Who is YOUR BEC?

[4speedy]

Seems like everyone has one.

Mine is the mom of one of DD's friends.  Her DH is a really nice guy who once said to me, "we just haven't really been able to break into the social scene at this school.  I'm not sure why?"  I felt sorry for him and wanted to tell him it's not his fault, it's because his wife is batshit crazy and everyone knows it.

This mom once told me "Some people marry their soul mates.  I gave birth to mine." She has an only child who is quite possibly the most speshul of all snowflakes EVER.  I've gotten to the point where I just roll my eyes automatically in anticipation of the ridiculousness whenever she gets within 6 feet of me.

ETA:  Her DD was 5 at the time of the soulmate comment.  Not sure what it says about the mom that her "soul mate" operates on a 5 year old level.

So who is your BEC and how what did they do to get to the top of your list?

[mcmel]

My MIL and two ex friends that are BSC.

[fryjack2]

My MIL. Too many reasons to list. I'm working on getting her out of that territory though because it sucks being annoyed at her all the time even when I shouldn't be.

[Booze Raccoon]

My H's sister. If she tells me one more time that my daughter is "weird" or is attached to me...

[katfco]

My SIL (brother's wife). They're both really immature with enormous victim complexes, so most of the comments she makes are annoying, but even when they're not, I'm looking to be annoyed.

When I once posted on FB trying to see if anyone could do some last-minute babysitting for me, she responded with, "I would if I didn't hate kids." (note, she lives 700 miles away, so it's not like she'd be available) Now, even innocuous things are filtered through the "you're annoying" lens.

[nomad100]

So many. So so many. But mainly family members.

[4speedy]

Aug 20, 2014 15:22:26 GMT -5 frkls said:

she's from here so i can't say

Is it me?

[jenny1223]

Definitely one of my coworkers. My main irritation with her is that she is so confident (about work related stuff) and she shouldn't be. She routinely says things that are just flat out wrong/stupid. Most of the specific examples I could give are fully in BEC territory and would be NBD if it were anyone else.

[4speedy]

Aug 20, 2014 15:23:14 GMT -5 Booze Raccoon said:

My H's sister. If she tells me one more time that my daughter is "weird" or is attached to me...

Damn, I hate when kids get attached to their moms.  So weird...

[sparkythelawyer]

This lady I volunteer with and this lady I work with. Both make my skin itch when I have to deal with them.

[citrusmint]

Aug 20, 2014 15:20:36 GMT -5 4speedy said:

This mom once told me "Some people marry their soul mates.  I gave birth to mine."

Barf oh my god. Barf barf barf. Mine is a girl I used to know and still keep on Facebook so I can hate on her when I'm feeling down.

Shitty, but sorry not sorry.

[agnes]

She was a co-worker who I worked with closely before I changed positions. I liked her on a personal level, but everything work related turned in to BEC. She complains about the work constantly. She likes to be a martyr. She adds an extra 20 steps to EVERYTHING. She calls everyone sweety, baby, honey.

I am so happy I don't have to deal with her day to day anymore. SO HAPPY.

[LeggsBenedict]

Aug 20, 2014 15:22:26 GMT -5 frkls said:

she's from here so i can't say

lol.

someone on here totally hurt my feelings once and I've hated her ever since, even when I agree with her, which is most of the time.

[aprilsails]

A friend from high school who moved away and is terrible at keeping up communications. I feel bad because she is a good friend, but it's been 5 years and I am so sick of always trying to chase her down about stuff. I think she can tell too. She's a co-bridesmaid for a joint friend's wedding and I'm just frustrated.

[iamgrace]

My mom often, my sister at times. My H.

[Deleted]

Probably my SIL. We are just two completely different people and we will never see eye to eye on anything. She's very "I'm so smart and anyone who argues with me is an idiot because my way is the right way and everyone should just do what I do".

But other than that, probably these two crazy workout chicks I know.

[LeggsBenedict]

oh, but my real answer is my mil. she's the worst.

[4speedy]

Aug 20, 2014 15:29:33 GMT -5 superduper said:

I clearly don't lurk enough, what is a BEC?

bitch eating crackers

someone who has annoyed you so much in the past that now even the way she eats crackers is annoying to you.  "OMG, look at the way that bitch eats crackers!"  The same action by anyone else would not annoy you but coming from this person, it's inexcusable.

