riverpestie - what happened at your party with your FI's friend that acts all sketchy around you?
She ignored me the entire time she was there.
She originally told him that she was going to come early because she would be hungry and wanted to eat... she ended up showing up later, with two HUGE bags of beer (from her house warming party, that apparently FI attended while I was in Greece). She walked in the door, I smiled at her and she immediately looked down, so I just continued to talk to the person I was talking to before she opened the door.
I was busy trying to talk to everyone at the party (there were about 40 people there) and never got around to where she was to actually formally introduce myself. Just as I was about to go outside where she was, she came in, walked over to FI, talked to him for two seconds, gave him a high five and left.
She also left her reusable bags at the house, so at the end of the night, I gave the bags to two other members of their bowling league and told them they are hers.
Later on that night, FI was trying to talk about her to a friend of his and I was drunk and got irritated because if they start dating, then this chick will be around all the freaking time, because they're pretty good friends and they hang out frequently. He is the guy they go on a trip with every year to Europe, South America, Asia, etc... I didn't make a scene or anything, I just told his friend that he doesn't want to date her. HA HA! LOL!
ANYWAY, FI and I talked about it on Sunday. I explained to him why I felt the way I did, he understood and said he noticed that she acts that way towards me, which he also thought was weird. He said he doesn't plan on registering for another bowling league with her or any other team for that matter.
Tonight he has his current bowling league with her, and I can't go because I have class, so that's awesome. :^)
Well I'm glad he sees it riverpestie and that he won't be on any more teams with her. She rubs me the wrong way.
Yes! Why doesn't she talk to me? Hell, at this point, I would like eye contact! I am tired of seeing the top of her head when she stares at the ground!
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Aug 28, 2014 9:50:10 GMT -5
riverpestie - honestly, I wouldn't trust that girl and I am REALLY glad that your FI sees it. There was a girl like that in my EXH's group of friends. She would avoid me any chance she got but when I wasn't there she was all over my EXH. Eventually they ended up hooking up. I'M NOT SAYING THIS WILL HAPPEN AT ALL TO YOU, but I just have a weird feeling when girls are super friendly and close to a guy in a relationship and a complete snatch to the girl in the relationship.
riverpestie - honestly, I wouldn't trust that girl and I am REALLY glad that your FI sees it. There was a girl like that in my EXH's group of friends. She would avoid me any chance she got but when I wasn't there she was all over my EXH. Eventually they ended up hooking up. I'M NOT SAYING THIS WILL HAPPEN AT ALL TO YOU, but I just have a weird feeling when girls are super friendly and close to a guy in a relationship and a complete snatch to the girl in the relationship.
I had the same experience with my xh - I don't trust girls who can't be friendly (or even polite) to their friends GF/FI/wives. It makes all the difference though that your FI heard your concern.
riverpestie - honestly, I wouldn't trust that girl and I am REALLY glad that your FI sees it. There was a girl like that in my EXH's group of friends. She would avoid me any chance she got but when I wasn't there she was all over my EXH. Eventually they ended up hooking up. I'M NOT SAYING THIS WILL HAPPEN AT ALL TO YOU, but I just have a weird feeling when girls are super friendly and close to a guy in a relationship and a complete snatch to the girl in the relationship.
I completely agree - everything about her behavior bothers me and screams don't trust her. If she really just wanted to just be friends with him, why would she not want to get to know his FI. I have a few really good guy friends and I always want to know their SOs.
Glad your FI listened to your concerns and also see that her behavior is off.
riverpestie - honestly, I wouldn't trust that girl and I am REALLY glad that your FI sees it. There was a girl like that in my EXH's group of friends. She would avoid me any chance she got but when I wasn't there she was all over my EXH. Eventually they ended up hooking up. I'M NOT SAYING THIS WILL HAPPEN AT ALL TO YOU, but I just have a weird feeling when girls are super friendly and close to a guy in a relationship and a complete snatch to the girl in the relationship.
I had the same experience with my xh - I don't trust girls who can't be friendly (or even polite) to their friends GF/FI/wives. It makes all the difference though that your FI heard your concern.
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I have 0 issues with people in a couple being friends with people of the opposite sex. HOWEVER, I am a strong believer in the concept of being a friend to the couple. You don't have to be BFFs with all your SOs girlfriends (and vice versa) but any indication that a friend is not a friend to the couple, they need to go.
She's into your FI. And she's weird. This situation sucks, I'm sorry. I would be irritated, too. And I'm glad he sees how strange her behavior is. I hope this is the start of a slow phase-out of the friendship.
I had the same experience with my xh - I don't trust girls who can't be friendly (or even polite) to their friends GF/FI/wives. It makes all the difference though that your FI heard your concern.
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I have 0 issues with people in a couple being friends with people of the opposite sex. HOWEVER, I am a strong believer in the concept of being a friend to the couple. You don't have to be BFFs with all your SOs girlfriends (and vice versa) but any indication that a friend is not a friend to the couple, they need to go.
Post by riverpestie on Aug 29, 2014 9:14:55 GMT -5
Tiny update!
FI had to work late last night (didn't get off until 8:30), bowling is about 30 minutes away and starts at 8:40, so he didn't go. Last night was their last night with this league!
So, they won't be seeing each other on a regular basis anymore. YAY!
FI had to work late last night (didn't get off until 8:30), bowling is about 30 minutes away and starts at 8:40, so he didn't go. Last night was their last night with this league!
So, they won't be seeing each other on a regular basis anymore. YAY!
Awesome update! Hopefully you will not have to deal with that toxic girl anymore.