Team Green but I feel like caving

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I'm 28 weeks and while we declined to find out the sex at the 20 week anatomy scan, I really, really want to know right now. I was pretty sure I saw boy parts but not sure enough to actually pull the trigger on buying some super cute newborn things from Boden. Which I want to do right now!! I've felt the urge to buy some cute outfits for a few weeks now.

Anyone else feeling a bit of regret about not finding out? I could never admit this to DH as he really wanted to find out but I put my foot down. I didn't want to with our last pregnancy but caved because he really wanted to.

No 3D ultrasound or private places here so that isn't an option. I am having a growth ultrasound at 36 weeks so maybe I'll cave then.

[krystee]

Does the doctor or ultrasound tech mark it in your chart even when they don't tell you? It might just be a simple call to find out the sex.

[demandypants]

I feel like if you wait until 36 weeks, you may as well just wait until the baby is born. It isn't buying you that much time to "prepare" for one gender or another. That being said, I am on team find out at the anatomy scan. But I would see if your doctor knows

[mrssandro]

What was the initial reason you didn't want to find out?

I am team green and I am well past the point of wanting to find out since I made it this far. My reasons for not finding out vary from people putting pressure on me to have a boy and the fact that this is our last baby.

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krystee no they don't mark it on your chart during the anatomy scan. They don't even look unless you ask.

mrssandro This is our third and probably last baby and I wanted the surprise.

Plus, I feel like my family will be disappointed if it is a boy (lots of nephews and grandsons on both sides plus we already have two boys). Some of them can be quite, uh, vocal/blunt/rude about such things so I didn't want to hear any of it while pregnant. Feel like I can handle any of that BS better once the baby is actually in my arms.

demandypants You're right. Must stop looking at all the cute things on Boden. Done with back to school/fall shopping for my two so really no need to browse online or in store.

[megkat]

I can't relate to being team green, I'm one who wanted to know basically as soon as the stick was dry. That being said, if I had made it to 36 weeks without knowing, at that point you're so close that I think I would stick it out for just that last few weeks.

[linz]

I understand the urge to buy clothes but honestly I've found a TON of neutral clothing. Especially sleepers. And a lot of stuff I bought might look like boy things but I wouldn't hesitate to put a girl in them. Especially since I'm due in the winter so they'll be living in sleepers at first anyway. I think if you can last till 36 weeks you might as well wait until the end. I'm team green and haven't had the urge to find out. I'm too excited for the surprise

[mrssandro]

See that is the pressure I am talking about. People don't know how fustrating that is. It's so annoying. I have been telling everybody that it's a girl since that is how I am feeling about it. I would of course be thrilled with either but people should shut the heck up.

Having said that do what makes you happy. I am sure your chart has which gender it is. I know it's recorded for the doctor to see.

[rachelgreen]

I'm team green and I simply have no desire to know. I thought about finding out for DH at our NT scan but didn't. DH was glad (even though he was the one who wanted to know) because he saw how annoying people are with being TG.

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Aug 28, 2014 8:39:38 GMT -5 @pnkybrwstr said:

Aug 28, 2014 7:17:08 GMT -5 @bandwife said:

krystee no they don't mark it on your chart during the anatomy scan. They don't even look unless you ask.

They told me this, but it turned out not to be true, because when I switched midwives, the new one told me she knew what I was having from the records they sent.

We were team green w/ DS and it was truly magical to find out in the delivery room.  I really recommend holding on if you can!

@bandwife is in the UK. They won't have looked and she will be keeping her own notes on her so if it was written in her notes she could look herself.

[blushing]

I am team green, but still have no desire to find out. Last time the desire to find out kicked in at about 39 weeks, lol. But to be fair that was me being impatient and just wanting the baby here already.

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Aug 28, 2014 9:24:32 GMT -5 @pnkybrwstr said:

Aug 28, 2014 8:58:46 GMT -5 blushing said:

@bandwife is in the UK. They won't have looked and she will be keeping her own notes on her so if it was written in her notes she could look herself.

Ahhh, interesting.  Now this might be more temptation than I could handle.  

Yes, nothing in my notes.

Hoping this feeling passes and I breeze through the 36w ultrasound without asking or seeing!