I don't think I would invite myself unless it was discovered that my not being invited was an error.
And just how would you discover that?
You're right, I would never actually invite myself - I was thinking more like the group walked by my desk and said "come on" and I didn't know what they were talking about because I was left off the email invite, but that isn't inviting myself at that point. If they walked by and said nothing, no way would I say anything.
You're right, I would never actually invite myself - I was thinking more like the group walked by my desk and said "come on" and I didn't know what they were talking about because I was left off the email invite, but that isn't inviting myself at that point. If they walked by and said nothing, no way would I say anything.
Mmmmm...maybe if I thought they legitimately forgot about me. Like, if my whole department went out to lunch without me that would be such an uncharacteristic dick move that I'd be like, "Yo! What's up?"
Was there one person specifically excluded? Was it reasonable for him/her to expect to be included?
Ugh, sorry you have to sit by LOU to be be buffer. Maybe share some stories about how you know some people who invited themselves places that they weren't really invited to and how everyone was so embarrassed for them that they couldn't read the social cues to figure out that no one liked them.
The liar/one-upper ("LOU"). It hasn't happened yet, but it will in 1.5 hours. She simply declared she was joining the group.
I warned our guest of honor (who greatly dislikes LOU) and told my friend I would sit next to LOU and be a buffer.
Ugh. The things I do for my friends.
(The lunch is a pre-maternity leave send-off for a party of 10. LOU's omission was absolutely intentional.)
Boo. It sucks that your guest of honor has to have this person there, but I hope you come back with some more crazy liar/one upper stories. She is fascinating, in a horrible way.
She is the worst. I am so sad she is coming. This was going to be such a fun lunch.
There is no elegant way to dissuade her from joining.
No. Maybe very rarely, but generally if I am not asked to something, I don't want to force the issue and then realize I am with people who did not want me there in the first place.
The last thing I invited myself to was a party in 7th grade, and when I got there some girls were like, "it is true you invited yourself?" and it was humiliating and awful.
Thinking about inviting myself anywhere else gives me hives.
Boo. It sucks that your guest of honor has to have this person there, but I hope you come back with some more crazy liar/one upper stories. She is fascinating, in a horrible way.
She is the worst. I am so sad she is coming. This was going to be such a fun lunch.
There is no elegant way to dissuade her from joining.
Post by miniroller on Aug 27, 2014 13:00:58 GMT -5
It really is the informer's responsibility to finagle LOU outta your lunch. I realize it was obviously unintentional, but no. Hasn't LOU ruined enough of your good times, Miso?! Tell the informer to be extra BREEZY about the uninvite disinvite!
The last thing I invited myself to was a party in 7th grade, and when I got there some girls were like, "it is true you invited yourself?" and it was humiliating and awful.
Thinking about inviting myself anywhere else gives me hives.
Post by revolution on Aug 27, 2014 13:11:57 GMT -5
Pretty much never.
At my first job, I had been there not quite a year... and I overheard a group of people talking about going to the Preakness. I invited myself to that. lol. I had no friends and was in a state I didn't know anyone and having a hard time, so I just told them I'd like to go. I went. Me and a bunch of guys and *gasp* shared a hotel room with my then male boss and 2 other guys. They are now all very good friends of mine. <--- all kinds of inappropriateness happened at that job. it was fun.