@vicmo pugz I had to PM @this to find out who recently friended me on IG, because I could see they were friends with her. Turns out it was TamiTaylor. Keeping track is hard, yo!
Well now I'm offended.
In my defense (lol), I searched through HDBD posts to see if I could match your DS' face before asking this.
Of course, now I see that you posted a screenshot of a Connie Britton tweet and I probably could have gotten it from that...
Post by SallySparrow on Aug 23, 2014 22:09:30 GMT -5
Actually, googling DDs name (first and middle) and my screen name only brings up doctor who links. Even her first and middle with my real first name didn't bring up anything relevant.
So yay for being nerdy and naming my kid after television characters? lol
DD1 has a common first + middle names for women born in the early-mid 1800s. I searched her full name and I saw her name on an AUTOGRAPH community website. Ha ha She's listed as a model with her agency & the address...which was true/accurate, it's just funny. I'll have to screen shot it so she has proof she's on a "celebrity" website.
DD2 has a common name, FB & Pintrest accounts come up. Boring.
DD3 first + middle mostly come up on baby name websites. Guess it's getting more popular. When I googled it when we named her there was very little online outside of info on the obscure Saint.
I googled J's first and middle. Pulls up a lot of underwear models. One that was actually him was a obituary where he was listed at a great-great-great nephew.
His name and my screen name pulls up his birth post on here and TB on the second page. I'm not really worried though, I'm pretty boring.
I'm pretty sure Google is smart enough to defeat the dots. If you really want to beat google, you need to use something like fill in the blanks or a guessing name like "my psycho ex-boyfriend's first name is 'truth or _____' + a sound you make when you taste something yucky, and he shares a last name with the best basketball player of all time".
I like @starry's breakdown. It's very hard to post about your life in a way that makes it impossible for someone on here to figure out who you are. And the extra creepy thing of an IRL contact digging for dirt on you has happened. I don't know if anyone's ever had someone they didn't know -- like a potential employer -- somehow find their posts on TN or GBCN, which would be extra awful.
V is a speshul snowflake, he will always be Googleable. Sorry, kid.
ETA if you google his first middle you get a twitter account for someone in the Netherlands whose full name is "VC" (i.e. this person's first last is V's first middle), and an episode to a children's cartoon. Weird.
Post by asoctoberfalls on Aug 23, 2014 22:47:29 GMT -5
I don't usually post DS's name because it's rather unique. I don't really care if people from GBCN figure out who I am, but I don't want my employer or co-workers tracking me down because sometimes I complain about work. Heh. That's seriously the main reason I try to remain somewhat anonymous here.
Post by kangaroo11 on Aug 23, 2014 23:12:20 GMT -5
I'm FB friends with a few people here (and recently added one person who said she doesn't know who all her friends are) so just PM me and I'll let you know.
I googled my SN and DD's name and came up with hat thread. Her middle is fairly unique and I won't post it ever, but her first + last is the same as an actor, so she won't really be google-able.
I don't like to post identyfying information because I don't want anyone to be reading, see something and think oh that's XYZ! And then go read everything I've ever said. If I had one kid named Madison or Luke or something you hear a lot, I wouldn't worry about being identified.
I've discovered people I know/knew or relatives of people I knew on huge message boards before just by things they've said/names they've used. One used to bitch a lot about her SIL. From making fun of her bridezillaness to everything about her wedding to complaining about requests she made about birthday gifts for her kids. Yep, I knew the evil SIL.
I've posted on GotP about the significance of DS's name so I don't post the actual name in case someone on here wants to Google it. I think it's identifying enough to find me or other family members IRL. I will post an occasional baby picture but try not to leave it up for long, though I've probably slipped up at some point. I have an odd set of personal rules about what I share and how private I want to be...I'm friends with many GBCNers on FB and have visited them in person as well, but won't ever post my face or first name on these boards. Plausible deniability. I feel more comfortable with the baby pics because, let's be honest, babies tend to look alike. My comfort level on that will decrease as DS gets older.
Post by curbsideprophet on Aug 23, 2014 23:40:45 GMT -5
B/c I am a paranoid crazy person?!
I sometimes posts pics and wonder if I should go back and delete them all. I am also not sure of the long term impacts of having that info out there. Since it is not my name I am trying to protect their Internet identity for now.
#notbreezy
I need to work on my IG spreadsheet. At one point I thought I was following @this but now I not sure that I am.
I lol'd when I read this. Even tho I know it's not you...for some reason I always picture you being your avatar. So when you said you don't post pictures my first thought was huh. Idk why...you're the only one who had a fake real person as an avatar who I think is them.
