I know I'm only one day overdue, but I just found out that both of the people I know IRL who had a due date within a day of mine have given birth, as well as someone with a due date a week later. I am getting so impatient, and wish I had stopped working so I could at least be off doing something I enjoy rather than feeling chained to my computer.
I had an appointment with a different MFM in the practice today and really liked him. I know some people don't like the idea of rotating doctors, but I've found it really beneficial both times. He spent 30 minutes with me discussing delivery options and talking through a repeat c/s vs. trying for VBAC and I really feel like I can make an informed decision now.
The professional pictures from my sister's wedding came in last night (a week and a half after the wedding so very little editing). My mom made the two BM dresses for me and my other sister. She had to do a ton of altering to keep mine from looking like a sack. I thought I was looking OK with a cute baby bump but I guess not. I wish I should have stood behind more people. Now these photos will be hanging on people's walls for forever.
I was in a wedding beginning of august and I hate how I looked. I thought I was cute in person but the pics look awful. I didnt have a cute round belly like I do now so I just looked big.
That stinks! There isn't much you can do about timing to look good pregnant at a wedding. I had a nice round belly you just couldn't see it under the big loose dress. I just wish she would have let me buy the maternity dress that I wanted and figured out some way to make it work for my non-pregnant sister who was the other BM.
Anatomy scan from hell today. Baby's measuring 9 days back, has "bright" intestines and apparently only 2 of 3 arteries/veins in the umbilical cord. Separately these may not be issues, but together, there's a problem and the placenta may not be functioning properly to give the baby all the nutrients it needs. So now we have to go see a genetic counselor tomorrow to talk about possible Down Syndrome and other genetic causes. Even though my DS risk after the NT scan and blood test was super low. And the baby has been measuring a bit ahead in every other scan. And I didn't even get a gender confirm, so literally nothing positive came out of this appt.
I just can't anymore. Just when I was getting comfortable after almost 3 FUCKING YEARS OF TRYING TO HAVE A BABY. Just when I started to let myself look at cribs, make appts for birthing classes, do all that fun stuff. No. Shot down. I'm just so emotionally spent from this entire process, I can't even do it anymore.
Oh, and we're supposed to be closing on a house in 3 weeks, which is not just a major financial change, but also a major life change from city to suburban living that is supposed to be all about this baby. And now - who knows, we might not get a baby.
I hope everything turns out fine and this bad ultrasound was just a fluke. Hopefully the genetic counselor will be able to give you some more info and peace of mind tomorrow. Can they do another ultrasound to check things again in a week or two? Or could they send you to a MFM for an ultrasound, since they have better equipment?
I'll be praying for you and your H and your little babe.
{{{hugs}}} genet313 I hope you get some answers tomorrow at the genetic counselor, or at least a good path forward on how to find out soonest about what may be going on.
Sending lots of thoughts and prayers for You, Your H and baby! Please keep us updated, and we are here if you just need to talk!
Fuck genet313. I have been through the bad ultrasound -> genetic issue wormhole and it fucking blows. I am so sorry you're dealing with this. Please PM me if you ever want to talk or if there's anything I can do to help. Unfortunately there are a lot of us who have dealt with this type of crap, although the outcomes have been all over the map including several ladies who ended up with healthy babies. I know how bleak things look right now but try to keep your head above water until you get more definitive answers.
I'm sorry your appt wasn't great genet313 and I hope you're able to get some good information from the genetic counselor tomorrow. My DS risk went way up after my NT bloodwork and I found the counselor to be very helpful - I hope your experience is similar.
Sending many thoughts to you and really hoping everything is okay.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Sept 3, 2014 21:52:38 GMT -5
Lots of ((hugs)) genet313. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this- it absolutely sucks and isn't fair. I'm praying for you and your little baby- prayers for answers tomorrow and a healthy baby.
Hugs, genet313. We got some shitty news during our ultrasound too (arms and legs still measuring behind, possible Down Syndrome, possible congenital condition called Dandy Walker Syndrome). I thought the meeting today w/ the MFM would give us some answers, but all it did was give more questions, especially because I am so far along that they had a hard time getting clear pictures of everything and couldn't give any definitive answers, including if there really is something wrong. I am doing the maternit21 test and the baby will have to have an MRI after it is born, to get a better look at the brain.
It is just so fucking frustrating. I am really thinking that IF was the universe's way of telling me not to have kids. We tried for 2.5 years and finally got pregnant. I spent the first half of pregnancy an anxious mess, because I was so afraid that I would lose the baby and the second half an anxious mess that something is wrong with the baby (due to a series of questionable ultrasounds). Today's results have taken away my ability to even be excited and now I am just a worried, emotional wreck.
Sorry to make this about me. I just know what a shitty place you are in.
Hugs, genet313. We got some shitty news during our ultrasound too (arms and legs still measuring behind, possible Down Syndrome, possible congenital condition called Dandy Walker Syndrome). I thought the meeting today w/ the MFM would give us some answers, but all it did was give more questions, especially because I am so far along that they had a hard time getting clear pictures of everything and couldn't give any definitive answers, including if there really is something wrong. I am doing the maternit21 test and the baby will have to have an MRI after it is born, to get a better look at the brain.
It is just so fucking frustrating. I am really thinking that IF was the universe's way of telling me not to have kids. We tried for 2.5 years and finally got pregnant. I spent the first half of pregnancy an anxious mess, because I was so afraid that I would lose the baby and the second half an anxious mess that something is wrong with the baby (due to a series of questionable ultrasounds). Today's results have taken away my ability to even be excited and now I am just a worried, emotional wreck.
Sorry to make this about me. I just know what a shitty place you are in.
I'm so, so sorry Kara. And please do not apologize for sharing your grief - right now, it really makes me feel better to know I'm not alone, even though I'm so heartbroken for you and for me. It's just the biggest slap in the face after IF, isn't it? I still believe in your baby and in my baby, no matter what the outcomes are. Do you have any other follow up other than the maternit21 test? Further scans?
Hugs, genet313. We got some shitty news during our ultrasound too (arms and legs still measuring behind, possible Down Syndrome, possible congenital condition called Dandy Walker Syndrome). I thought the meeting today w/ the MFM would give us some answers, but all it did was give more questions, especially because I am so far along that they had a hard time getting clear pictures of everything and couldn't give any definitive answers, including if there really is something wrong. I am doing the maternit21 test and the baby will have to have an MRI after it is born, to get a better look at the brain.
It is just so fucking frustrating. I am really thinking that IF was the universe's way of telling me not to have kids. We tried for 2.5 years and finally got pregnant. I spent the first half of pregnancy an anxious mess, because I was so afraid that I would lose the baby and the second half an anxious mess that something is wrong with the baby (due to a series of questionable ultrasounds). Today's results have taken away my ability to even be excited and now I am just a worried, emotional wreck.
Sorry to make this about me. I just know what a shitty place you are in.
I'm so, so sorry Kara. And please do not apologize for sharing your grief - right now, it really makes me feel better to know I'm not alone, even though I'm so heartbroken for you and for me. It's just the biggest slap in the face after IF, isn't it? I still believe in your baby and in my baby, no matter what the outcomes are. Do you have any other follow up other than the maternit21 test? Further scans?
Right now, we are just going to do the mat21 test. They offered an amnio, but w/ the baby coming in a month-ish, I just don't see the point. At least the mat21 will hopefully get us some answers and is non-invasive. Pending the results, we will find out the next steps. Because I am so far along, we may just have to wait until the baby is born and then do testing when it is here.