[kristie]

My MIL right now, sometimes my mom. MIL was just here picking up DD1 and I could barely contain my contempt. Don't try to make small talk with me, it's making it harder not to cuss you out.

[schitzengiggles]

A girl I was friends with in HS. She used to be normal but over the last 8 years or so has gone NUTS. I am all about being open to various opinions and stances, but she is everything to the extreme. The worst part is that she acts as though anyone who doesn't share her opinion is wrong/should be felt sorry for/must be missing information.

Examples of areas she is crazy in includes anything relating to attachment parenting (especially breastfeeding and homeschooling), religion and money management.

She is also just clueless about how her stories/opinions come across. For example, with her first child, she had a SUPER easy labor, delivery and breastfeeding experience. After that, it was all about how bad drugs and inductions and fetal monitoring are, and how you just need to prepare!!! and research!!! and relax!!! and plan!!! You can have a perfect birth too!!! (I can't even get started on how ticked off I used to get when she ranted about all that, after an emergency c-sec under general anesthesia at 1 am saved my first DD's life).

Then her second was born and the labor and delivery were even easier. She actually posted on FB "Happy to announce our baby girl X. She came into the world even easier than X did....started contractions at home, had her less than an hour after arriving to the hospital after just a few minutes of pushing. Hahahahaha!!! Sorry, don't hate me because I was meant for giving birth!! Hahahaha!!"

Yeah. No longer FB friends.

ETA: It's BEC because even if I saw her post something normal, I started feeling myself trying to find a reason to be annoyed with it :-)

[Booze Raccoon]

Aug 20, 2014 15:25:35 GMT -5 4speedy said:

Aug 20, 2014 15:23:14 GMT -5 Booze Raccoon said:

My H's sister. If she tells me one more time that my daughter is "weird" or is attached to me...

Damn, I hate when kids get attached to their moms.  So weird...

"too attached"

[cleo29]

Aug 20, 2014 15:26:57 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

Aug 20, 2014 15:22:26 GMT -5 frkls said:

she's from here so i can't say

lol.

someone on here totally hurt my feelings once and I've hated her ever since, even when I agree with her, which is most of the time.

When people post things like this I am left in a fit of curiosity. I admit it, I'm nosey. ?

[sicilygirl]

H's sister. And another "friend" who I actively try to avoid, but she and her H are in our same friend group (and her H is so nice... makes me sad!).

[Deleted]

My coworker. She over complicates things. She willfully doesn't understand as a way of trying to get other people to do the work for her. She always schedules meetings over lunch hours because she does it last minute and most people leave that time free as a courtesy.

Seriously her name makes me angry at this point. I'm dreading when I have to work with her again.

[LeggsBenedict]

Aug 20, 2014 15:35:50 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Aug 20, 2014 15:26:57 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

lol.

someone on here totally hurt my feelings once and I've hated her ever since, even when I agree with her, which is most of the time.

When people post things like this I am left in a fit of curiosity. I admit it, I'm nosey. ?

well I can't say who it is NOW because I said "hate" and everyone will be all, "leggs wants to stab her in the neck!!!"

[revolution]

probably my mom. I'm annoyed at almost everything she does.

one of my SIL's is very close to entering that category

[cleo29]

Aug 20, 2014 15:37:39 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

Aug 20, 2014 15:35:50 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

When people post things like this I am left in a fit of curiosity. I admit it, I'm nosey. ?

well I can't say who it is NOW because I said "hate" and everyone will be all, "leggs wants to stab her in the neck!!!"

oh I know, no worries

[luvvy]

A coworker. Actually, a few of them.

[MrsPenny]

SO's brothers girlfriend. She drives me absolutely up the wall. She lies constantly and the stories become even more elaborate when she is called out on it. She's a one upper, so anything you've experienced or are going through - she has something to surpass it.

She is the biggest drama queen on fb. She constantly bashes bil in her posts. She is constantly looking for attention and validation. She recently created a go fund me to raise $400 for her insurance copays. She did this while simultaneously posting on fb about all of her recently craft supply purchases and buying a designer puppy.

They live in Michigan but are moving back to his hometown in February. At that point they'll be an hour and a half away and I don't think that will be far enough.

[elleblue]

Aug 20, 2014 15:26:57 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

Aug 20, 2014 15:22:26 GMT -5 frkls said:

she's from here so i can't say

lol.

someone on here totally hurt my feelings once and I've hated her ever since, even when I agree with her, which is most of the time.

Cue all the "is it me?" posts. 

But, uh...is it me?