@mrsbecky07 not cool. C's daycare is pretty lax on snacks, but out of 10 snacks a week maybe 2 are cookies/some other sweet. Not every day, for sure.
I have to go to Back To School night at C's daycare tonight and I'm already LOLing a bit at the ridiculousness of it. He's not even two, FFS.
Relatedly, he's had a huge verbal explosion since he moved up two days ago. He had on his backup shirt when I picked him up yesterday. It says "Stud" and has a picture of a muffin. (Hence why it's his backup shirt, right?) His teacher was like, "Charlie, what's on your shirt?" and he proudly goes "CUPCAKE!"
Also, I'm going to need a better stain remover for this new class. His clothes came home yesterday completely covered in dirt and fingerpaint and God knows what else. Toddlers are gross.
Lately if J won't eat or is throwing a tantrum h will talk to him in a super grover voice and all is better lol. Today at swim J splashed water onto his face while kicking on his back and was crying he wanted out of the water. H talked to him in the super grover voice and told him it was time to swim and j said ok super grover and kept swimming lol
I'm already having supply issues, and not pumping enough to supply the next day. I went to get my milk out of the fridge yesterday at work, and it was full of about 5 oz. of milk that had somehow spent the afternoon leaking out all of the place. Then I had to clean the fucking work fridge before I could even leave, because it made such a mess.
Does anyone else bristle a little at the use of "first-time mom" in many scenarios? Specifically if you have no plans for more than one child? For some reason it bugs me a bit. I think it's tied to the perception some people have that a woman isn't a "real" mom until she has more than one kid.
I've thought this for a while, and the daycare TV thread reminded me.
H and I sang "try it, you'll like it!" from yo gabba gabba to try to get Bas to eat something last night. He just stared at us like we were crazy. Haha.
E loves "Green Eggs and Ham," but thus far the message is lost on him. Kid wouldn't even try ham a couple weeks back.
I didn't think it was an assumption that you aren't a real mom unless you have a second, I thought it was just acknowledging that with two kids, you can't give so many shits about every little thing. That seems like an indisputable fact. You've got less time and attention, you're forced into picking your battles.
Unless, I guess you are a mommy blogger whose job it is to parent "perfectly" so you can show the world. Even then I'd imagine some stuff will fall through the cracks.
There are definitely plenty of people, here and in real life, who imply or outright say that having one kid is like "practice parenting."
I'll just add this here. We had E's speech eval today. The SPL said she was fine as far as she was concerned and while there's always room for improvement (uh yeah she's 15m) she didn't see a need for speech therapy. She said we could check-in with her in a month if we felt that things weren't improving.
Poor E though, when I dropped her at daycare she flipped and insisted I pick her back up. Then when I handed her over to her teacher she started bawling. Ugh, I think she got confused that it was going to be a family day b/c DH and I were with her in the morning. This was my first all out crying episode and it broke my heart.
There are definitely plenty of people, here and in real life, who imply or outright say that having one kid is like "practice parenting."
Huh. I've never noticed it here (or in IRL, but I guess I don't know as many jerks as you do).
Being unobservant is often times really helpful in keeping my hatred for people in check.
I was just coming back to edit my post with an example. Maybe it's up for interpretation, but I'm thinking of times when people say, "You're such a first-time mom for worrying about that," or "Just wait until you have your second, then you'll see that X [watching TV at daycare, grandma feeding your 4-month-old a cookie, etc.] is really no big deal." I just think it's kind of insulting to say that the feelings of a parent are invalid just because s/he has "only" one child, you know? And I like to think I'd care about my daycare breaking a policy I care about even if I was on my tenth kid.
Does anyone else bristle a little at the use of "first-time mom" in many scenarios? Specifically if you have no plans for more than one child? For some reason it bugs me a bit. I think it's tied to the perception some people have that a woman isn't a "real" mom until she has more than one kid.
I've thought this for a while, and the daycare TV thread reminded me.
Aww, man. I often use it to describe how I parent differently the second time around. I put a lot less pressure on myself the second time around with most things, which is such a relief. My second child is much more laid back and has learned many things from my first, which helps me. It is no way my way of projecting that OAD parents are inferior. That has never once crossed my mind.
I'll just add this here. We had E's speech eval today. The SPL said she was fine as far as she was concerned and while there's always room for improvement (uh yeah she's 15m) she didn't see a need for speech therapy. She said we could check-in with her in a month if we felt that things weren't improving.
Poor E though, when I dropped her at daycare she flipped and insisted I pick her back up. Then when I handed her over to her teacher she started bawling. Ugh, I think she got confused that it was going to be a family day b/c DH and I were with her in the morning. This was my first all out crying episode and it broke my heart.
