ai have wedding questions, you better answe!!!!!!

[hisno1girl]

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. 

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.

Ohman, I'm so srunk

[bornbaker]

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?


Yes, to all - at least for my wedding. They wore smaller versions of what the wedding party had.


2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?


No. Do all or nothing. We tried this - we had "reserved" tables at the front for H's parents and my parents. Drama ensued. For the love of God do place cards - it's the one thing I regret not doing.


3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?


Deli tray - I treated all my BM's to Subway. Pizza is too messy and IMO you're more likely to have indigestion from pizza. We don't need to re-enact the scene from "Bridesmaids".


4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.


Minimal. I think some is ok - don't go crazy. Plus, you don't want a nip slip! 


5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY.


You want to dance with her or you want to see her dance with her father? For my wedding it was awkward (so was my first dance with H). I know I would have regretted not doing the dance, it was worth it. Plus, you can ask the DJ to invite other father/daughters to dance after a minute or so.


6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it. it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.



You have a special roll being MOB. I think it would be sweet for him to walk her down the aisle. Is there another special thing you could do with her? 

ETA: Just saw Q's post  - you could totally both walk her down! 

[suzyp]

1. Yes for all if you want/can afford. Just make sure you ask the women if they want wrist or other.
2. I'm not sure what you are asking. But assign everyone or no one. Otherwise it seems like there are tiers of guests. If you assign everyone, just give them a table and people can decide where at the table to sit.
3. Deli tray. Pizza see,s like it could unnecessarily messy
4. I say why the hell not?
5. Just dance with her at another time without all eyes on you guys?
6. Let her decide but can't you do both? Or halfway each?

[Deleted]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?

Parents, yes. Grandparents didn't. Everyone knew who the old people in the very front were.

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?
Assigned seating is best. Trust me on this one.

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?
We did a sandwich tray from Panera with salad and drinks. The girls decided how much or how little they wanted to eat. I had 3 ham and swiss sandwiches. I'm a nervous eater.

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.
This was my mom's dress for my wedding. She has A cups and felt it was just a little low cut. I think she looked perfect.


5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. 
Then dance with her! It doesn't have to be a special dance that just has the two of you on the dance floor. Just make sure the photog is there to capture the two of you together, sharing the moment.

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.
Can both of you walk her down? If dad walks her down alone, what if she stops and hugs and kisses you before he gives her away, so you still have a special moment?

Ohman, I'm so srunk

[sparkythelawyer]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. 

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.

Ohman, I'm so srunk

1.  They can, whatever you prefer.

2.  Yes, and my friend did this so that the older relatives at her wedding had a guaranteed place to sit.

3.  Deli.  Less chance of red sauce down my dress.

4.  Cleavage!  Hooray boobies!

5.  Her day, her choice.

6.  NOT YOUR CHOICE.  You need to get over this and let her do what she feels comfortable with.

[IrishBelle]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom? I think its common for all of the above. Usually its something very simple and just one bloom.

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating? This is what we did.

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone? Deli tray. Less greasy and if any of the BMs have dietary restrictions, they could skip the bread.

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me. Whatever you are comfortable with. 

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. Its her choice but you can ask her if she would like to include a dance with you. 

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it. I had my mom and dad walk me down the aisle. There is no rule that says it has to be only one person. 

Ohman, I'm so srunk

[sjh722]

1. Yes to all. I have seen MOB & MOG have a small bouquet in lieu of the corsage before.

2. I have seen tables marked "reserved" at open seating receptions before for close relatives and the officiant. I prefer assigned seating because then it's not a free-for-all of people who get there early and tip all the chairs to "reserve" tables and it eliminates wandering around the reception hall looking for empty places.

3. Sandwiches. I like that + a fruit/veggie tray + chips or other lighter stuff like that.

4. Do what you're comfortable with.

5. I have no advice here, sorry. Is her dad attending the wedding? If not, go for it. If yes, I don't have any good ideas without knowing how close/not close they are. 

6. Both of you?

[MrsPenny]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom? This is usually a preference thing. Although, I've never seen grandparents were corsages, it wouldn't be odd if they did.

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating? You can. I think most people prefer assigned seating for everyone or no assigned seats at all.

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone? I love pizza but sandwiches are less greasy. Is there anyway to ask preferences beforehand?

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me. A little bit is fine but keep it tame.

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY.  no. Lol

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it. Both of you can walk her down the aisle - win/win.

Ohman, I'm so srunk

[pantsparty]

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom? Definitely all parents of the bride and groom. I gave my grandmother a small bouquet instead of a corsage.

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating? No.

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone? Sandwiches. See if you can also get a tray with fruit/crackers/cheese. I was too anxious to eat an actual meal on my wedding day, but having stuff to nibble on was nice.

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me. How will you feel the most comfortable? I think you have said before you prefer modesty. I would not show cleavage if you're not fully comfortable, since that may make you self-conscious.

