I'm glad this week of training is only 4 days. I'm really looking forward to a 4-day birthday weekend.
The match guy texted me Sunday evening. He wanted to meet for dinner yesterday, but had a bad reaction to a bee sting. Something about the way he's handling it is leading me to think he might end up being needy. We shall see.
I'm not sure if I am getting the "I want to talk to you more but I need a conversation starter." or "I neeeed to talk about this with somebody!" vibe from WG.
What's giving you the "might be needy" vibe tiramisu?
He asked my opinion about his reaction to the bee sting and then sent me photos of the swelling yesterday afternoon. Maybe it was just so I'd know he wasn't flaking. I can't put my finger on exactly what it is and I could be wrong. It does seem like lots of needy men end up wanting to date me, so I'm on guard already.
What's giving you the "might be needy" vibe tiramisu?
He asked my opinion about his reaction to the bee sting and then sent me photos of the swelling yesterday afternoon. Maybe it was just so I'd know he wasn't flaking. I can't put my finger on exactly what it is and I could be wrong. It does seem like lots of needy men end up wanting to date me, so I'm on guard already.
Yeah, that's a little too "I'm not lying! SEE!?" for me. Doesn't he have a friend he could ask "does this look all right to you?"
As for WG, I've been getting pressed about the Dr. Who premiere (last week he brought it up in the "it's saturday, you excited?" way and when I saw him Sunday, he told me it was awesome then asked about it being shown in the theatre--and asked if I could just drag the kids with me to see it since they were only showing it last night). So I can't tell if he's chomping at the bit to talk about it (which is possible, it's a safe topic for us) or if he's looking for something to talk about since conversation has been sort of floundering the last few weeks.
I don't see a bee sting as a reason to postpone a date, unless you're going into a severe "Need to go to the ER!" allergic reaction. But maybe I'm too "run a little dirt on it, you'll be fine"?
(and I hope it's a conversation starter too, we'll see. He really pressed me about it on Sunday, to the point of mentioning itunes and said "that's perfect then" when I told him I'd probably buy it on amazon instant).
I think he's having am allergic reaction to it, it's pretty swollen and red and I remember him saying it was getting hot. I'm not surprised he ended up going to the ER. I think I'm not rushing to cut off that avenue because 1) he's pretty cute and 2) lots of people don't handle being sick or injured very well. Plus I'm trying to figure out cultural differences. Oddly enough, I'm attracted to another foreign-born man.
I think he's having am allergic reaction to it, it's pretty swollen and red and I remember him saying it was getting hot. I'm not surprised he ended up going to the ER. I think I'm not rushing to cut off that avenue because 1) he's pretty cute and 2) lots of people don't handle being sick or injured very well. Plus I'm trying to figure out cultural differences. Oddly enough, I'm attracted to another foreign-born man.
I am so scatter brained today. I can't keep my mind focused on anything for more than five minutes at a time.
I do have a question that I'd like to get perspective on. H and I accidentally fell into a conversation about finances this morning. We're saving for a down payment on a house, and I wasn't able to put the full amount into savings this month because some unexpected bills came up. (I should mention that I'm the sole bread winner right now.) I am easily stressed out when we start talking about money, and I'm already stressed about other things, so this conversation went downhill quickly.
H wants to take more responsibility for the finances. Which would be fantastic! One less thing on my plate AND I don't have to think as much about something that gives me instant anxiety. The problem is we never joined our accounts, so he wants access to my account so that he can keep track of bill payments and deposits and whatever else people track when they're trying to save up for a big purchase.
ummm...no...no, I do not want him to have access to my account. It's not that I think he would do anything bad (or that I'm hiding anything from him, which I'm sure is what he will think). It's that I don't want to have to justify/explain every "fun" purchase I make (or every time I cave in to my fast-food cravings).
I'm okay with the idea of opening a brand new joint account and letting him have control of that. That way we each get to have our own personal, separate accounts for our fun money.
Is this unreasonable? Is it wrong to think I should have at least some autonomy when it comes to money?
I think you need to find a way to invite yourself.
Heh. I tried the "If someone would let me borrow space on their couch and some dvr time, that would be awesome" hint last week, but it went over his head.
I am so scatter brained today. I can't keep my mind focused on anything for more than five minutes at a time.
I do have a question that I'd like to get perspective on. H and I accidentally fell into a conversation about finances this morning. We're saving for a down payment on a house, and I wasn't able to put the full amount into savings this month because some unexpected bills came up. (I should mention that I'm the sole bread winner right now.) I am easily stressed out when we start talking about money, and I'm already stressed about other things, so this conversation went downhill quickly.
H wants to take more responsibility for the finances. Which would be fantastic! One less thing on my plate AND I don't have to think as much about something that gives me instant anxiety. The problem is we never joined our accounts, so he wants access to my account so that he can keep track of bill payments and deposits and whatever else people track when they're trying to save up for a big purchase.
ummm...no...no, I do not want him to have access to my account. It's not that I think he would do anything bad (or that I'm hiding anything from him, which I'm sure is what he will think). It's that I don't want to have to justify/explain every "fun" purchase I make (or every time I cave in to my fast-food cravings).
I'm okay with the idea of opening a brand new joint account and letting him have control of that. That way we each get to have our own personal, separate accounts for our fun money.
Is this unreasonable? Is it wrong to think I should have at least some autonomy when it comes to money?
Why are you the sole bread winner?
Is he questioning as to why you didn't put $ into the house savings?
Does he think you are not doing a good job with $
Mr. Mags and I have a joint and 2 separate. We each put set amount into joint each month. The rest goes into our own.
I will have more to say after I hear your response.
Post by captainmel on Aug 26, 2014 10:24:54 GMT -5
tiramisu, maybe he just wanted a little more attention? cuddlyevil, "oh I found these great Doctor who inspired drink on pinterest. If I catch up on the premier this week, maybe I can just come over next Saturday for the new episode. Then there won't be ANY delay in our discussion and we can try delicious beverages!" SwimDeep, I think a joint "house expenses" account is in order.