Baby Shower WWYD

[jorja]

I'm having two showers. #1 is going to be where we live, hosted by my BFF. It's going to be a co-ed casual backyard BBQ. My Dad and my brothers will be coming to it. It will be more of our friends, but FI's immediate family will be coming to this one.

#2 is more traditional, women only, hosted by one of my Mom's close friends in my hometown. My Mom's family will be coming to this one.

My parents are divorced, and things are not great between them. My Dad has five sisters. Two of them live in Maine and most likely will not come to either shower. Of the remaining three, one lives in my hometown where the second shower will be and the other two live pretty much right between where the two showers are being held. I asked my Dad which one he thought his sisters should be invited to, and he said just to invite them to both and let them decide. The only reason I was thinking they might rather attend the co-ed one is because my Dad will be there. Obviously for the aunt that lives in my hometown, shower #2 will be more convenient. 

I just don't want to be rude and seem like I am asking them to give me two gifts or something. Also, should I go ahead and invite the two aunts that won't attend either to both if that's what I end up doing with the others?

[mrspost08]

Do you talk to them? Can't you ask them which they would attend?

[bethaboo]

I have a close relationship to my aunts so I would just let them know the situation, invite them to both and let them decide. (In fact, I invited a couple of my out of town friends to both of my showers so they could decide which, in any, worked best for them.)

If you aren't close to them, could you invite them to both and let your dad explain the situation?

[jorja]

I'm close enough to them, but we don't really talk on a regular basis.

[rachelgreen]

I would send them both invites with maybe a little note tucked in saying that you weren't sure which shower they might prefer. Fwiw, my parents have been divorced acrimoniously for over 25 years now so I feel your pain when it comes to divorce politics.