Post by CallingAllAngels on Aug 24, 2014 19:44:20 GMT -5
All of my local friends are from my running group with the exception of, I think, two. Those two are also runners, but they just don run with my group.
I feel like a total loser, but I have made zero effort to make friends since we moved a year and a half ago... so I don't really have friends (not local ones at least). I think maybe I will make that be a goal for myself next year? Ugh, woes of being an introvert.
It is HARD to make friends. Each time we move it takes us a year +/- a few months to make the first couple of friends. Fortunately, it does seem to snowball; if you have a few friends it is easier to meet more.
We have been here for 11 months and it has just been in the past month that we have been invited to do things by non-work people. (Although even the inspiration for my original post is the wife of a co-worker.)
I feel like a total loser, but I have made zero effort to make friends since we moved a year and a half ago... so I don't really have friends (not local ones at least). I think maybe I will make that be a goal for myself next year? Ugh, woes of being an introvert.
It is HARD to make friends. Each time we move it takes us a year +/- a few months to make the first couple of friends. Fortunately, it does seem to snowball; if you have a few friends it is easier to meet more.
We have been here for 11 months and it has just been in the past month that we have been invited to do things by non-work people. (Although even the inspiration for my original post is the wife of a co-worker.)
I totally agree. I'm on the introverted side (though not as bad as I used to be) and we move a lot (military family). I have a hard time putting myself out there to make good friends, so I sometimes feel like a loner. I think I attract flaky friends, which doesn't help my case either.
A lot of my longtime friends are active to some degree, but I don't have many IRL friends who consistently train and compete on a regular basis. Even when I meet people at races it's hard to stay in touch because usually they still live 30 miles+ from me. I'm okay with it though, because I think of you at H&F as my H&F friends. I'm glad you found a new friend Brit!
ETA: I do have a few people I could potentially run or bike with, so maybe I should quit being too lazy to drive, and try to make a workout date with a friend. I may be more introverted than I realize because I kind of like my all my solo miles.
Post by InBetweenDays on Aug 24, 2014 23:34:39 GMT -5
The vast majority of our friends are active - whether it is running, biking, hiking, climbing, etc. I feel very lucky to have a big group of friends that are runners so if I want a running or race partner (or 11 - for our relay this past weekend) it isn't usually hard to find them.
Most of my friends are into their own brand of h&f. I've got climbing friends, hiking/backpacking friends, cross fitters, strength trainers, and runners. But I don't really do organized h&f with any of them. We talk h&f, but just do our own things. My friends who run are all much more serious and fast than I, so we don't run together.
Honestly, my only non-gym friends used to be from my old church. We had a falling out with that group over the fact that we didn't participate in their potluck-style dinners at the meetings. So there's that
Now all of my friends in the area are from the gym.
My closest friends are not H&F at all. For the most part they just don't get it and think I'm crazy ("you're getting up when?").
Luckily my DH is, although we don't race together (he's no longer a runner) we do bike and hike and workout together occasionally. My only running buddy is a girl I met years ago during marathon training and now that she's got her own business and a kiddo at home we rarely run together. This has actually been on my mind lately, and I'm considering taking part in some of my local Fleet Feet's free distance runs and hill workouts they do on a weekly basis. I used to go faithfully but then we moved so it's not very convenient for me to go there anymore.
Well this makes me feel a bit better! I had some people that I connected with from my old running group, however, I haven't run with them, since I moved and probably won't any more because I live/work on opposite sides of the city. I really need to get plugged into a running group near me.
I am lucky in that I have some pretty awesome ppl to run with at work during lunch though, so that sort of makes up for my lack of running group right now.
Eh, not really - just you guys. Most of my friends have either been friends for a long time, or else I met them through school/work. Running isn't really a social thing for me anyway though.
Post by emilyinchile on Aug 26, 2014 12:09:31 GMT -5
I would say that most of my friends in the US are into H&F to a certain extent, but most of those do exercise to stay fit, reduce stress, etc rather than to achieve specific goals or compete - that's not a criticism at all, just a different mindset from mine right now.
Here in Chile there is less of an exercise culture than I grew up with in CA. I am on a soccer team, but most people on my team are into the game of soccer and the social aspect of it rather than the conditioning/strictly athletic part, so they still think that I'm crazy for doing Crossfit H is a national athlete, so obviously that group of friends totally gets it, as do my Crossfit friends.
I reckon it's like this: 10% h&f types - also into fitness, though this ranges in activity from mountain biking to jujitsu i.e. not necessarily what I am into, generally training for something. 80% little to moderate exercise i.e. not training for anything, not especially sporty but reasonably supportive 5% no exercise, no interest and no support 5% the anti-fitness people who will give snide remarks about how pointless it is / what a waste of time / silly it is to exercise. Generally they don't realise they are being an arse.
Eh, not really - just you guys. Most of my friends have either been friends for a long time, or else I met them through school/work. Running isn't really a social thing for me anyway though.
This! I'm a lone wolf out running and cycling by myself mostly. I'm okay with that