Engagement party gift?

[kittyb]

Does one bring a gift to an engagement party? If so, what kind? I have never been to one before, and am unsure about what to bring (or not bring). The couple does not live together and (as far as I know) have no plans to move in together before the wedding next summer.

Thoughts?

[ECB]

I'd take a bottle of champagne, perhaps. Personally I have an issue w/ too many gift giving parties for one event. Engagement, shower, and wedding? No, you're not getting 3 gifts from me. Yes, I'm scroogy.

[elleblue]

A nice bottle of champagne. 

[snickers]

I always bring wine...

[kittyb]

Aug 29, 2014 19:59:27 GMT -5 ECB said:

I'd take a bottle of champagne, perhaps. Personally I have an issue w/ too many gift giving parties for one event. Engagement, shower, and wedding? No, you're not getting 3 gifts from me. Yes, I'm scroogy.

I completely agree. I'll probably be invited to the bachelorette party too, so I have to factor that in as well.

[kittyb]

Aug 29, 2014 21:02:55 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

Aug 29, 2014 21:01:00 GMT -5 oceanspray said:

I don't think you buy anything for a bachelorette party.

ohhhh all the bachelorette parties I've been to recently have included lingerie showers. Separate from the regular showers, in addition to food and drinks and whatever for the day/night.

So much money. 

Agreed. The last one I went to was pretty low-key, but I still ended up spending $200+. 

[ECB]

Aug 29, 2014 20:59:40 GMT -5 kittyb said:

Aug 29, 2014 19:59:27 GMT -5 ECB said:

I'd take a bottle of champagne, perhaps. Personally I have an issue w/ too many gift giving parties for one event. Engagement, shower, and wedding? No, you're not getting 3 gifts from me. Yes, I'm scroogy.

I completely agree. I'll probably be invited to the bachelorette party too, so I have to factor that in as well.

b-parties are NOT gift giving events. No!!!!!!! ?

[ghost]

I have given hand towels (2 usually) with their last initial on it...They have them at BBB and are like 4.50 each. Cheap, thoughtful and useful. They are neutral in color. Usually white towels with beige monogram. Perfect gift. She will be excited to get something with the new initial.

or a nice bottle of wine. WHO DOESN'T LOVE WINE!!!??

[cereal K]

i don't think i've ever been invited to an engagement party...but i would def do wine/champagne and a card.

[Jenniatonu]

Aug 29, 2014 19:59:27 GMT -5 ECB said:

I'd take a bottle of champagne, perhaps. Personally I have an issue w/ too many gift giving parties for one event. Engagement, shower, and wedding? No, you're not getting 3 gifts from me. Yes, I'm scroogy.

I was in a wedding once, where she had all three of the above. And a bachelorette party. Where a gift was required, per the invitation.

At the bachelorette party, a good friend and I split the cost for an expensive bottle of liquor her fiance said she loved. When we gave it to her,  the first thing she said was "Why did you get me this?" No, she didn't like the liquor. Her fiance did, and she drank it because of him. HOW WERE WE TO KNOW? Ungrateful brat.

Thankfully I skipped the shower, since I was 7 months pregnant, and it was at a winery. I was not putting myself through that hell.

The wedding was when I was 2 months pp. She required us to attend the engagement party, because we were to get sized AND HAD to order dresses from this store in her home-town. I explained I live 8 hours away, 4 months pregnant, and had no idea how big I would be 2months pp. I was going to just get a dress 2 sizes bigger than usual and be good.

She threw a hissy fit. I went. When we got to David's bridal (LO FUCKING L) she didn't even know what dress yet we were to get. She didn't make up her mind until a few months later.

(I am also jaded as my MOH didn't throw me a shower since my family lived in a different state than my friends/me/my college. It was "too much work". )

[janiejones]

Well, you could give a hamburger patty, but I myself much prefer the classic peppermint patty.

[kittyb]

Aug 29, 2014 21:30:56 GMT -5 Jenniatonu said:

Aug 29, 2014 19:59:27 GMT -5 ECB said:

I'd take a bottle of champagne, perhaps. Personally I have an issue w/ too many gift giving parties for one event. Engagement, shower, and wedding? No, you're not getting 3 gifts from me. Yes, I'm scroogy.

I was in a wedding once, where she had all three of the above. And a bachelorette party. Where a gift was required, per the invitation.

At the bachelorette party, a good friend and I split the cost for an expensive bottle of liquor her fiance said she loved. When we gave it to her,  the first thing she said was "Why did you get me this?" No, she didn't like the liquor. Her fiance did, and she drank it because of him. HOW WERE WE TO KNOW? Ungrateful brat.

Thankfully I skipped the shower, since I was 7 months pregnant, and it was at a winery. I was not putting myself through that hell.

The wedding was when I was 2 months pp. She required us to attend the engagement party, because we were to get sized AND HAD to order dresses from this store in her home-town. I explained I live 8 hours away, 4 months pregnant, and had no idea how big I would be 2months pp. I was going to just get a dress 2 sizes bigger than usual and be good.

She threw a hissy fit. I went. When we got to David's bridal (LO FUCKING L) she didn't even know what dress yet we were to get. She didn't make up her mind until a few months later.

(I am also jaded as my MOH didn't throw me a shower since my family lived in a different state than my friends/me/my college. It was "too much work". )

I'm pretty sure David's Bridal has some of the worst customer service. That plus what you've mentioned above = nightmare. I do love that it just HAD to be that David's Bridal, because you know they don't exist anywhere else. 

That's awful about your shower

[kittyb]

Aug 29, 2014 21:32:03 GMT -5 janiejones said:

Well, you could give a hamburger patty, but I myself much prefer the classic peppermint patty.

I could switch it up completely and go with the Fillet-O-Fish. 

[kittyb]

Aug 29, 2014 21:21:17 GMT -5 ECB said:

Aug 29, 2014 20:59:40 GMT -5 kittyb said:

I completely agree. I'll probably be invited to the bachelorette party too, so I have to factor that in as well.

b-parties are NOT gift giving events. No!!!!!!! ?

Depends on who's hosting the party.

[lindsaymg]

My go to gift is new monogram coasters.

[kirra]

In my area engagement parties aren't gift giving occasions. I think we got gifts from a couple of people who knew they wouldn't be at the wedding, and we got a few bottles of wine.