Post by amaristella on Aug 24, 2014 4:24:39 GMT -5
Eh. It's a small world and you never know what may pop up. Back on the other website Stan figured out that she knew (of) me in real life from details that I posted. I've posted A's full name before but I don't make it a point to spell it out constantly. His name, and mine, are not super duper common in the US, especially in combination with middle/last names so if someone wanted to start a drama llama party with us it wouldn't be that difficult for them to do. Especially if I were spelling out our names early and often. For this reason I also try to change up my screen name from one website to the next because I don't think that it's so great to have such an easily searchable trail. Partly I think that I developed this attitude because I'm used to being on the military families board. PERSEC is a very popular subject in the military community, especially as it pertains to OPSEC.
It is especially ironic when people have rules about not posting kid names but will post pictures that lead to their addresses, etc. (via Google image search). With that info, you can get full names pretty easily in my county (if you own property).
In the community where I live everyone's name is posted next to their door on a placard [rank, first initial, last name]. It took me a while to get used to the idea but it's actually kind of useful if you're going to someone's house for the first time and not sure if you found the right door.
Post by chickens987 on Aug 24, 2014 5:55:03 GMT -5
Back when we were on the knot/nest, this is why I was more of a lurker. I was always paranoid someone would be on there and recognize me. All of my friends were getting married too and I figured they might easily find TK. Now I feel like it's way less likely - if they weren't here already, they prob won't find it now.
Post by Velar Fricative on Aug 24, 2014 6:29:04 GMT -5
Googling DD's name shouldn't point to here because she doesn't even have a middle name and her first name is common.
Googling my SN will bring you to a bunch of linguistics pages I'm sure.
I did discover someone IRL here recently. She posted about family and we met once through her family member that I used to be friends with. She is close with the family member but we are no longer friends because that girl was BSC.
Post by andthentherewere10 on Aug 24, 2014 6:45:00 GMT -5
@bunnybean everyone knows Cora's smile! I am quite sure that though I follow tons of ppl on IG from here since my IG name doesn't match this SN they have no idea who I am. Oh wells.
I don't really post anything that remarkable here anyway. I don't post pics too often of me or DS but my avatar gives me away to anyone who knows me fairly well IRL.
I have a handful of you guys on my IG, and I still can't keep track of who everybody is. My IG name doesn't match my name here, and I don't post pictures here, so the people who follow me and the people I follow probably have no idea who I am. If you follow me, though, you're going to be seeing lots of sewing pictures soon since it's time to start working on Halloween projects.
I don't want to leave his name out there because a crazy family member with whom we have no contact has learned to use the Internet. It's the same reason I don't post pictures.
DD's name is not super common, and I guess mine isn't either. I teach adolescents and they are nosy little things. They always tell me they google me and what they find.
1. I am crazy and don't want his name to gain in popularity, because I know when I was pregnant, I looked for inspiration for names everywhere. I know this is illogical.
2. If someone does find me, I don't care so much about the details of me, but I don't want a friend if DS's years from now to see issues we had breastfeeding or potty training or something.
3. I have been found twice. One was a girl I met on a nest meetup before the migration. The other recognized a picture from DS I posted here that her DH showed her on Facebook. Her DH and I went to school together. Neither one bothered me to be found, but after the whole vaba thing went down I decided to delete any pictures and names I posted here. Which is funny, considering how many of you I'm Facebook and Instagram friends with, but oh well.
I don't post any identifying information because of the field I work. It makes me too paranoid that patients could identify something either here or IRL
I'm not so much worried about google as I am that one of the 1,000+ lurkers is my neighbor down the street or another mom from school. As soon as I post my kids names they would immediately know who I am. I'd rather remain anonymous.
I've given up on caring whether people can figure out who I am. I'm pretty open about my personal details and if you know me irl, you could figure it out pretty easily. But so what? I'm not a celebrity or in the witness protection program, lol. So you know I post on a message board. Who cares?
1. I am crazy and don't want his name to gain in popularity, because I know when I was pregnant, I looked for inspiration for names everywhere. I know this is illogical.
1. I am crazy and don't want his name to gain in popularity, because I know when I was pregnant, I looked for inspiration for names everywhere. I know this is illogical.
Me too!!!
This is me as well. I have seen DD's name mentioned on here recently, but not DS. In some ways it is nice to know others like the name as well, but I also don't want it to get too popular.
I post DS's name but I rarely post it with his MN. I should be more cautious overall on here. In my case, I have a BSC sister who WOULD stalk me so I should check myself a bit.
I figure some people are more sensitive than others with regards to privacy. I don't blast E's name just in case my BSC in laws actually do find this place.
@supergreen didn't you have a bio on TN though? I swear I've seen your TH.
Post by undecidedowl on Aug 24, 2014 12:11:56 GMT -5
I'd rather people from real life not recognize me here. But I'm not so paranoid that I never post DS's name just not often.
Also, if you Google my first+ maiden name almost all of the hits are me so I try to be aware of how easy that is. Luckily, I became much more anonymous with my married name.