Yes. If it was a person I knew had no communicable diseases and wasn't on medication. Pumped milk over formula if it was available, mostly because Carter has never had it and I doubt he'd take it. Yes, I'd BF if permitted.
Is my child in the custody of the "average" probie? Yes.
I would BF another baby, no problem. I would only let another woman BF my child if it was my sister or one of my not-blood-but-blood sisters, and only then in extreme, dire circumstances.
I would do both. I think we see it as special mother/child bonding only because that's the only way we do it in our culture - we're not biologically programmed to think that way. I've actually been in several situations where I was caring for a neighbor's baby and the baby was losing its shit and I really wanted to nurse to comfort him or her. But I would never be the one to bring it up, and I would also feel weird telling a friend to go ahead and breastfeed K if he was really upset. Which is why it will never happen - I can't overcome the cultural taboo of just bringing it up in the first place.
In terms of nutrition, I wouldn't care if K got formula vs breastmilk. For me the switcharoo would be most helpful when he needed extra comforting/calming.
I would do both. I think we see it as special mother/child bonding only because that's the only way we do it in our culture - we're not biologically programmed to think that way. I've actually been in several situations where I was caring for a neighbor's baby and the baby was losing its shit and I really wanted to nurse to comfort him or her. But I would never be the one to bring it up, and I would also feel weird telling a friend to go ahead and breastfeed K if he was really upset. Which is why it will never happen - I can't overcome the cultural taboo of just bringing it up in the first place.
In terms of nutrition, I wouldn't care if K got formula vs breastmilk. For me the switcharoo would be most helpful when he needed extra comforting/calming.
I've definitely been holding a friends screaming baby and thought it would be so easy to just breast feed him and he'd stop crying! But as you say the taboo is strong so even mentioning it i would feel like a weirdo
I definitely would breast feed a friends baby with permission and would be fine with a close friend breast feeding my baby and would prefer it to formula
So my bff postponed her wedding when she found out she was pregnant. She had the wedding later and weaned her daughter the couple weeks before. Her daughter was just over 1 year.
During the wedding, her mother (brides mother) was supposed to watch her daughter for her. Except, she got drunk, never changed her diaper, lost her milk and bottles, and non of us could find them anywhere. It was a disaster. My friend couldn't nurse her because her milk was gone after weaning and she wouldnt eat any food, she was just screaming and there was only soda, beer and wine to be found. So, our good friend ended up taking her into the bathroom to nurse her. She latched right on and nursed for a long time.
It was not something I think either of them would have considered until the situation was happening and there wasn't really any other options! They laugh about it now. Their husbands were really grossed out.