Post by alicenelson on Sept 7, 2014 18:16:17 GMT -5
When H went back to work, it was heaven on earth. I don't think I turned the tv on for the first three nights. I just sat in the quietness of the living room and read. Heaven, I tell ya.
yes, I enjoy silence, especially in the morning when I am the only one awake. FI is from a loud Southern Italian family and hates silence. He must always have music playing.
Not silence necessarily, but I crave the ability to walk from point A to point B without accidentally kicking someone/something, stepping on a toe, or tripping over a toy. It frustrates me to no end that I can't walk at a normal pace in my home.
I swear I have to do the stingray shuffle just to avoid falling to my death from tripping on someone.
Yes, when I'm at home, 90% of the time I'm in silence. I love it. I'm sure it helps that I don't have kids or a SO It's definitely nice most of the time.
Oh yes. It is constant noise/chatter/chaos during all parts of my day. Even right now, I sit in my office alone and everyone that walks by bangs on my door or randomly yells in to me. Sometimes I feel like a bitch because they are just being nice and saying hi.
Every day at lunch I walk the miles circle around my work alone. No talking, music etc...it helps. I also drive home with the music off in the car until I pick up the kids. Sometimes that helps.
ETA: Posted too soon. I meant to also add that I feel like constant noise contributes to my anxiety. H thinks this is an over reaction on my part and it's one of the main things we fight about. He is the total opposite.
Yes, this has actually been the hardest adjustment to parenting (esp. SAH parenting) for me. The constant noise. Non-stop, relentless noise. Talking, crying, whining, toys, music, TV, dog barking etc. That and the touching and always having someone or something on top of me, touching me. I am severely overstimulated by the end of the day and often stay up later than everyone, with everything turned off but the computer (volume muted), just to decompress.
Yes. I work from home on Tuesdays, and the best part is the absolute silence in the house. Second place is the first half hour after the kids are in bed when DH and I go off to our own corners and not talk to each other at all. We both need the quiet time by that point in the day.
YES. Quiet is really important for me to recharge. Im not a hermit by any means but Interacting w people for long stretches (parties, teaching) really exhaust me.
I don't have kids yet, but I worry about how it will work then. H is seriously the chattiest person ever and it's annoying sometimes, lol. We're pretty good about respecting each others preferences but sometimes I have to specifically ask him for quiet time. I feel bad but that's just what works for me
Prepare yourself. The apple in this house didn't fall far from the chatty tree. My son literally never shuts up - just like his father. And my husband talks to himself so even when he is 'respecting my quiet time' he's yammering to himself somewhere and I can hear him even when he's outside. And children have no respect for anything!
I really envy the quiet time in the car. I have .8 seconds from the time a question ends to answer it or it's immediately followed with 'why aren't you answering me?'.
I also enjoy silence in the car. Every other weekend when DH takes my SDs back to their mom I make him take DS too. I get 2 hours of quiet. Unfortunately my dogs hear imaginary noises and bark at them but I get a decent amount of quiet during that time.
Yes. When I'm home by myself, I rarely have music or the TV on. And the most peaceful part of my day is when my son falls asleep and I'm still in bed next to him. I always lay there for awhile longer for some quiet time.
Last year my DH went on a camping trip for the weekend. I honestly still daydream about that weekend how awesome it was. I woke up to a silent house on Saturday and Sunday. I didn't turn the tv on once. I got up, made coffee, read, and did a Felicity marathon on Netflix. I put on my green face mask, ate ice cream for dinner and didn't have to talk to anyone not in person or the phone. It was over a year ago and I still think about it, lol.
Yeah I hit the wall by about 7:30pm. I just want to go under the covers and be by myself. I barely have the patience to read a bedtime story at that point.
Post by Captain Serious on Sept 8, 2014 10:56:22 GMT -5
Yes. It takes so much effort and energy to understand J, I frequently just give him stock responses without even trying to really listen to his stories. Anything else would be draining.
Post by imhischeeseburger on Sept 8, 2014 12:48:41 GMT -5
My 5yr old DD NEVER stops talking. Everyday when the baby is napping we have quiet time and she goes upstairs to play in her room. That hour is glorious.