Post by sewpinkgal on Aug 21, 2014 16:40:21 GMT -5
I'm no help either, but thank you for the chuckle.
Been there, done that. FWIW, the last time I got all weird around a guy was a partner at H's firm. I had heard lots about this particular partner and I was expecting an older, distinguished AA man. What he was instead was a guy in maaaaybe his late 40s who could still EASILY be on the cover of GQ. Eff me. At the end of the dinner, H was like "You think he's hot, don't you?" Um, YES Capt Obvious, I do.
I'm trying to picture you going derpy over anything. I suppose I would be in the same boat. You know you want to sneak a pic!
Girl, the first time I ever met H I thought he was super hot and showed it by sitting in silence and staring at the floor the entire time. And there were only 4 of us there so it was SUPER NOTICEABLE.
HAHA! I did this with ONE GUY in college who was from Finland and he knew how to salsa and so did I. We made the mistake of telling our Spanish professors and they made us dance in front of the class. I couldn't think straight because of the hotness and then I had to dance....it was teetering on the edge of disaster.
Sometimes, if you know you're going to be derpily flustered around a guy, it's better to just come out with it rather than try (and fail) to play it cool.
I'd much rather get a laugh out of him from "dude, I'm usually much more composed than this. Turn away so your dimples don't distract me anymore, okay?" And then if he laughs and seems to enjoy it, you can tease him for blushing and suddenly YOU have the upper hand. Then jump his bones. I mean, judge the situation and respond accordingly; not everyone finds that kind of thing charming of course. But if you're going to derp it out, go full derp and laugh at yourself first, you know?
This is excellent advice.
Signed,
The lady who still goes derpy over one of the guys she works with.