I broke up with ginger a week or so ago. I didn't say anything here because I feel like a lot of people assumed it wouldn't work since we weren't monogamous. The breakup had nothing to do with that and a lot more to do with wanting to be with someone who has more time for me. I'm still kinda bummed because I really liked him and he was fun to be with. But I'm glad that I chose to end something that wasn't working for me instead of hanging on hoping it would. It's the first time I've broken up with someone I still had feelings for and while it kinda sucks I think I made a good choice for myself.
I'm sorry good for you for doing what's best for you though!
She just told me the night before that work was crazy and she couldn't make it (she had taken the day off, I don't know if something came up or what).
I'm really sorry. I can relate - one of my bridesmaids bailed on me for her new bf two days before the wedding.
Honestly, I only spoke to her maybe twice after that. It wasn't worth keeping her as a friend.
Ugh, I'm really sorry that happened to you! I'm evaluating our relationship now, I feel like I'm always going out of my way to see her, and she's always been flaky. Missing my wedding (she was supposed to be our witness) just feels kind of like the last straw. I don't know, maybe I'll feel differently after a little time.
Like I said I LOVE her name. LOVE. And I've told you that before Lila!
But I also think its important that you don't HATE your name. I mean, I've had name issues, and only recently started loving my name. So I get it. IDK....
I think Lila's name is awesome. I also hated my name growing up. There was never anything that had my name on it, I never knew anyone else with my name, and there were no good nicknames for it. Most people I introduced myself to loved my name, because it's unusual, and couldn't understand why I didn't like it. I've just recently got to where I don't hate my name, but I still don't like it. A couple of years ago I met the only other person I've ever met who has my name. She was 5. I was 45 or so. Sucks.
This is probably flameful. Our adoption agency requires we attend continuing ed meetings every month or so with other couples in the pool. I absolutely judge the couples we meet and determine whether I think a potential birth mom is more likely to choose us or them. I know it's not a competition bc different potential birth moms look for different things, but it's really hard not to do it. Then I feel bad bc I think they're being nice, asking about us and Sharing Info about themselves and here I am using their info to make myself feel better (sometimes worse). :/
I have sensual dreams about women all the time. I've kissed a couple, but it's never gone farther than that.
I have fantasized about bringing another woman into the bedroom for a night, but I'm pretty sure husband thinks I'm joking. Also I'm kinda scared that I might discover I like women more than men.
There's a girl who frequents our bar that BF has asked me about a few times. I keep saying no because I don't think she'd be a good third. I think she likes him. And that would be bad news for her.
Being the third is so much easier I think. When thinking about bringing a third in, I find it hard to picture what kind of woman would work for me. She has to be attractive, but not too attractive. I am still the star here.
This seems like a good place to put that H and I have recently talked about adding a female to our relationship. I even joined dating sites and drafted up an email to send to a woman on CL, but I chickened out.
Post by aussiecrush on Aug 27, 2014 12:51:14 GMT -5
I really got lucky with an H who is heteroflexble. Guys don't bring out my jealous streak. Unfortunately our third is on the other side of the planet. I'm not sure why we haven't bitten the bullet and looked closer to home.
1. I'm watching those evil Duggars. 2. It's the episode where they lose a pregnancy at 18 weeks. I am in tears. I lost a pregnancy at 20 weeks and I don't think I've properly grieved the loss. This is forcing me to think of things I don't want to.
I turned the tv on last night and before I realized what I was watching, it was too late. That episode killed me. I had a late loss and am now currently pregnant, and I couldn't stop the tears.
Ok, so let's be real here: how would one go about finding a couple??
Or does one wait for it to fall into one's proverbial lap?
One would like to know.
Not me.
Mine found me at a bar on Halloween. I think you, as the third, just need to put yourself out there. I think the woman of the couple is more likely to approach the third since it comes off as a little less skeevy, IYKWIM.
I think applies to a lot more people than simply gay, straight or bi. In H's case, he is interested in sex with guys, under certain circumstances. He doesn't want a relationship with a guy. He cares about our third very much but they are friends, not boyfriends.
Post by Bree Van de Kamp on Aug 27, 2014 13:04:30 GMT -5
I can't stand the sight of Benedict Cumberwhatshisfuck. The first movie I ever saw him in was Atonement, where he played a slimy pedophile rapist who destroyed so many lives. I can't shake the feeling, and I don't care to. To me, he's forever repulsive.
This seems like a good place to put that H and I have recently talked about adding a female to our relationship. I even joined dating sites and drafted up an email to send to a woman on CL, but I chickened out.
I would find one in person - maybe someone you already know. Just me, but the thirds we've found online always seem more awkward.