Yay for the EI results! Sorry for the second part. It kind of surprises me that such young kids really do seem to "get" daily routines. E is the same way with morning appointments--he seems to think it's a weekend day and then is all sorts of upset and confused when dropped at daycare.
I'll just add this here. We had E's speech eval today. The SPL said she was fine as far as she was concerned and while there's always room for improvement (uh yeah she's 15m) she didn't see a need for speech therapy. She said we could check-in with her in a month if we felt that things weren't improving.
Poor E though, when I dropped her at daycare she flipped and insisted I pick her back up. Then when I handed her over to her teacher she started bawling. Ugh, I think she got confused that it was going to be a family day b/c DH and I were with her in the morning. This was my first all out crying episode and it broke my heart.
Yay for the EI results! Sorry for the second part. It kind of surprises me that such young kids really do seem to "get" daily routines. E is the same way with morning appointments--he seems to think it's a weekend day and then is all sorts of upset and confused when dropped at daycare.
Yeah it doesn't help that we were on vacation last week and poor thing got to stay up a bit later and sleep in. This week has been an adjustment back to routines. She definitely thrives on having a routine and knowing what to expect. I think she's a bit OCD like her mother already.
Does anyone else bristle a little at the use of "first-time mom" in many scenarios? Specifically if you have no plans for more than one child? For some reason it bugs me a bit. I think it's tied to the perception some people have that a woman isn't a "real" mom until she has more than one kid.Â
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Aww, man. I often use it to describe how I parent differently the second time around. I put a lot less pressure on myself the second time around with most things, which is such a relief. My second child is much more laid back and has learned many things from my first, which helps me. It is no way my way of projecting that OAD parents are inferior. That has never once crossed my mind.
Same for me. I usually use it just to compare how I did things with one vs. two kids. Because at least for me there are a few things (like no screen time before 2) that literally just seem impossible for me to do for DS2 like I did for DS1.
MadamePresident do not spend any time cleaning! You have a newborn! I'm sure this is a good friend coming to visit. Make them clean. If not good friend, cancel!
I have so many fewer fucks to give for DD than I did for DS. Sorry, FTMs, maybe you'll magically have more energy to burn on everything and be totally unlike me. It's very likely.
Post by leonard131 on Aug 20, 2014 10:42:27 GMT -5
@this Happy Birthday
@mrsbecky07 I wouldn't be cool witht the cookie thing. Like someone said it seems like it is starting a bad habit. Plus you lose bribing point if your kid gets cookies every day. How can you bribe them to be good with something they will get anyways???
I don't think I have ever noticed the "first time parent" thing. To me it is more about you just have prior experience so you kind know what comes next or what to expect. Kind of the same philosphy of when you are doing anything new for the first time. Just with parenting as your kid grows and goes through different stages it is constant. I am OAD and still think I am a real mom and never felt anyone thought I was practice parenting. I will acknowledge my life it probably 100% easier with one the those with multiples so my parenting may be different then if I had two.
MadamePresident do not spend any time cleaning! You have a newborn! I'm sure this is a good friend coming to visit. Make them clean. If not good friend, cancel!
I have to do some, because i at minimum need clean sheets on the bed. Also the guest bathroom is the one I use to spray diapers.
Brie we've taken to soaking DDs laundry in oxiclean powder for 1-2 hours and then washing with oxiclean detergent afterwards. Her clothes are seriously disgusting after daycare!
H and I sang "try it, you'll like it!" from yo gabba gabba to try to get Bas to eat something last night. He just stared at us like we were crazy. Haha.
I use the Green and Ham "you do not like them, so you say. Try it, try it, and you may!" Almost daily with DS. He usually takes one bite and spits it out.
Post by kittycatlove on Aug 20, 2014 13:14:11 GMT -5
@this today is my DH's birthday too. Happy Happy to you.
My MIL just got on FB and her page is wide open (I'm not friends with her, yet?). I went to look to see because she has pictures of my kid on there. UGH, I barely even post my kid on FB, and I'm locked down tight. I just texted DH to tell him to help his mom lock that shit down.
Post by mellimel19 on Aug 20, 2014 13:17:18 GMT -5
Happy birthday, @this!
@mrsbecky07, I wouldn't be cool with that either. A cookie is a treat, not a snack. And I'd feel if my kid were getting treats every day at daycare, that I wouldn't ever be able to give her one at home. Plus I wouldn't want her thinking that treats are supposed to be an every day thing.
My random is that my baby gave me a hickey yesterday lol. I was nursing her in the Beco on the walk home from daycare. At some point she pulled off and I thought was just licking me, drooling on me, like she usually does. Then I felt a pinch so I looked down and I had a big purple hickey on the side of my boob!