I am so, so sorry. I lost my dad when DS was three weeks old. It's okay to feel numb, don't feel as though you need to process things a certain way, or focus on how you "should" feel. I know we don't know each other, but feel free to PM me if you just need someone to talk to.
Oh my, I am so sorry for your loss, and your daughter's. I lost my Dad when I was 8 month pregnant - just take it minute by minute in the beginning. ((hugs))