I wasted a lot of college opportunities staying with a really crappy boyfriend. I regret not dumping his sorry ass (or even dating him to begin with). I don't necessarily wish I had slept around more, but I do wish that I had dated and made out WAY more.
DH talk about this a lot. Had we known we would meet each other right out of college, settle down and get married in our mid twenties we would have totally slept around more in college. He has slept with one more person than me and all but one for him were in semi-relationships and all mine were in semi-relationships. If we could have just done more casual hook ups without wondering "is this the one?" we would have had a lot of fun. Also, if I had had the confidence with guys that I have now would have been super. Without the pressure I am so much less of a spazz.
This would also have required me to have a good enough self esteem to not want to crate a relationship with any guy willing to kiss me.
I'm right here. I was so interested on creating a relationship that I scared people away. Also, my father was in a leadership position on campus and he loomed Large over my college experience.
Post by hbomdiggity on Aug 27, 2014 17:43:42 GMT -5
I prob wasted some college opportunities being in a long distance relationship the entire time, but then again I really wasn't interested in the frat guys (says the sorority girl). I only added a few notches in years between the breakup and meeting H, and I don't really have any regrets about that.
Post by crashgizmo on Aug 27, 2014 19:56:38 GMT -5
I was a cute bartender with tattoos, a Jack Daniels habit, and an attitude from like 19-25....it was bad (but oh so fun and worth it!). My number is WAY higher than my DH and he's 10 years older. I honestly don't regret it, it was so much fun. I'm also glad that I met DH and settled down, cause that lifestyle would have worn me down.
I wouldn't say I was out sleeping around, but now, looking back, some of them served no purpose. I can say five of them, it was worth it one way or the other. (my first love, a nice college hook up that could have been more, the father of my DD1 (besides that I could have done without), a lifelong friend that we finally sealed the deal and were friends with benefits for several years, and my DH). My others, while not high in number, seriously lacked quality - whether physically or emotionally. It was a waste of my physical/emotional energy.
I was in the Navy, and while I didn't get married to the first guy that looked my way, I did get married young. Then I got divorced, still young. I'll tell you, being in the military as a young, single woman is AWESOME for the ego. I also learned tons about myself sexually, what I liked, what I didn't like, etc. Unfortunately, I didn't learn that an amazing sexual relationship wasn't grounds for a marriage if there wasn't really more to it. So, that led me to marriage and divorce #2, maybe not young, but not old either. I was 34 then, and apparently right at my prime. I dated a bunch, slept with a few, and met DH, although it was just a fling with him at the time. After DH and I broke up then (obviously he wasn't my H at the time), I continued to date a bunch. DH and I just randomly ran into each other 5 years after we broke up, started dating again, and got married later that year.
While there are guys I wish I could subtract from my "number", I wouldn't change a thing.
I wish I had gotten around more. I started dating my husband at 19. We are each others' onlies. I guess there's something special about that (though that's kind of meh to me), but I would have loved to have some time in my 20s to be single.