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY.  Dance with her but don't make it a dance where everyone has to watch you, LOL. Just at some time throughout the night.

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it. it will break my heart if I donth get to do it. You should both do it.

[speckledfrog]

1. We let our moms decide. My mom got a corsage and MIL got a tiny little bouquet

2. I wouldn't do reserved seating for only certain people. All or nothing. I've never been to a wedding that didn't have assigned seating.

3. Oh god, not pizza. Something not messy!

4. Yeah, baby.

5 You can still dance with her, but it doesn't need to be at a prescribed moment. Let the photographer know you'd like a shot of the two of you dancing.

6. Why not both?

[redheadk]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. 

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.

Ohman, I'm so srunk

1. Yes. My mom opted to carry a single long-stemmed rose rather than have a corsage. Whatever.
2. Yes. It's pretty common to have reserved tables for the bridal party and close family.
3. deli tray, for sure
4. a little cleavage is good  
5. So dance another dance with her. DH does not like all eyes on him, our first dance was enough dancing attention for him, so we did a simultaneous father/bride, mother/groom dance.  Would that work? Or just hit the floor with her at some point during the evening.
6. Both of you walk her down the aisle but don't hold onto her arm because that makes the center person look like a line backer. My dad walked me down the aisle and my mom met us at the end of her pew then walked up to the front with us. Just throwing it out as a possible compromise.

[TemperanceBrennan]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. 

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.

Ohman, I'm so srunk

1. I had corsages for moms and grandmas and boutonniere for the dad's grandpas. They were different than the ones for the bridal party.

2. I did not have assigned seating other than the "head" table I don't remember having any other designated tables. I'm not sure how to designate tables without assigned seating, maybe put reserved signs on the ones you want to have as designated? "reserved for MOB", etc

3. I think I would prefer sandwich shop over pizza.

4. I think it's ok to show a little cleavage.

5. I did the "father daughter" dance with my mom. My mom was a single mom and raised us by herself, even when my dad was supposedly around. I felt like she was the one who deserved to do all the "fun" dad stuff (it caused some issues with my dad, but too bad so sad for him). I think that if you and your daughter want to do the dance together, then you should. It's about having a dance with the parent who does/did so much for you, if that's your mom then I think that's who should be a part of the dance. And really, you shouldn't skip it just because it won't be with your dad. It's a nice tradition and having a mother daughter dance is just as special. Promise.

6. I had my mom walk me down the aisle. Again, she was the one who was there for me for everything, not my dad or my grandpa. She deserved the respect/"honor" of walking me down the aisle and giving me away. I think it ultimately has to be up to your daughter since it's her wedding. Is there a particular reason she isn't sure who she wants to do it? Maybe she could have both of you walk her down the aisle. That is a nice option too. Having more than one important person with you is a great option.

[venice2007]

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?
Yes

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?
Most often assigned seats. But I've been to both and either is fine

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?
Deli

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.
Some is ok

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY.
Oh that's tough. Sorry. Maybe you two can have a different special moment

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it. it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.
Can you both do it??

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[hisno1girl]

I have absolutely no recollection of making this post.

I got on here because I saw a bunch of notifications and I don't remember typing a word of this. I only had one cocktail last night!

Also, this says I made this post six hours ago which would have been right around midnight.

I'm positive that I turned in early last nigh, around 10:30.

This is so bizarre!

[ZoeHart]

Aug 28, 2014 22:03:53 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom? Yes, flowers for all. 

2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating? I think if it was a table for immediate family and spouses of the wedding party that would be fine.

3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone? Sandwiches, pizza while delicious would be greasy and heavy.

4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me. Of course, it's your dress

5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY. Have you told her that it would really mean a lot to you?

6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it.  it will break my heart if I donth get to do it. Why don't you both do it?

Ohman, I'm so srunk

[auntie]

1. When I planned my niece's wedding, we did flowers for the parents, grandparents and my family (i'm her "other mother" since my sister died). We gave the ladies options- My mom, the MOG, me all had small clutch bouquets, the other grandmothers did traditional corsages, the MOG's wife chose a boutonierre.

2. No. You can't have two classes of guests. Plus, taking care of your guests means avoiding that awkward table grab thing and you can seat like minded individuals together and even play matchmaker. At niece's wedding we had to seat the pontificating AA/NA members away from the festive drunks, the LBGT crowd away from the staunch Roman Catholics while keeping the bride's grandfather away from the FOB to avoid additional drama.

3. Easy to eat finger food that doesn't stain. I can't think of anything worse than pizza in this regard. Bagels and fruit salad seem to be the go to around here.

4. If you have good skin, a little is a good thing. I have so much sun damage it might put people off their meals.

5. I love the dance idea, but I wouldn't make it a spotlight dance.

6. Is there room for you to both walk her down the aisle? Two of my nieces walked down the aisle alone- small church, huge dress and a set of parents who struggled to get along. I walked down the aisle with DH- I like the symbolism of us approaching the ceremony together.

