Yes, but I work part time on the weekends and they come while I'm at work. Sometimes we all have dinner together when I get home. Also I like them and wouldn't see them neatly as often if I didn't
Well I'm in a unique situation where my in-laws live in Florida 7-8 months a year and the other 4-5 they live in our in-law apt so we see them everyday in the summer. My mom lives 1mile away and the baby and I see her at least twice a week while DH is at work.. DH only sees her at church and probably every other week or so on another day. We like our parents/In-laws though so it's not really a problem.
Mine are about 1 hour and 45 minutes away and think they need to see us every weekend. We've finally got it down to about once or twice a month and it's still a lot.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Aug 31, 2014 15:50:24 GMT -5
OK. So with the edit - use this to your advantage.
"Oh, MIL! I'm so glad you want to come over. PLEASE do. I'd love to get out and make a Target/Kroger/shopping run without the baby."
"Yes, PERFECT. I could really use a nap, and baby just loves walks around the neighborhood."
"Definitely! I've been meaning to head over to see DotAndBuzz and drink wine on her porch/join her for the next OSU game on TV. I'll be back in a few hours."
My mom probably sees them once a week on average, because she is my lifesaver and babysits all.the.time.
We live 12 minutes from my H's parents and they've seen them maybe 3-4 times all summer . And that was Father's Day and my DD2's 1st bday party included.
OK. So with the edit - use this to your advantage.
"Oh, MIL! I'm so glad you want to come over. PLEASE do. I'd love to get out and make a Target/Kroger/shopping run without the baby."
"Yes, PERFECT. I could really use a nap, and baby just loves walks around the neighborhood."
"Definitely! I've been meaning to head over to see DotAndBuzz and drink wine on her porch/join her for the next OSU game on TV. I'll be back in a few hours."
This is totally what I do. In fact, MIL is currently walking the baby around the neighborhood.
My in laws and my parents both live 10min away, we all get along, and once a month is typical unless there is a holiday or birthday involved. Ain't nobody got time for more.
Post by birdistheword on Aug 31, 2014 15:58:04 GMT -5
Lol no. I love my inlaws (most of the time), but hell no. I don't even know if that would change if we had kids. They are retired and on vacation like 80% of the time.
Post by dragonfly08 on Aug 31, 2014 16:04:40 GMT -5
I don't live near my parents.
My sister does, however. And I know that my mom complains about how my sister "never has time for us" on weekends, and if mom goes two or three weekends without seeing my niece and nephews it's some major tragedy and mom is put out. I'm incredibly thankful that I don't have to deal with that.
My ILs live right near my SIL and nephew. They do see each other a lot especially b/c the ILs helped a lot with childcare over the years since SIL divorced when nephew was a toddler. My MIL is great, though, and not pushy about it. If we did live near her, as much as she adores my girls and loves seeing them, she would 1) wait to be invited, and 2) not be at all put out if we were busy on any given weekend.
My parents live 1 street over and we see them a couple of times a month. MIL lives about a mile away and we see her the same amount. No one just drops by anymore since we nipped that in the bud.
Though, we did proactively start planning a family dinner on the first Sunday of the month so we see them at least once a month. That helped with the whole "we never see you" stuff.
My in laws watch my kids one day a week. It really didn't save us that much in daycare costs, but it's been a great compromise bc they get a weekly dose of the grand kids without us having to rearrange any of our weekend/ evening time.
My parents are also local. My mom will often take my son for the afternoon after Sunday school. They don't see the kids as much in the summer bc they are super busy with work.
No one actually cares about seeing my husband and I. So as long as we work out for them to see the kids regularly, they are happy.
We've just moved to the same suburb my MIL lives in, and we will probably see her weekly for a while - or at least every other week. I don't mind seeing her for a short visit; it is actually preferable to coming in from out of town and needing to spend a lot of quality time together. I'm also guessing that the visits will become less frequent over time.
Post by textbookcase on Aug 31, 2014 16:27:50 GMT -5
We do seem to see both sets of our parents at least once a week or so, but there are definitely times we go longer. I don't think it's necessarily "expected" but it happens a lot. My parents are in the same small town as us so we see them a lot, H's parents are 30 mins away and we usually have dinner w them on Monday nights
We live in the same city as both our parents. We typically do see them every weekend. It can be hard, but I appreciate the relationship he has with them because of it.
No, but I don't think they want to see us that often either. Lol....
We don't have time and they do their own thing too. We email all the time and get along well. I'd say in the summer once a month, during hockey season every weekend but they come to the rink.
My in-laws live about 40 miles away and I see them probably 4 times a year. I see my parents (60 miles away) more frequently and my husband sees his parents more often than I see him parents. We don't have kids, but in no world would I be okay with seeing either set of parents weekly. No way.