Two and done

[Yankees21]

Aug 20, 2014 15:38:47 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Aug 20, 2014 14:51:48 GMT -5 Yankees21 said:

Yeah, I am the same way. Probably flameful, but if hypothetical #2 is a boy I will push harder for #3. I know people hate the "one of each" comments but FOR ME that's ideal (I would never say it to anyone though!)

Let me preface by saying that I DO NOT want a third, period, but.. I would be less unhappy about the idea if I knew it would be a third girl.

Yeah, I have such a great relationship with my mom that I've always wanted that mother/daughter relationship. Obviously I could have a wonderful, close adult relationship with my son or hypothetical daughter could hate me, but it's just something I think about.

[thejen626]

I have 2 girls. First was easy and second has been...more challenging

If I could be guaranteed an easy 3rd pregnancy, and then an easy girl child, I would have a 3rd. But since I can't guarantee those things, we are done, and DH is getting fixed soon.

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Aug 20, 2014 15:38:47 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Aug 20, 2014 14:51:48 GMT -5 Yankees21 said:

Yeah, I am the same way. Probably flameful, but if hypothetical #2 is a boy I will push harder for #3. I know people hate the "one of each" comments but FOR ME that's ideal (I would never say it to anyone though!)

Let me preface by saying that I DO NOT want a third, period, but.. I would be less unhappy about the idea if I knew it would be a third girl.

Lol, this is how I feel about a fourth. If I could have a guarantee that it would be a girl, I'd probably be pregnant already.

But I do love having my two boys. I just think a family of four kids with two boys and two girls sounds perfect.

[scribellesam]

Almost sure we're done after this one. I always wanted two of the same, so two boys seems like a perfect size and make-up for our family. I love babies, but providing for three through to adulthood seems a little overwhelming, and I don't think DH or I have the energy for three.

It is a bit sad that my extensive Disney princess knowledge will likely go to waste, but I have high hopes that I can interest the boys in superheroes and Harry Potter as an acceptable alternative!

[pescalita]

We're done. We were pg with J before we were 100% sold on #2, but from that point on we knew that was it. I had a tubal with my c/s and my H had a v when J was about 3 mo old.

It was 1000% the right decision. Our lives don't have the space for a third. Our sanity, our cars, our house, they're maxed out.

My heart is so sad to say goodbye to tiny baby clothes and snuggles. My heart is also ecstatic to say goodbye to sleep deprivation and pumping. And I know I'd be sad about it if it were my 20th child.

ETA: I have two boys. I was more confident that we were done when J was a boy, not less.

[ringstrue]

Yes. I want to stop paying for daycare by the time I'm 40. Then it's only 8 years til DD goes to college and we gotta save for that and DS college and retirement. Oh and you know maybe go on vacation once in a while.

[cobber06]

2 and done. Part of me would like to experience a singleton baby, but with all my crazy complications we won't have any more kids. Plus my girls are relatively easy babies and we worry that if we had a third it would be demon spawn.


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[cayl]

Before we started TTC we were wavering between 1 and 2. Then I got pregnant with twins, so 2 it was. Now H is 100% positive that he's done. He has zero desire for a 3rd. Whenever anyone IRL asks I always say without any hesitation that we're done, but there's a part of me that wants another. With our finances and living situation (no equity in our 2 bedroom condo) we have no business having a third anyway, but if we won Mega Millions tomorrow I would definitely be asking H to think about it.

[cilantro]

I want to be 2 and through. But I'm starting clomid next cycle. So I'm playing with fire.