[Booze Raccoon]

1.  We did.
2.  Yes, table assignments only.
3.  sandwiches.  I don't want to eat greasy pizza in my dress.
4.  I don't like cleavage ON ME so I'd say no.  I have huge cans.
5.  Not your decision, sorry.  
6.  See #5.

[MixedBerryJam]

Aug 29, 2014 4:53:59 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

I have absolutely no recollection of making this post.

I got on here because I saw a bunch of notifications and I don't remember typing a word of this. I only had one cocktail last night!

Also, this says I made this post six hours ago which would have been right around midnight.

I'm positive that I turned in early last nigh, around 10:30.

This is so bizarre!

Are you taking Ambien CR? Serious question. I made hotel reservations on ambien for a trip I wasn't even taking! I had conversations with people that I have absolutely no recollection of the next day (or ever, for that matter). That stuff terrifies me now; I'll never take it again.

I only have one comment about your questions, though, since everything else has been pretty well answered. You are fucking gorgeous and you would totally rock a dress with cleavage. But other dress posts you've made have me thinking you're a wee bit modest, maybe? In which case, you really don't want to be awkwardly tugging at your top all day and night, so I'd vote for jussst this side of showing cleavage. Adventurous and special, but not crazy lowcut. KWIM?

[dragonfly08]

1. Yes, moms typically have flowers (my mom and MIL carried a hand tied flower rather than wear a corsage like my grandmother, but it's the same idea). Dads, grandfathers, groomsmen, groom usually wear boutonnieres.

2. I don't see why you couldn't designate a single table for the bridal party, parents, whomever without doing the rest assigned. I've never seen it but the weddings in my neck of the woods always have assigned tables for everyone.

3. Deli tray, absolutely. Pizza would be a nightmare of a mess.

4. Tasteful cleavage, ok. Hooker cleavage, not so much. When DHs cousin got married, the bride's mother wore a white gown that was skin tight and cut down to there. She definitely got noticed, and not in a good way!

5. I can't help much here. I think it would be great for you to dance with her, but if she'll feel awkward maybe you can agree in advance to just have the band/DJ play a special song at some point during the "regular" dancing, where you dance together but it's not spotlighted. Just be sure to tell the photographer beforehand, so s/he can get some great pictures!

6. You can both walk her down the aisle, if she's ok with that. I'm used to that...it's Jewish tradition, and I think it's a nice one. I never considered doing anything else. My ultra Greek Orthodox ILs even got on board with it at my wedding although it was totally out of their experience.

[jennistarr1]

1. yes
2. I think assigned seating works best
3. pizza please, I did chickfila trays and salad, fruit, cookies
4.  No cleavage, can you do a modesty panel and show some
5.  Do a fun fast dance!!!
6.  So you or her grandpa...you can both do it!

[cville]

1. does the MOB&MOG wear a a corsage on the day of the wedding? what about FOB and FOG? grandparents of the Bride & groom?
 Our moms both had corsages, our dads both had boutonniers.  We did a corsage for my grandmother and boutonnier for my husband's grandfather as well, because they were the cutest ever ever.


2. can is designate certain table for certain people without doing assigned seating or should everyone have assigned seating?
Wait, I'm revising here because I misunderstood.  DO NOT MAKE YOUR GUESTS CATTLE CALL RUN FOR THE HILLS, ETC.  My most preferred arrangement as a guest is for everyone to have an assigned TABLE, but no assigned SEATS.  Don't make me hunt for a table; don't force me to sit next to your weird cousin.


3. If you were a BM in a wedding and needed to be fed at some point early during tht day would you prefer a deli tray from a local great sand which shop! or would you want pizzas for everyone?
 Pizza.


4. I can decide if I should show cleavage in my MOB dress or. not. The seamstress is waiting for a decision from me.
 Cleavage, tastefully.


5 I really think DD is going to forgo the father/daughter dance because she doesn't want it it to be awkward, BUT I always DREAMED OF DANCING WITH HER ON HER SPECIAL DAY.
 You'll have to let her lead this.  I didn't want to be out there all by myself so we did a combo father/daughter, mother/son dance with my husband and his mom.


6. A?he still can't decide whi is walking her down the aise - either me or my dad. I know it would break his heart if he didn't do it. it will break my heart if I donth get to do it.
  She's the boss of this one too.  I say she should walk herself, alone half way, then you all should join her, one on either arm for the other half of the way.  /gavel or, if you prefer, /shoe

[cville]

Aug 29, 2014 4:53:59 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

I have absolutely no recollection of making this post.

I got on here because I saw a bunch of notifications and I don't remember typing a word of this. I only had one cocktail last night!

Also, this says I made this post six hours ago which would have been right around midnight.

I'm positive that I turned in early last nigh, around 10:30.

This is so bizarre!

Yes, but we're being helpful, so be glad you did!