cloth diapers from a seller and was so excited but then dreaded the decision. I'm 30 weeks and still paranoid about bringing in baby things- even about having a registry and shower planned.

Actually to get even more nuts I'm paranoid about the school having my ML sub hired already. I keep playing through my mind what would happen if it turns out I wont be having this baby.

[MrsAggie]

I didn't want to buy things in first tri but after that I was okay. As a NICU nurse, I'm more of the mindset that baby could *technically* come anytime after 24 weeks (although I've told him he's not allowed to come out until 40 weeks). I feel like I'll want to have everything done by 34-35 weeks. I guess I'm just a different kind of paranoid?

[awick14]

I don't know if I'm superstitious, I'm not buying things because if we have another loss I will have to look at it. Like this damn crib we bought at 12 weeks last time and I am not 100% sure where we put the bolts for it. :/

[mrspost08]

I think your feelings are normal. At some point the majority of us felt the same. Try to remind yourself buying stuff doesn't change things or jinx things. I calmed down a lot once I got to 24 weeks. This pregnancy was different for me. I knew from the start it would make it. I have outfits hanging in the babies closet from other pregnancies that didn't make it. Once the baby can wear those outfits they will be even more special.

[mrspost08]

Aug 10, 2014 2:49:25 GMT -5 awick14 said:

I don't know if I'm superstitious, I'm not buying things because if we have another loss I will have to look at it. Like this damn crib we bought at 12 weeks last time and I am not 100% sure where we put the bolts for it. :/

My mom bought us a crib 4-5 years ago that sat in the box in our garage. We actually had to move it from our apt to our house. There were times I hated that crib & almost sold it. When we put it up I had forgotten what it looked like & that it had a built in drawer.

[persa]

Aug 10, 2014 2:49:25 GMT -5 awick14 said:

I don't know if I'm superstitious, I'm not buying things because if we have another loss I will have to look at it. Like this damn crib we bought at 12 weeks last time and I am not 100% sure where we put the bolts for it. :/

This is probably where I'm at more so than a sense of "jinxing" things. I don't want to look at cribs and strollers and baby clothes if we have a problem. I'm sorry you went through that.

[specialk]

I am. We are almost finished with the nursery, and I am only 24 weeks. I found out last night that that damn peach recall was extended to my area and I did eat recalled fruit, and now I'm freaked out that something will happen and I will have an entire room in my house that will remind me of it.

[FastHands]

This was hard to navigate with my mom, specifically. I didn't want to buy anything until after the NT at bare minimum, so I kept my head in the sand and didn't even look at stuff or sales etc. We have a fairly small house with extremely limited storage, so anything we bought would be very out in the open should anything go wrong.. My mom, however, was dying to start buying us stuff, beginning with the crib, and it was really difficult to find a way to gently take the wind out of her sails without coming off as ungrateful.

[Odonata]

Aug 10, 2014 2:49:25 GMT -5 awick14 said:

I don't know if I'm superstitious, I'm not buying things because if we have another loss I will have to look at it. Like this damn crib we bought at 12 weeks last time and I am not 100% sure where we put the bolts for it. :/

That's what happened with the small things that we had for our first.  H was so excited he came home from his job in Philly with a little Phillies bib.  After my second m/c I threw it away.  Could not look at it and I had given up.

[KaraOrNot]

I have been so anxious this entire pregnancy. I didn't buy anything or really even think about what needed to be done until after 20 weeks and even then I was very hesitant. It is why I feel so behind now! It isn't that I am superstitious or thought that I would jinx anything, but the reality is that we (especially those on the TTTC board) have seen terrible shit happen and know that pregnancy is not a guarantee of a baby.

[ringstrue]

If the 20 week scan checks out fine, and you are past all your various bloodwork or other testing (besides GD) the stats are overwhelmingly in your favor that things will be fine.

I can understanding waiting, but also it sucks to be huge and tired and not able to prepare your nursery space due to your body. Don't wait too long!

[linz]

I thought I would be more cautious but once I hit 2nd tri I didn't care anymore. There is nothing I can do to prevent something bad from happening so I figured I would start just enjoying being pregnant and getting the nursery ready. The only thing I bought in first tri was fabric because my mom wanted to make the bedding and was eager to start. Once I hit about 15 weeks we painted the nursery and started doing furniture. I love decorating and am enjoying this stage of being pregnant so much that I don't have any fears anymore.

[Poppy]

Yes, definitely. There was a huge reversal in the last few weeks though and now I feel like I need to get in gear or I won't have things ready. It's a nice change, actually.

