So H goes for his SA on Tuesday. Or rather he has to drop off his sample on Tuesday am. The lab where it has to be taken to is over an hour away, and the sample has to be collected and dropped off within an hour so this means a night in a hotel. We're both off this week and so we're spending the day in the city where the lab is and tying in other vacation activities.
My concern is that H has a tendency to have "performance issues" when he's under a lot of pressure. We had a really hard time one cycle, so H now has some little blue pills if he feels he's going to need them. He psychs him self out and then can't get there. I'm concerned that this is going to be an issue when it comes time to collect the sample on Tuesday AM. I want to try to help him, but the instructions say that he can't use any lube, and *TMI WARNING* I'm guessing saliva and us having sex to the point of getting him off and then just ejaculating into the sample cup are out too.
Any advice on how I might be able to help him in case there are issues? The hotel has wifi, I can always load up some porn on one of our laptops or something. I've been avoiding mentioning it other than to say I booked the appointment because I don't want him to stress about it, nor do I want him to know that I'm worried.
UPDATE: Everything went great this morning and he was able to produce the sample and we got it to the lab in time, even in rush hour traffic! Now we wait 2 days for the lab results to make their way back to the doctor. Then more if they make H go for an appointment to get the results rather than just being able to get them over the phone.
Oh thats a good idea! He does like to watch me with BOB (battery operated boyfriend)... haha. I guess it's time to go buy more batteries since I haven't replaced them since they died a few weeks ago.
I'm surprised your doc didn't give you detailed instructions. When I got the instructions from mine it seemed like they were long as a novel!! No saliva or sex, and no sex for at least 3 days before but no more than 7 days of abstaining... etc. The pp's suggestion was a great idea. Just help him along the best you can. And, if it doesn't work, try, try again. Good luck!
We got a fairly detailed instruction sheet from his doctor and it had the don't ejaculate for at least 2 days but no more than 7 days, must be collected by masturbation, no lube, etc. It didn't say anything about saliva, but I assumed so. I also wasn't there when he was at the doctor so I'm not really sure what else his doctor told him.
We really need this to work on Tuesday otherwise it means taking time off work, spending more money on a hotel, etc, etc. It's so frustrating that there isn't a clinic closer that will take the sample but only so many in our area do fertility testing.
Whatever happened to those clinics that have the special rooms for this purpose? Do those only exist on TV and in the movies?
No, you can't be involved in helping him, and no lube etc. because the sample needs to be as "sterile" as possible.
Also, he doesn't need a huge sample for the SA, my H's sample was on the lower scale of volume which is common, the doctors know that guys are nervous and that they may not be performing "as usual".
He can't ejaculate for at least 2 but no more than 5 days beforehand.
Post by mandiespharm on Aug 25, 2014 9:31:01 GMT -5
My poor husband had a pretty laughable experience when he went for his SA. Every time he was just about to finish someone would knock on the door. So there is something to be said to doing it "at home" versus in a room somewhere in the hospital/clinic. It was pretty crazy and all I can say is that it's a good thing my husband can laugh about it to this day. I hope everything goes okay and that he can find a way to stay calm! Good luck!
Can you see if you can get one of the sterile condoms from the clinic as well? He can go in that and you just tie it closed. That way you can help him, this is what we've always done.
Can you see if you can get one of the sterile condoms from the clinic as well? He can go in that and you just tie it closed. That way you can help him, this is what we've always done.
I've never heard of those. We were given the collection cup by his doctor and we aren't leaving for the city until tonight. If we have to do it again, I will look into that.
Post by starburst604 on Aug 25, 2014 10:42:02 GMT -5
I agree with not mentioning it ahead of time, it might create pressure. I think you have some good ideas that you could present (porn) if he has any difficulty. It's probably a good thing that he can do it outside of a lab, because "ok go into that little bathroom and jerkoff" is a special kind of pressure!
Can you see if you can get one of the sterile condoms from the clinic as well? He can go in that and you just tie it closed. That way you can help him, this is what we've always done.
I've never heard of these either! My H hates the tiny collection cups, this seems so much easier!
Post by patches31709 on Aug 31, 2014 19:15:25 GMT -5
I'm going to jump right in and make this my first post on this board, but my poor DH had to take care of business in the bathroom of the lab, which he said was right off the waiting room. I felt bad, but the only lab in our area that does SA is over an hour away, so he had to do it there.
Hi patches31709, welcome! I'm surprised they let him do it there. Our lab was very clear that the sample could not be collected in their building.
Any idea why? I googled, but didn't really see anything.
I'm not sure, we weren't even allowed in the building. We to have an appointment to even drop off the sample but when we went in the door it was just a little window that the lab tech opened and took the sample and paperwork.