I read this like three times and still can't imagine how scary, sad, and horrifying this must have been.
It sounds like you really kept your cool and aided the professionals in a level-headed manner, despite the awfulness of the situation. You are a rock star.
Nope. I was a shaking mess and tears flowed the minute they took him off the plane.
You *are* a rockstar. You did everything you could have possibly done to help him. I hope that knowledge can bring you some sort of comfort.
Remember earlier this year when I was walking behind that girl who was hit by a car? I was shaken up for days and she was absolutely fine. And I walked away knowing that.
The point is that your feelings are normal. It was a traumatic situation for everyone involved. It's going to take time to process. I hope that each day gets easier and if you want to talk it out further, please do so. We're all virtually holding your hand.
I certainly don't feel like a rock star. I just did what they told me to do. But yeah, I do know today that my feelings are normal. Last night I was still in shock, I think.
I am so sorry. I had a very similar experience - and it really changed me. I won't share details because I don't feel it would be helpful, but ... even months later when I think of it, it affects me.
Lean on people when you need to. Hugs.
I'd been having a really shitty few weeks at work and this really put that in perspective so yeah, I see how things like this can have lasting affects.
You responded really well. As someone who just went through CPR & First Aid training today, you did exactly what you could. And you remained calm when needed. You are a rock star and it's totally normal to break down and freak out afterwards. Even people who handle crises in a regular basis may freak out or break down afterwards.
I'm so sorry you had to witness that. It sounds incredibly scary. If you find it's sticking with you and making things difficult for you, don't hesitate to seek professional help. Like I said, even the professionals may need it sometimes.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Aug 28, 2014 23:58:47 GMT -5
A similar situation happened with my FIL's death and I just wanted to tell you the people on his boat who tried to help will forever hold a special place in my heart. Their trauma was on my mind amidst everything else. What you went through was awful, just awful. It will bring comfort to his loved ones that kind, good people were there and took care of him as much as they could.
Kaneen, You did the best you could. I think your cool head in this situation shows a lot about you and your character. I'm sorry for the whole situation.
Post by starrieskies on Aug 29, 2014 11:07:23 GMT -5
kaneen, Muddled has said exactly what I was feeling and has said it so perfectly that I'm not even going to try to put it in my own words. But I think it goes without saying that you are very strong and courageous. Sometimes the largest feats of strength are simply letting go and allowing yourself to be upset. Huge hugs, lady!
You *are* a rockstar. You did everything you could have possibly done to help him. I hope that knowledge can bring you some sort of comfort.
Remember earlier this year when I was walking behind that girl who was hit by a car? I was shaken up for days and she was absolutely fine. And I walked away knowing that.
The point is that your feelings are normal. It was a traumatic situation for everyone involved. It's going to take time to process. I hope that each day gets easier and if you want to talk it out further, please do so. We're all virtually holding your hand.
I certainly don't feel like a rock star. I just did what they told me to do. But yeah, I do know today that my feelings are normal. Last night I was still in shock, I think.
Most people being really, really brave are really just trying very hard not to shit their pants. What you did was incredibly brave. You helped give that man the only fighting chance he had. Since you don't have anyone else closer to him to say so, I'll say it: THANK YOU for doing what you did and helping to fight for this guy when he could not fight for himself. You are part of the proof that there are still good people in this world.