[toutsuite]

I get it...I still haven't bought anything though my parents have and I am 23 weeks.....I told them they needed to keep it at their house until 32 weeks (this is a completely arbitrary number that I randomly came up with for no good reason). From the limited number of people who know I'm pregnant, I have turned down two showers because I'm scared to get a whole bunch of stuff I would have to give back or return if something happens to baby. This pregnancy has had its fair share of complications so I have never truly felt comfortable and probably won't until baby is home safely.

[awick14]

@toutesuite- how are you 23 weeks already?

[Deleted]

I didn't buy anything in the first trimester. I'm over that phase and buying my little man stuff almost every time I go out.

[rachelgreen]

It's not so much superstitions for me (even though in general I do have some of those) as it is just being in the IF world for so many years, seeing the bad things that happen. My anxiety has just been terrible at times. Luckily my doctor knows this and lets me come in for reassurance whenever I need to.

Even with all that said, the main reason we haven't really bought anything big yet is simply because we have to finish renos on one space before we can move out all the things that are in the nursery currently. Plus we are planning on putting in new windows in the nursery. I feel time slipping away big time right now, lol.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Yeah.. I refuse to buy anything.. but i'm still early, at 20 weeks I probably would. Also, as far as clothes, I assume you're probably going to get a lot of them from babyshower and what not (if you have that, anyway).

[genet313]

i come from a very superstitious crazy Italian family that really doesn't want to buy anything before the baby comes - God forbid you bring on the "evil eye."  seriously, nothing.  no showers, no gifts, nada.  i went to two kids stores with my overly-excited mother this weekend and we didn't buy a damn thing.  

i also am PGAL and IF, so my superstitions are stronger than most.  i will not buy anything until at least 20 weeks, and probably closer to 30 weeks.

ETA:  like mrspost08, i have felt from the start that this pregnancy will make it.  but i still feel superstitious and cautious about buying things.  persa, i think it's completely normal.

[626]

Yeah. I feel the same way. I wanted to pick a few things up, but I just couldn't pull the trigger.
We already have a name picked out, but we refuse to call the baby that just in case something happens as well.
I do feel a bit more relaxed than I did the first trimester though.

[toutsuite]

Aug 11, 2014 1:06:04 GMT -5 awick14 said:

@toutesuite- how are you 23 weeks already?

I have no idea....I wish I could say time has flown but considering all the bleeding I have had, cpp diagnosis, and potential testing for acretta, I'm just counting the days until I make It to viability.  If the cpp stays put, I'll have a c-sec at 36 weeks which is scary to think about....if all goes well I only have 13 more weeks and we haven't even bought anything yet!  How are you doin mama?

[awick14]

Aug 12, 2014 18:23:30 GMT -5 toutsuite said:

Aug 11, 2014 1:06:04 GMT -5 awick14 said:

@toutesuite- how are you 23 weeks already?

I have no idea....I wish I could say time has flown but considering all the bleeding I have had, cpp diagnosis, and potential testing for acretta, I'm just counting the days until I make It to viability.  If the cpp stays put, I'll have a c-sec at 36 weeks which is scary to think about....if all goes well I only have 13 more weeks and we haven't even bought anything yet!  How are you doin mama?

I'm doing very well. I can't wait until my u/s next Thursday. This pregnancy seems to be going by so slowly. I can't wait until I make it to viability.

[toutsuite]

Aug 12, 2014 18:53:39 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Aug 12, 2014 18:23:30 GMT -5 toutsuite said:

I have no idea....I wish I could say time has flown but considering all the bleeding I have had, cpp diagnosis, and potential testing for acretta, I'm just counting the days until I make It to viability.  If the cpp stays put, I'll have a c-sec at 36 weeks which is scary to think about....if all goes well I only have 13 more weeks and we haven't even bought anything yet!  How are you doin mama?

I'm doing very well. I can't wait until my u/s next Thursday. This pregnancy seems to be going by so slowly. I can't wait until I make it to viability.

Day by day lady...We can totally do this....I'm rooting for ya!  Especially all that you have gone through...you are a strong one.

[awick14]

Thanx toutsuite. Talking to the people here has been helping.

[persa]

Thanks ladies.

And I'll say it's not like I'm crippled with anxiety, it's just this thing in the back of my head. And I work with kids and I feel like I've been seeing a lot of former premature twins lately and that's a little stres for me as well.

That said, I just ordered the crib. Mama can't pass up a bargain like that. 30% off with my mom's Kohl's card. And I'll use the Kohl's cash to buy the second crib later in the week.

[GotWine]

I feel the same. With DD I waited until the end of my pregnancy to get most everything. I'll be 21 weeks tomorrow with this baby and I haven't even begun to look at things. I don't need too much for this baby either since most of what we got last time was gender neutral since we were team green. I'm not sure if it's related to a history of pregnancy losses, or just me being paranoid. My husband doesn't feel the same as I do and has already been buying the baby Christmas presents.