I started on MM back in the day but moved over to mostly lurking on ML. I recently married a guy with 2 kids. He had a vasectomy 8 years ago in his 20's when his marriage was in a bad place, but before he met me he had decided he wanted at least one more kid. We will be starting TTC sometime in the next few months. We've decided to go straight to IVF since I have no known fertility issues and vasectomy reversal can take a year to work, plus given how long it's been it may not work at all.
The stats: I'm 30, H is 34. We have an 8 yo and 12 yo we have 50% custody of (more in reality since we get most weekends). We want one kid but if we get multiples from IVF, we'd be happy about that too. We will however only pursue one pregnancy, and however many we get we get. We will start with the physician consultations sometime this fall. I'm really nervous about it. I've never wanted anything more in my life and I'm scared that it won't work. I wish we could get pregnant naturally and I'm sad that I'll never have that. My friend told me she was PG yesterday (first month trying, also got PG with her first kid first month trying) and I said "congratulations, fuck you, and I love you!"
I started on MM back in the day but moved over to mostly lurking on ML. I recently married a guy with 2 kids. He had a vasectomy 8 years ago in his 20's when his marriage was in a bad place, but before he met me he had decided he wanted at least one more kid. We will be starting TTC sometime in the next few months. We've decided to go straight to IVF since I have no known fertility issues and vasectomy reversal can take a year to work, plus given how long it's been it may not work at all.
The stats: I'm 30, H is 34. We have an 8 yo and 12 yo we have 50% custody of (more in reality since we get most weekends). We want one kid but if we get multiples from IVF, we'd be happy about that too. We will however only pursue one pregnancy, and however many we get we get. We will start with the physician consultations sometime this fall. I'm really nervous about it. I've never wanted anything more in my life and I'm scared that it won't work. I wish we could get pregnant naturally and I'm sad that I'll never have that. My friend told me she was PG yesterday (first month trying, also got PG with her first kid first month trying) and I said "congratulations, fuck you, and I love you!"
Good luck! My DH had a vasectomy in his first marriage as well (no kids). We had it reversed after 8 years, right before we started TTC. It is said that if you're going to get pregnant from good old fashioned sex after a reversal, it's most likely to happen in the first year. However, we tried on our own for six months and got his post op SA, which showed that while he does have sperm (so the reversal was successful), they can't swim very well. We saw my OB first, then an RE, and did a total of 5 IUIs. So we're moving on to IVF next month and it's been 2 years exactly since his reversal.
If you have any questions about the IVF process, check out the TTTC board. There are lots of IVF veterans and newbies alike.
Welcome and good luck with the IVF process! I'm sure there's got to be a kind of mourning that you won't be able to get pregnant without those interventions, but your thought process with your friend made me chuckle.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.